Originally posted by: suchitra_1
Actually its very much the same here,
The men here as well , are very much similar to men everywhere. The Beta husband is very very less in minority. The ones who are fine with living off their wife's earnings.
It was my art professor who said to us, that we women ( she is a double phd) have to hold a career, take care of the house and be a super mom and if one of our work is deficient then we get blamed. Meaning if the kids turn out to be bad then the mother is blamed. If she cannot hold her career then she is blamed of being not that efficient and if she cannot take care of the household then she is blamed of not balancing everything properly.
In proper healthy marriage there needs to be understanding. I mean there is seriously NOTHING WRONG in taking care of the house. Women today think its degrading etc. aurat ko chula chowki tak hi rakhna chahiye ...
This mentality was so much taunted , that today it has become something of a degrading nature. That is not true.. and should not be encouraged as such.
It is all about prioritizing ....
IF you think you will get your fair share of sanity , go ahead and work...
But there are different ways a woman can explore her abilities. I know soo many work at home moms.
They hold businesses from home and take care of the household, raise children and earn the dough as well.
They are active parents, most of the business holding women are homeschooling parents.
( homeschooling is where the parent opts to teach their children at home rather than send their kids to school for formal education, millions of kids in US are homeschooled)
So this trend needs to be seen in India yet, that women can do things from home + make some money(if they wish to) and takecare of their children (raising them) in a good manner.
It is totally true. Though outside India may be things are better, not all Indian husbdans have changed that drastically. Infact, I have seen many Indian husbands (and some wives too) here (I live in Singapore) commenting on the local Singaporean men eating/bringing outside food. Some smart husbands (like mine 😉) say that they can not help in the household or teaching/raising children because they dont have time. And there is too much demand from work.
We being what we are, we try to priortize children and husband before our interest. This is not done by majboori, but because our love towards them. So there is surely nothing wrong in doing the household chores and it is def not degrading. But, still it is better to make an identity of our own along with these works. Though it is tiring, at the end of the day we will be satisfied that we are living for ourselves too.
Thats why many women chose a career where most of their time is spent in the house. Though it is demanding, there is time to take care of the loved ones.
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