Suhana is neither Rano nor Radha

An eye opening episode.

Disappointed by Suhana as she hasn't understood her mistake yet.

And the end segment was very enlighting when Inder told Rajni to be like Badi Maa and in return Rajni replied that " she does try but Suhana is neither Rano nor Radha".

I just don't understand a point, why everybody expects responsibilty from Rajni and Disha only??? Why don't they have expectations from Suhana?? Is she a VIP or what??

There were some valid points raised by Rajni. One of them was
"Suhana ne is ghar ki bahu ki haisiyat se aaj tak kya kiya hai"? i.e. what has Suhana done for this house after marriage.

Inder expects Rajni to bind this house with her love. Is it Rajni's responsibility alone? Doesn't Suhana need to contribute in this? If Rajni is angry with Suhana, then there must be some valid reason( considering Rajni is more logical than Suhana). Why don't they tell Suhana to be more responsible?? If she is unable to contribute with household work( which is not a big worry issue) atleast she can make sure that she takes care of them emotionally, which is not a big ask.

I am disappointed with Rajini. Does she think her behavior was correct? Was it okay for her insult Suhana in front of the entire family? Her anger was justified but her bahavior was rotten. She was acting like spoiled teenager. She should of handle the situation better. She spewing all these posion about Suhana - to me makes her a ugly person inside.

She is no BM either - so she shouldn' t be judging Suhana. BM would explain to Suhana and teach Suhana what is right and wrong. All Ragini does is make faces and insult Suhana behind her back.

hmm she is neither rano nor radha bua but she has qualities which these two don't.

The people who have encouraged Suhana to be like this are the same Disha and Rajni. They have never expected her or asked her to take up the responsibilities of a daughter in law of the house. Badi Maa would have taught her to be a good daughter-in-law and told her what responsibilities she would have to take up.

There is no point in blaming Suhana for the behaviour which Rajni herself has been enabling all this time. Now suddenly Rajni is finding problems with this. This is very unfair on Suhana. She should be telling her to take up the responsibilities with love, not in this manner.

Originally posted by: Ipepe

hmm she is neither rano nor radha bua but she has qualities which these two don't.

I totally agree with you. Who is always in a pleasant mood? Who has withstood not one, but two tragedies in her life recently? Suhanna has the ability to smile through things that would make most people shatter. How about finding out that you're not pregnant, but have a brain tumor, which could kill you? How about recovering from that and your husband doesn't know who the heck you are? Not once throughout her tumor or Ishaan's memory loss did she lash out at Disha or Rajni, even though they made her a joke by calling her Shashikala? I have never liked Rajni and I'm beginning to feel the same about Disha. If you have something to say, say it calmly and lovingly. You can't spew out venom just because you're upset. And especially if the other person doesn't know what is going on. And this thing with expecting Suhanna to know how others feel is stupid. She just got her husband back, who has time for everyone else's feelings? When is she supposed to notice Rajni and Disha when her own husband just recently recognized her?😡 I love this show so much but it definitely shows the PROS and most defintely the CONS of a joint family.

Originally posted by: arch_nat1112

The people who have encouraged Suhana to be like this are the same Disha and Rajni. They have never expected her or asked her to take up the responsibilities of a daughter in law of the house. Badi Maa would have taught her to be a good daughter-in-law and told her what responsibilities she would have to take up.

There is no point in blaming Suhana for the behaviour which Rajni herself has been enabling all this time. Now suddenly Rajni is finding problems with this. This is very unfair on Suhana. She should be telling her to take up the responsibilities with love, not in this manner.

In blue..
No offense to your views, but Badi Maa has been trying to do this for whole one year, and I guess Suhana haven't responded to that yet. Atleast not in the case of being a good daughter in law and about responsibilties. She cannot afford to take that much time to learn things because everyone is not Badi Maa with loads of patience. I am sure Badi Maa never faced any situation like this with Rano or Radha Bua that is why they have lived with such harmony till date. Those three legends are always up to the mark when it comes to responsibilties but not in the case of Suhana..

Like children shouldn't take it offended when parents scold them, Suhana should take it amiss if Rajni scolds her ( after all she is elder to her) because I don't think Rajni is "ladakoo"
I hope you take my reply as a healthy post :)

Originally posted by: zak_ris

An eye opening episode.

Disappointed by Suhana as she hasn't understood her mistake yet.

And the end segment was very enlighting when Inder told Rajni to be like Badi Maa and in return Rajni replied that " she does try but Suhana is neither Rano nor Radha".

I just don't understand a point, why everybody expects responsibilty from Rajni and Disha only??? Why don't they have expectations from Suhana?? Is she a VIP or what??

There were some valid points raised by Rajni. One of them was
"Suhana ne is ghar ki bahu ki haisiyat se aaj tak kya kiya hai"? i.e. what has Suhana done for this house after marriage.

Inder expects Rajni to bind this house with her love. Is it Rajni's responsibility alone? Doesn't Suhana need to contribute in this? If Rajni is angry with Suhana, then there must be some valid reason( considering Rajni is more logical than Suhana). Why don't they tell Suhana to be more responsible?? If she is unable to contribute with household work( which is not a big worry issue) atleast she can make sure that she takes care of them emotionally, which is not a big ask.

My point of view here is exactly what badima had said but even though I am not siding with Suhana, I would say there is a way to present oneself and make ur opinion count. What Rajini did was not right. She had issues with Suhana, she needed to talk to Suhana and explain her things. It's like how if Badima has problems with any one person of the family, she doesn't bursts out in front of everyone. She takes them in one place and talks to them one-on-one. I am not saying that Suhana should not take up responsibilities of the family. She should! but there is a way of telling things and explaining situations. Lets not forget Suhana's background. She has NEVER done anything in life till her marriage. It took her ages to realize her love for Ishaan so it will take her time to realize and understand her responsibilities. Mind you, a lot of times when Suhana wants to do something like cooking or anything, everyone in the family INCLUDING Rajini and Disha make fun of her and don't allow her to do stuff. Suhana is a very sensitive girl and as Badima said she has a very pure heart like water it's very clear. She doesn't pretend or hide things. She is always sensitive towards the pain of any family member. Who fought for Dadaji's pension? Who was concerned about finding Ronak? Who is always there for Badima? Who wished and made Ishaan wish Rano and Alok on their Anniversary? Who understood Radha's pain? Who helped Deepak get along in the family? I mean I can go on. The way Suhana feels and helps people is very different from what others in teh family do. Yes! Suhana is at fault b/c she wasn't able to completely understand emotions but can you really blame a person for that?

Disha's response was understandable, it was mean, but understandable given that she is in ALOT of grief, but Rajni shuda not raised her voice, really if she has a problem she could talk it out with Suhana later, not raise her voice when there was already so much tension. And Badi ma herself has said she like Suhana to be the way she is, its like they want Suhana to change out of nowhere, doesn't she need help? Like someone should explain to her, cuz i haven't seen much of anyone trying to teach her things, unless she herself asks for help, like when she asked badi Ma how to knit... She comes from a totally different place, she doesn't understand this is how it is, they pampered her so she thinks its supposed to be this way... their fault, they wanna fix it, try talking to her, not complaining behind her back! I thought Disha came out as the better person and wanted to apologize, though an apology isn't much needed by her... still better than Rajni's response...