I hated today's episode - Page 4

Originally posted by: Nach_Baliye

Dude, clearly we are watching different shows and have different sets of values. So what if RB cooks good food for Suhana? Does that give her a right to slap? I don't think so, dude. Suhana is irresponsible towards the family and insensitive to their feelings, but that is not the situation here - the situation is that Suhana was slapped and she did not even do anything wrong. You are connecting two totally separate situations - RB deserves to be rewarded for cooking for Suhana, I guess, or Suhana should give something back. But again, the slapping incident has nothing to do with RB's cooking or being rewarded for the same.

Regarding soap operas and the general acceptance of slapping, the thing is, I don't watch these crappy soaps. I cannot stand saas-bahu type typical serials where people are free to slap and insult and family members die and return, remarry, and try to trip each other at every step. I don't want any of these shows - I do watch Pratigya and SGP.

Technically, slapping is domestic violence any which way you see it or interpret it. It is technically domestic violence - regardless of whether the one slapping is a man or a woman. In Suhana's case, it was not just the violent action - it was the humiliation and "crowd" mentality where no elder stood up for her and kept telling her to forget it. After that, whatever RB did, to me, seemed fake. First she cries and blames Suhana for provoking her. Then she persuades Suhana to stay (mind you, she does not say sorry). Then she goes to Badi maa and tries to be a martyr saying that Suhana has a greater right over the house and that she (RB) should leave. Does she not know from the 20 years she has spent with them that they will stop her and tell her that it is wrong of her to think that way? Yet she plays the martyr? RB had good intentions, but it cannot be denied that she is a very selfish woman, who was taken in by a family she was not related to and yet cannot even love her own son. Honestly, the scene where she tells Badi maa no need to give Deepak new clothes, and seeing tears in Deepak's eyes broke my heart -- it really did. And RB could not even feel that much?

I would say, put yourself in Suhana's shoes. If you are married, think how you would feel in her situation if someone in your in-laws' family slaps you in front of everyone and your hubby behaves like a coward. RB's state of mind does not matter - so what if she regretted and apologized? Suhana still forgave her very easily and it was irresponsible on other elders part to not say anything to RB. You can care as much as you want, but if you slap someone clearly you don't care and your words are just that - words.

It sucks that even though the show makers are doing an awesome job in storytelling but still some people are unable to grasp the point.

I guess you just can't please everyone.

I'm sorry you feel that way about the show/the characters. I still think you're missing the main point of the show, which is basically that you forgive and forget, you move on and just let your loved ones know that you love them. For me that's the beauty of this show, the fact that the family can come out of these situations with a smile on their faces and a bond stronger than ever.

The point is to not get too involved with these everyday circumstances and look at the bigger picture. In the bigger scheme of things, what's more important...who's fault it is? Who got punished? Or the happiness and unity of the family? In the bigger scheme of things, is this incident really that big a deal?

Anyways, I don't think there's any point in this discussion when we clearly view this show differently.

Wow I loved everyones POV

@Nachbaliye and others who detested the fact that Suhana was not supported by Ishaan or anyone else, have you ever given a thought as to whether it is possible for any Indian middle class family to tolerate a spoilt brat like Suhana ??? If you think it is not a great thing then I'm sorry my dear; either you are not married or you are not brought up in India.

Originally posted by: sevak

So much reaction & sympathies for Suhana.... What about Ishaan's humiliation & suffering when his new bride claimed - "I was supposed to be married to 'rich & famous' & not to YOU.... " Incidently since we knowthat weare watching a serial & know in the end "aal wil be wel", we are not bothered. But for what Suhana did to Ishaan & his family (she'll still in the family just to prove her own point..) and the agony that Ishaan is going through even now, I feel Suhana needs to face some harsh realities in life. I'm married & putting myself in Suhana's shoes, I cannot imagine being overbearingly interfering in my husband's relatives private life without even knowing them well enough. If everybody in the family is concerned about something, one should at least try to sort things out instead of saying - 'bhaad mein jaye sab- I'll do things my way"

Suhana is wrong - has been wrong from the very beginning since she refused to see Ishaan's photo and blamed her Dad for everything. She has nobody to blame but herself by placing blind trust in her Dad and instead of accepting responsibility kept blaming everyone else around her. It is sad for Ishaan that he has to go through this for no fault of his. I am surprised that given how modern Suhana and her Dad are, she did not even speak to the guy before marriage, but again Suhana alone is to blame. Having said that, this has NOTHING to do with the slap - absolutely nothing. My sympathies are with Suhana there.

Also, regarding interfering, Suhana did not need to question RB so much. BUT RB expects the family members to change their behavior towards Deepak, and Suhana did not feel comfortable doing that. Since Suhana does not feel comfortable and disagrees with RB's behavior, she has a right to question and try to understand why such an expectation is being made of her and other family members. If my MIL were to expect me to change my behavior and ignore a family member and if I disagreed strongly, I would question and want to know why I need to change my behavior. I would also speak against her if I felt that her and the entire family's behavior was wrong.

Lifeztuf, I agree with you that Suhana's behavior is intolerable, and I don't understand why the family indulges her in such a manner. I would not indulge her, and would expect her to contribute fully in every way. However, as I keep saying over and over, this has absolutely nothing to do with the slap - are you implying that since Suhana is not a usual bahu it is okay to slap her? I don't think any of Suhana's flaws justify the slap - that is the only point I am trying to make. I am not saying that Suhana is blameless - quite the contrary. She is wrong in so many ways. But I am saying that her being full of flaws does not deserve a slap.

Regarding your opinion that a bahu has to be more submissive, lets not go there. Generally that is the expectation from bahus, but I am a hardcore feminist and strongly refuse to go that route in my personal life. A bahu is a human being at the end of the day, and every family has to have a level of fairness. But who am I to change generations of thoughts and behaviors just because I am a feminist and subscribe to a different set of views on this matter.

Originally posted by: cute2stay

It sucks that even though the show makers are doing an awesome job in storytelling but still some people are unable to grasp the point.

I guess you just can't please everyone.

I'm sorry you feel that way about the show/the characters. I still think you're missing the main point of the show, which is basically that you forgive and forget, you move on and just let your loved ones know that you love them. For me that's the beauty of this show, the fact that the family can come out of these situations with a smile on their faces and a bond stronger than ever.

The point is to not get too involved with these everyday circumstances and look at the bigger picture. In the bigger scheme of things, what's more important...who's fault it is? Who got punished? Or the happiness and unity of the family? In the bigger scheme of things, is this incident really that big a deal?

Anyways, I don't think there's any point in this discussion when we clearly view this show differently.

👏👏👏👏👏👏 I absoultely agree with you on this one

@ Nach Baliye...in this particular situation I think that both Radha and Suhana are to blamed...like Badi Ma said...fate is to be blamed also....like Radha said to Suhana that anger blinded her...and she reacted because of anger....and I felt that she was justified...and why should she apologize to Suhana?...Radha didnt do anything wrong (IMO) because Suhana WAS forcing her and she clearly was uncomfortable....but even Suhana was wrong....she was being her childish self

Nachbaliye, I never said that the slap was justified. It is human to err and Radha bua being an elder accepted her mistake in front of Suhana which is commendable and doesnt happen in every other home.