Is Alekh doing justice to Mallika?

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Sweet-Violet

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Posted: 15 years ago

#31

@Taral,

Alekh only told Mallika that he wants to forget his past, never did he mention that he is marrying her because he likes or loves her. Thats all I wanted to say in my post. So Mallika is taking a huge risk here.

Another point, I just dont like the way marriage is treated in TV shows...its not a game for heaven's sake. So both Alekh and Sadhana are wrong in my opinion.

As I said in my post earlier, Saalekh are not a couple in real sense, there should be intimacy (emotional, mental, physical...just to be clear 😆) between a couple. Alekh doesn't even realize that a wife shares bedroom with her husband, it was so obvious from his reactions in yesterday's episode. He is learning everything with time and experience (good or bad). He needs some time and he will become a very good husband for Sadhana as he is very simple and soft-hearted individual.

Edited by --Anu-- - 15 years ago

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Bani

@Omshanti1111

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Posted: 15 years ago

#32

Originally posted by: serialjunkie
Friends - i just want to add here that everyone's entitled to their opinions. Some folks may feel strongly against Sadhna while others may feel like justifying her. In fact, there are plenty in the forum who STRONGLY support Aalekh and do not appreciate what Sadhna did.

So in a nutshell, beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. To many of you, Sadhna is the icon of beauty while to others she is flawed. Its a matter of different perspective. So to everyone, lets agree to disagree and leave it at that. I dont think one opinion is better or worse than the other, just different.

everyone can disagree, everyone has their own way of thinking , true...but if suddenly for example, someone starts calling Ravan a hero and Ram a villain, then I dont think that is acceptable. There are even taints in Ram's character, like Vali Badh, but there were justifications provided by Ram. Many things need to be worked upon based upon the eventual good. I know it might be disagreed that Sadhna is being compared to Ram, but if Ram, as God could do a mistake (if), Sadhna actually chose life over death.

Sadhna is an epitome of perfection, its not my crazy thinking...its been continuously shown in the serial. Episode after episode, her goodness is being shown and every question raised has been answered by the creatives. They have sketched Sadhna as an impeccable one, justifying all her actions. I was wondering, if Sadhna did not sign the divorce papers, and di not take the money from Vasu, would Kaushi had survived...if Sadhna could not speak to Ranveer, why could not Vinu or even Ragini find time to visit her mother (after seeing her like this).

Craetives have given anwser for every action of Sdahna, by making other people repent for their injustice to Sdahna. I am pretty sure, this divorce issue will also be answered.

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Sara99

@Sara99

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Posted: 15 years ago

#33

I don't post much but i couldn't help but comment on this...

Alekh has literally woken up in a man's body and is still coming to terms with everything.

Yes it has been frustrating watching him kick Sadhna to the curb but i've come to the conclusion that he foremost was feeling so guilty about the way he treated his mum for all those years that he literally was out to prove that she would be first priority in his life and then going to work at Rajvansh industries was so that his parents could be proud of him (him being a good son).

But somewhere he still has to learn about being a husband so them having to go through all this is probably serving as a catalyst to work at his relationship with Sadhna and finally to actually start their married life together.

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Sweet-Violet

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Posted: 15 years ago

#34

Originally posted by: svesum

I completely agree with you, Anu. I love and adore Sadhna myself, but in this track, we have gotten to see some of Sadhna's weaknesses. Sadhna's sacrifices are something that I appreciate and admire, but she could not prioritize her needs. At some level, she will be responsible for Mallika's heart-break....Like some others discussed, Alekh, Sadhna and Mallika are all responsible for what will happen on Monday. It is not fair to put all the blame on Alekh or Mallika. Sadhna has let down Alekh as much as Alekh has let down Sadhna and as much he will let down Mallika....
IMO

Couldn't agree more. Kaushi broke Mamaji's trust by signing the property papers as she became blinded by love for her son. Similarly Sadhana broke her husband's trust by signing the divorce papers without even letting him know in advance. This was not such a small thing, not expected from Sadhana who values the relationships so much. She should have tried to call him once before taking this extreme step. Its basically Cvs fault, there are so many loose ends in this track.

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Taral

@taral83

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Posted: 15 years ago

#35

Originally posted by: --Anu--
@Taral,

Alekh only told Mallika that he wants to forget his past, never did he mention that he is marrying her because he likes or loves her. Thats all I wanted to say in my post. So Mallika is taking a huge risk here.

Another point, I just dont like the way marriage is treated in TV shows...its not a game for heaven's sake. So both Alekh and Sadhana are wrong in my opinion.

As I said in my post earlier, Saalekh are not a couple in real sense, there should be intimacy between a couple. Alekh doesn't even realize that a wife shares bedroom with her husband, it was so obvious from his reactions in yesterday's episode. He is learning everything with time and experience (good or bad). He needs some time and he will become a very good husband for Sadhana as he is very simple and soft-hearted individual.

By not telling Malika the whole truth is also giving false hope on Alekh's part. And I agree Malika is not a little girl and it will be her own fault that she gets hurt, but it will also be Alekh's fault that he hurt her because he hasn't told her everything. I also agree, I don't like the way marriage is treated not only in this show, but almost each and every show on TV, its usually always a game or gudda guddi ka khel. They break it off then they put it back and then once again they break it off and put it back together. But another aspect of this is that it also teaches the viewers the outcome of not being honest, faithful and truthful in a relationship. To no have those important factors in a realtionship It makes room for misunderstanding that can break a realationship, hence Sadhna and Alekh. Therefore, it teaches us the value of trust, faith and truth in a realationship. So I wouldn't say that it is totally wrong to show what they are showing. It just how the viewer takes it. I don't believe that intimacy is that important of a factor that can give a title of a "real couple" to two people that love each other. It is indeed important to have in life because its a part of the cycle of life, it brings two people much closer. But it doesn't bring two people more closer then trust and care. That is the true foundation of any marriage Trust. Which Sadhna has in Alekh, but was broken this time. Trust is one thing that can make a realationship stronger then anything, but doubt is one thing that will break it before you know it. So them not being intimate doesn't really matter to me much, their love for each other is beyond that understanding, God forbid, but if Alekh was totally handicaped and was not able to be intimate with his wife, but his wife was there by his side day and night, loving caring and doing everything in her power to care for her husband, but because they are not intimate does that take away their title of a "real couple"..........?

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Sweet-Violet

@Sweet-Violet

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Posted: 15 years ago

#36

Originally posted by: taral83

By not telling Malika the whole truth is also giving false hope on Alekh's part. And I agree Malika is not a little girl and it will be her own fault that she gets hurt, but it will also be Alekh's fault that he hurt her because he hasn't told her everything. I also agree, I don't like the way marriage is treated not only in this show, but almost each and every show on TV, its usually always a game or gudda guddi ka khel. They break it off then they put it back and then once again they break it off and put it back together. But another aspect of this is that it also teaches the viewers the outcome of not being honest, faithful and truthful in a relationship. It makes room for misunderstanding that can break a realationship, hence Sadhna and Alekh. So I wouldn't say that it is totally wrong to show what they are. It just how the view takes it. I don't believe that intimacy is that important of a factor that can give a title of a "real couple" to two people that love each other. It is indeed important to have in life because its a part of the cycle of life, it brings two people much closer. But it doesn't bring two people more closer then trust and care. That is the true foundation of any marriage Trust. Which Sadhna has in Alekh, but was broken this time. Trust is one thing that can make a realationship stronger then anything, but doubt is one thing that will break it before you know it. So them not being intimate doesn't really matter to me much, their love for each other is beyond that understand, God forbid, but if Alekh was totally handicaped and was not able to be intimate with his wife, but his wife was there by his side day and night, loving caring and doing everything in her power to care for her husband, but because they are not intimate does that take away their title of a "real couple"..........?

By intimacy, I dont just mean physical...its emotional as well. They were only friends until they got separated...there is a huge difference between friends and a husband-wife relationship....any married person can vouch for it. Its time to take their relationship to the next level and nothing will come between them after that as they love each other so much.

Edited by --Anu-- - 15 years ago

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Taral

@taral83

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Posted: 15 years ago

#37

Originally posted by: --Anu--

By intimacy, I dont just mean physical...its emotional as well. They were only friends until they got separated.

You just contradicted yourself. The emotion that is involved in friendship is a very important factor in marriage. If your husband is your best friend what more can you ask for. Sadhna always loved her husband and still does. When he was mentally disabled and even now when I think he is still mentally disabled..lol 😆............but for Alekh its harder to say that because his mind didn't work like a adult, but he cared for her he loved her and he trusted her. So, I think they were more then emotionally connected. I think what you are trying to say is that their foundation was not very strong as husband and wife, and I would agree witht that, but not because they didn't have a emotional connection, but because of the complexity of Alekh's character, his inablity to understand and then to prove himself to his mother when he was better. other priorities started to take higher places in Alekh's new life hence making room for doubt and misunderstanding between Sadhna and him.

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Sweet-Violet

@Sweet-Violet

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Posted: 15 years ago

#38

Originally posted by: taral83

You just contradicted yourself. The emotion that is involved in friendship is a very important factor in marriage. If your husband is your best friend what more can you ask for. Sadhna always loved her husband and still does. When he was mentally disabled and even now when I think he is still mentally disabled..lol 😆............but for Alekh its harder to say that because his mind didn't work like a adult, but he cared for her he loved her and he trusted her. So, I think they were more then emotionally connected. I think what you are trying to say is that their foundation was not very strong as husband and wife, and I would agree witht that, but not because they didn't have a emotional connection, but because of the complexity of Alekh's character, his inablity to understand and then to prove himself to his mother when he was better. other priorities started to take higher places in Alekh's new life hence making room for doubt and misunderstanding between Sadhna and him.

I am not contradicting myself. I edited my post..here you go...

The emotional bonding between friends is not the same for a married couple. There is so much depth in their relationship. Sadhana could never share her problems or true feelings with Alekh due to his mental condition...it used to be Ranveer or someone else. Alekh was so much dependent on her for his basic needs. They need to revive their relationship at a grown-up level.

By intimacy, I dont just mean physical...its emotional as well. They were only friends until they got separated...there is a huge difference between friends and a husband-wife relationship....any married person can vouch for it. Its time to take their relationship to the next level and nothing will come between them after that as they love each other so much.

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Taral

@taral83

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Posted: 15 years ago

#39

Originally posted by: --Anu--

I am not contradicting myself. I edited my post..here you go...

The emotional bonding between friends is so much different between a couple.

By intimacy, I dont just mean physical...its emotional as well. They were only friends until they got separated...there is a huge difference between friends and a husband-wife relationship....any married person can vouch for it. Its time to take their relationship to the next level and nothing will come between them after that as they love each other so much.

I still am not understanding. what is the next step?....they were emotionally connected in all ways except physically. Mental Alekh, stood up for his wife against his mother, he cared for her, he could't see her get married to another man, he loved her, I don't know what I am missing. If those things are not a part of marriage then what are. what were they missing in their relationship except physical attraction.

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Sweet-Violet

@Sweet-Violet

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Posted: 15 years ago

#40

Originally posted by: taral83

I still am not understanding. what is the next step?....they were emotionally connected in all ways except physically. Mental Alekh, stood up for his wife against his mother, he cared for her, he could't see her get married to another man, he loved her, I don't know what I am missing. If those things are not a part of marriage then what are. what were they missing in their relationship except physical attraction.

You are quoting me even before I edit my post. lol

May be I am not able to make myself clear to you. Anyways..

Mental Alekh stood-up for his "DOST" and cared for his "DOST" not for his wife. He was like another 10 year boy who would fight for his friend. Did he even know the real meaning of marriage ? Sadhana could not even share her true feelings with him, he was so much dependent on her. They need to revive their relationship at a grown-up level (the next level lol) and that doesn't mean just physical...its emotional, mental and spiritual as well.

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