Being in the right company matters a lot!! - Page 4

@Shounak,

Originally posted by: shounak-rijul1

Well I am back again on a boring Sunday with another topic😛With the blessings of the gurujis of SGP forum like dewdrop,vishmewell,reguser,laxmi di,tanu di,LadyM etc and getting inspiration from their thought provoking posts,here I am with my new post for today😃

As the title of my post suggests,Is being in the right company that important?For me yes,it is absolutely important to be in the right company of people and this has been shwon very well in SGP as well..

Since this is SGP forum,I would try to bring in my points in support of this topic by taking the example of our very own charachters of SGP especially Suhana.😊

OK...So from the initial episodes we have been seeing how spoilt Suhana is.I am not saying she doesn't have any respect fro anyone n all but she is so outspoken that she says things at the wrong place and wrong time.But we have also seen how caring and well manered are the Bajpais too..So its obvious that Suhana might have not got this habit from her family...So from whom did she get this?Is it Suli n Sudi??Yup..IMO,Suhana all though these years was in the wrong company of her so called friends Suli-Sudi and Sid,the so called up market brats who have no manners,no respect and neither do they know how to crticize someone or something in a civilized manner..Remember Suli-Sudi's first reaction in seeing the Kashyap Household???How Downmarket!! and even Sid while seeing Ishaan terms him as a namoona!!...Well this shows however rich and established a person may be....it is the charachter of a person which matters the most at the end of the day..So back to my topic...
Ya so we have seen how actually Suli-Sudi n Sid are....and Suhana has always been in their company all through these years...so maybe Suhana is like this just because of the wrong company she had lived with all through these years..

OK..now let us go to the post marriage scenario....In the Kashyap Household....Suhana living in a joint family in not so exciting Chawri Bazaar(acc to Suhana)...Yup...the Kashyaps are a middle class family...cannot match to the standards of Suhana as yet...but the love,the attachment,the affection,values,ideals,the family where people are so close knit with each other is really priceless ..After marriage,in whatever manner may be,we have seen some change in Suhana..whether it is the love of badi ma,care of the bahus and dada-dadi or unintentional love by Ishaan...Suhana has it all in her Sasural..and due to this Suhana now knows how to care for someone(dadaji),loves to share things with people(the fashion parade of the Kashyap bahus)and knows the real meaning of love for a family(acc to the recent promo of SGP)..

So we can see that how by being in the right company of people can change a person completely..In SGP the right company is the sasural of Suhana who have atleast tried to change Suhana in someway or the other....So IMO,being in the right company of people really matters a lot...


This was just my viewpoint on this topic😊Do let me know what you people think😉Appreciation,brickbats,criticism..all are welcome..coz it will help me to improve myself😃Anyways I hope I have kept this post short n sweet unlike my previous post on Indian parivaar😆😆
Do let me know your views and please let me know whether I have missed some points to add😃


Take care😃

@ Red : Nahi yaar, mein is baath se sehmath nahi hoon. I dont agree. Here is why:-
1. The foundation of building a strong character begins at home. KK, while a gentleman and a good guy, does very little to educate Suhana on basic manners leave alone control her to toe the line. Suhana gets away with mistreating her domestic help (aka servants) and breaking crockery at home. This is no way to behave in a household. KK holds the responsibility to correct Suhana and make her a sensible human being. We know why he did not, but that does not absolve him of his duty.

2. Sudi and Suli are only symptoms of a disease and not the disease. Suhana chose such "loser" friends because her upbringing and lack of guidance at home leaves her ill-equipped to chose good friends. She chose people who are "like" her and therefore, a vicious cycle is born, where Suhana continues to be a brat and Sudi/Suli condone her behavior because these hapless girls dont know any better.

3. Suhana got the opportunity to see life through a different magnifying glass for the first time. This new life will question her basic thoughts and mannerisms. I think this is where the story will get most interesting. Suhana will question everything she has known so far about her life and herself. She will begin to see the merit in doing things the Kashyap way

Awsome post Shounak 👏! You have made your guru so proud, I have tears in my eyes 😭. Your wonderful post itself is my guru dakshina. Keep it up 👍🏼!!

However, being influenced by their company also depends greatly upon an individual and his/her nature, character & personality. There are 3 kinds of people :

1) People who are very vulnerable, and can be easily influenced by other people.

3) People who are semi-strong and semi-vulnerable - I have heard that it might be easy to change a person's behaviour and personality, their nature also to some extent, but the character of a person remains intact in most cases. Say for instance, honesty is part of a person's character. When an honest, shy and introvert person gets in the company of fun loving and extrovert people who might not be that honest, being in their company this person might be able to overcome his shyness and be more bold and learn how to enjoy life, but he may never take up to lying like his friends, and would always keep himself away from particular instances where his friends might take the support of lies. Eventually he might become similar to his friends as far as personality and attitude towards life is concerned, but he may never change his character and be like them as far as lying and cheating people are concerned. At the same time, he would always love his friends and accept them the way they are 😊.

Again, certain situations in life can force a person to be influenced by certain people in connection with that situation. Inorder to explain this point, I might have to use the example of another seriel 'Bidaai' 😉. I am sure majority of you are aware of the serial, even though you might not watch it. It's the story of 2 sisters who love and trust each other completely. But a certain situation in their life forces one sister to mistrust the other under the influence of certain people who were trying to create a rift between them. In normal circumstances, she has always supported and trusted her sister more than anyone, and never came under the influence of such people. But when a particular situation took place, it forced her also to mistrust her sister hearing the words of others. So basically, she came under the influence of such people JUST because of that particular situation.

Apart from vulnerability to influence, each person has his/her inborn attraction to certain aspects. There are some people who get attracted to 'negative' or 'positive' things. Like am sure we all must have seen children who have been brought up by their parents with good values, but somehow these values never get instilled in the child and throughout we witness arguments between the parents and the child on the same issue, because the child doesn't want to follow those good things. But the moment these children get into a bad company, very easily the company influences them and they start behaving like those people. So its not always about influence of people around you, as if that was the case, the kid would have also been influenced by the good values of their parents.

Similarly, people who have the inborn instinct to only follow good things in life, how much every others cheat them, they still move on in life without much complains and try to always do good things in life. I have seen people whose parents don't have a good character, but the child grows up to be a very noble human being who even advices his parents against their wrong attitude and actions.

So in conclusion we can say that whether a person would get influenced by their company or not highly depends upon their OWN personality, nature, and character. Similarly, lot of aspects are inborn and inherent to a person, so whether a person takes to good values or bad values also has a lot to do with individual traits 😊.

We all wuld luv to have a chat thread but no worries we convert almost all d topics to ccs 🤣
Ahem ahem very intelligent ques why did u become so serious all of a sudden...laxmi di nd leo have given deir expert cmnts now w8 for vish di wid all her theories nd philosphies vo aapko avashya smjha denge ki aakhir aapke serious hone ke peeche ka raaz kya hai 😆
Yaaa bring back our old rijul ye bhi chalega but sirf kbhi kbhi 😆
Lolz tumhara ye tandoori chicken ab kbhi peecha nhi chodne vaala....ek baar jo baat pakad li aapke gurus ne use vo kbhi bhool nhi skte...
Wat do u mean by tumhe pata nhi hamari izzat to tumhe rkhni hi padegi varnaaaaaaa 😡 😆
Yaaa it was real fun talking here u shuld have also been here....
What u went to watch badmaash company apni is sanaya di ko bhi yaad kar lete arsa ho gya shahid ko dekhe hue 🤣

Sanaya di-sach mein...we all convert each thread into chat thread...sach mein ye tandoori chicken kabhi mera peecha nahin chodega...lol..aapne shahid ko arse huye nahin dekha....sad...waise bhi I went to see the film coz of the songs.....poora multiplex khali chal raha tha. agar bas chalta toh multiplex wale free mein ticket baat te😆😆

Originally posted by: laxmi_s

Vipra.... u and Sanu are 200% right..👏... Infact me too felt something is really wrong with Shaunak..... baccha ... baccha nahi raha..😲... OMG..... lagtha hain ab sach mein .... kuch toh huwa hai...😳. kuch ho gaya hai.😳..... haina shaunak..... tandoori chicken....????🤣..🤣..🤣..🤣..🤣

Originally posted by: *dewdrop~pearl*

Btw Shounak, this topic is your new Assignment topic na...i know i know 😉😆!

🤣🤣I am seriously having a stomach pain readin ur posts...truly....and ya u remember that😉

Originally posted by: shounak-rijul1

Well I am back again on a boring Sunday with another topic😛With the blessings of the gurujis of SGP forum like dewdrop,vishmewell,reguser,laxmi di,tanu di,LadyM etc and getting inspiration from their thought provoking posts,here I am with my new post for today😃

As the title of my post suggests,Is being in the right company that important?For me yes,it is absolutely important to be in the right company of people and this has been shwon very well in SGP as well..

Since this is SGP forum,I would try to bring in my points in support of this topic by taking the example of our very own charachters of SGP especially Suhana.😊

OK...So from the initial episodes we have been seeing how spoilt Suhana is.I am not saying she doesn't have any respect fro anyone n all but she is so outspoken that she says things at the wrong place and wrong time.But we have also seen how caring and well manered are the Bajpais too..So its obvious that Suhana might have not got this habit from her family...So from whom did she get this?Is it Suli n Sudi??Yup..IMO,Suhana all though these years was in the wrong company of her so called friends Suli-Sudi and Sid,the so called up market brats who have no manners,no respect and neither do they know how to crticize someone or something in a civilized manner..Remember Suli-Sudi's first reaction in seeing the Kashyap Household???How Downmarket!! and even Sid while seeing Ishaan terms him as a namoona!!...Well this shows however rich and established a person may be....it is the charachter of a person which matters the most at the end of the day..So back to my topic...
Ya so we have seen how actually Suli-Sudi n Sid are....and Suhana has always been in their company all through these years...so maybe Suhana is like this just because of the wrong company she had lived with all through these years..

OK..now let us go to the post marriage scenario....In the Kashyap Household....Suhana living in a joint family in not so exciting Chawri Bazaar(acc to Suhana)...Yup...the Kashyaps are a middle class family...cannot match to the standards of Suhana as yet...but the love,the attachment,the affection,values,ideals,the family where people are so close knit with each other is really priceless ..After marriage,in whatever manner may be,we have seen some change in Suhana..whether it is the love of badi ma,care of the bahus and dada-dadi or unintentional love by Ishaan...Suhana has it all in her Sasural..and due to this Suhana now knows how to care for someone(dadaji),loves to share things with people(the fashion parade of the Kashyap bahus)and knows the real meaning of love for a family(acc to the recent promo of SGP)..

So we can see that how by being in the right company of people can change a person completely..In SGP the right company is the sasural of Suhana who have atleast tried to change Suhana in someway or the other....So IMO,being in the right company of people really matters a lot...


This was just my viewpoint on this topic😊Do let me know what you people think😉Appreciation,brickbats,criticism..all are welcome..coz it will help me to improve myself😃Anyways I hope I have kept this post short n sweet unlike my previous post on Indian parivaar😆😆
Do let me know your views and please let me know whether I have missed some points to add😃


Take care😃

Arree Arree... hatho sab log... bechara bacha woh soul searching kar rahatha... kiske sangath mein paden aur kiske sangath mein naa paden... 😆😆

Shounak, acha topic hai.. aisehi, tandoori chicken khao, soul searching karthe raho aur mere Ashirwad se jug jug jiyo!!!
Hamesha mere haath tere sar par rahega..🤣 Agar koyi din meri kahi hui facts, scientic eveidence, logical, aur practical wale baat azam nahi hua tho woh sab tere tandoori chicken ka bhalala hai... yeh baat mri gaant baand lena... 🤣🤣🤣 tan doori chicken ka bahaana hi sahi, mai bach jaongi... 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Haaaiiilaaa... Aaj main bahut khush hoon... ek banda tho mila jo mere baat ke asar tandoori chicken pe daal saken... 🤣🤣🤣

Ok on the serious note... I am so impressed by your post.

@ red - Logon ( I don't have to name them 🤣🤣 they will understand 🤣🤣 log danda nikaalnese pehle main yeh post karke bhagoongi 🤣 )... seekho kuch... bache se bhi seekh sakthe hai... SGP mein sirf aur sirf SGP ka naam leraha hai... 👏👏👏 That's a great quality that defines your character... You are always conscious about everything you do. It is your in-built quality to do what is right. That's a rare quality. 👏👏👏

@ Blue - 👏👏👏 nice analysis. Yes, the company you keep matters. Although you will not become entirely like your friends, you do absorb their qualities, good or bad. As Appu wrote, there are few people who cannot be influenced by others or the company they keep. But there are consequences for being in bad company too although you don't absorb those qualities.

For example Karan from Mahabharat. He was a great historic personality, but the consequences of being in bad company (Dhuryoodhan, Dussasan and Sakuni) was dire.

For somebody to make a decision, it is important to know how the decision tree works and also how to do the decision tree. That needs lots of practice and conscious efforts. Then it becomes second nature to always do a decision tree before making any decision and it also gives one tremendous courage of conviction and self esteem.

In general terms in the society it is called Peer-Pressure. Lots of youth become victim of peer pressure. That's because they don't do self introspection. In spiritual context you may call it soul searching. The very fact you are thinking that the company you keep matters, you are free of Peer Pressure and doing some serious soul searching. 👏👏👏

Ab Shounak, yeh baat tumhe azam nahi hua tho meri galthi nahi hai... sab tandoori chicken ki waje hai...🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 jug jug jiyooo!!! 😆😆😆

Great Topic!!