Sadhana MUST learn a lesson:Mod's note on PG42 - Page 30

Originally posted by: hereandhappy

i agree with TS that Sadhana signed the divorce paper for all the wrong reasons but even if it is her mistake we should allow her to make atleast one mistake...ek gunaah to khuda bi maaf karta hai 😊...we should not be too critical...give her a break already she is going through a lot and as humans we are bound to take such decisions in life which might not be acceptable to our loved ones and they might feel betrayed .

Although i also agree with some comments that she should not allow Vasu or anyone else to take undue advantage of her majboori and her love for others . She should make her love for others as her strength and not her weakness ki koi bhi use uske pyaar ke karan majboor kar de .

I wish for all the future tracks CTs blend all the goodness with some smartness in her character . This phase of her life has been biggesst lesson for her and definitely she will learn something from all this .

Tention nahi leneka... maafi sab ko miljaayega...😉😉😉😉 Isse baat pe jaadu ke jhappi bhi hojaayega🤗

Absolutely wow..so me being a loser and a curious person read all of the 37 pages..and I must say I enjoyed this whole discussion. Even though I have my own personal views about this issue I must say I liked hearing the different opinions and there points behind it..great job guys:) You guys are so creative with the way you prove your points. I honestly can't wait till they actually start showing what's gonna happen with Salekh..when will they realize that they were meant to be❤️

Originally posted by: _charu_

yaar don't u think Vasu managed to do all this bec. of Sadhna's weakness? bec. NOBODY knew abt vasu's plans & intentions , the only person who knows it, Sadi, never told anyone abt it...or is it bec. Sadi was feeling guilty abt giving statement against Ranvir 😕 she didn't wanna hurt mummyji more.. 🤢 she wanted to fulfill her dil ki tamanna tht Alekh should marry mallika 😃

Charu,
You cracked me up. 😆

Love your writing style. Come to Bidaai forum more often. I used to enjoy reading your posts in YR forum. I don't watch that show anymore.....just visit the forum sometimes to read your fantastic updates.

The most intruiging part is WHY THERE HAVE TO B A NEGATIVE APPROACH TO LOOK AT SADHNA now? Just because she is overwhelmed with positivity... there needs to be an angry hand rising from the crowed to stand out as a protestor?

to blame sadhna is baseless in my opinion............😕.......the blame even if it is justified for a second......will fall short for one reason or another.........her decisions... her thinking....her reasons and her pureness justify all her judgments and actions

Originally posted by: Ice-Thinker

The most intruiging part is WHY THERE HAVE TO B A NEGATIVE APPROACH TO LOOK AT SADHNA now? Just because she is overwhelmed with positivity... there needs to be an angry hand rising from the crowed to stand out as a protestor?

Sadhna has absolutely no blemish to her character. SHE DOES HAVE HER VULNERABILITIES, but this is true for anyone who is good. Well even the best of human's have their vulnerabilities. But the vulnerability is not inclined to the negative aspects of a human being ... but ONLY INCLINED to a positive aspect which is so unseen among human's that through time it is now even considered OUT OF HUMAN CAPACITY.

But humanity is diverse! And we have human's who are very good, but vulnerable at parts in them. SADHNA'S GREATEST VULNERABILITY is that she does not know how to RISE for her ownself. She always rises for others, or work's towards their benefit. Be is Sharmas or even the Rajvansh ... who ever need the help MOST (for example she rushed to the mother of Guruma breaking out of Kaushi's discharge paperworks que. Even though she could miss the papers and had to wait much longer, she preferred to break away only for an unknown woman who needed some attention). THIS IS THE NATURE OF SADHNA. THIS IS THE SADHNA MOST OF US FELL IN LOVE WITH!!! THIS IS WHAT MAKES HER SADHNA!.

Sadhna's being quiet about Mummy ji is her respect to the deal, and that she took part in it. She is also not interested to stand for her ownself AGAIN. She doesnt consider herself of any real value. THIS IS THE SITUATION OF SOME ORPHANS WHO GET OVERWHELMINGLY AWARE THAT THEIR LIFE IS A TOKEN OF MERCY OF PEOPLE WHO HAD NO REASON TO PROTECT HER. I always suggest everyone to watch "Dil Hai Tumhara" movie.

Such mentality in orphans rise only when throughout their childhood someone important in the household always express their hatred and mistrust towards them. The WISH to be useful and proove herself to be worthwhile/own to the family TRANSFORMS into a critical NEED, and this NEED at one point becomes a part of the person's NATURE and overall ATTITUDE and PHSYCHOLOGICAL CONDITIONING of the person. She is now at an age when this whole NEED has become the sole IDENTITY of Sadhna. IF YOU GUYZ THINK WITH EVEN A SHRED OF LOVE FOR HER ... YOU GUYZ WILL EASILY REALISE WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT.

Alekh was Mad. But Sadhna had been phsychologically STRESSED aswell. Both Alekh and Sadhna, since childhood, have been SUBJECTED TO ATROCITIES. However, in different fashions and levels ... and the reactions were different too.

There are many PHYSICALLY AND MENTALLY abused girls and boys around the world. They suffer from various vulnerabilities. So does Sadhna. In no way this makes Sadhna blemished.

WHY IS SADHNA SO SPECIAL, SO EXTRA-ORDINARY?... Maybe the answer to this could be found from her Extra-Ordinary background and life.

Alekh HAS ALOT OF OBLIGATIONS TOWARDS SADHNA. Not just as a HUSBAND but also as a HUMAN BEING. If not as a husband, he could atleast go ahead as a human being who is grateful to the personality of Sadhna. But he did not.

Sadhna is habituated to disown'ment or rejection ... or accusation. Such things are so usual for her. The girl will bow and leave, and dont even mention things which could clarify her position ....BECAUSE THE GIRL DONT HAVE ANY HOPE ... because she never got that much OWNED. NOW HER NEED TO PROVE HER IDENTITY AS A PART OF OTHERS have infact turned into a phsychological aspect, which has forgotten the ACTUAL DEMAND due to which it was triggered. Now its just a CLASSICAL CONDITIONING ... and Inertia ... which drives her LIKE A DRY LEAF ON A WINDY DAY.

TO ACCUSE SOMEONE IS VERY EASY.... but to look into her depths is not very easy.
To look into the positive depths is often avoided, because at certain times (when she is being appreciated or hugged) it is not as attractive. It doesnt make the person joining in APPRECIATING THE GIRL stand-out from the rest and attract ATTENTION. But none-the-less, Sadhna's beauty cannot be blemished by a few shadow's unjustly casted on her.

SADHNA WILL NOT BE SPEAKING FOR HERSELF. She might be misunderstood and STONES MIGHT BE HURLED at her again .... BUT I KNOW ONE THING, I WILL BE BESIDE HER. Not just because I am her FAN, but because I KNOW THAT THIS IS WHAT SHE IS.... and she deserves some true form of love and respect ... she deserves one drop of understanding .... even if it is alien to her ....

God bless her, and girls like her - who become burdens to a society which thinks more about itself than anything else ... because THINKING ABOUT ONESELF is taught and trained through love extended toward's someone, making them aware of its benefits and need. BUT SADHNA WAS FORCED TO THINK THAT IF SHE THOUGHT ABOUT HERSELF, SHE WOULD BE A DEAMON ... AND OTHER'S WHO ACCUSED HER OF BEING A BURDEN/PROBLEM/SELFISH would be classified as right.

Whatever her vulnerability ... she is the ANGEL of the show. God bless her.

@ red - yet she knows how to raise money by making deals and selling pati 👏
@ blue - Thanks for accepting she took part in the deal. Always making deals for money. 👏 And, she wasn't trying to save Vasu, she is trying to save her own dignity because she divorced him for money.
@ Green - I have no idea what you are talking about.. If you are trying to convey, critical need of the family, becomes ones nature? If the critical needs are going to determine your nature, then the word would be 'User'. Thanks for making some things clear in my head. So what you are saying is, has has become compulsive saudagarni? I don't mind accepting that in Aalekh's defense.
@ purple - Can't agree more. That is so apt for bashing Aalekh, and his positive qualities are overlooked... sahbaash... 👏 yehi sunne keliye mere kaan tharasgaye...
@ Orange - she cannot speak for herself because she is feeling ashamed of herself for divorcing Aalekh for money. Jo bhi ho, woh karke dikhadi...
@ sky blue - whaaaaat????? where did you get that??? direct me to an episode if you are going to make such claims.

Originally posted by: taral83

to blame sadhna is baseless in my opinion............😕.......the blame even if it is justified for a second......will fall short for one reason or another.........her decisions... her thinking....her reasons and her pureness justify all her judgments and actions

That depends on which side of the fence you are. If you are on Sharma side, of course it would be baseless because Sadhana has fulfilled needs, and debts of lakhs of rupees. If you are comparing Vasu vs. Sadhana, even then she is part and parcel of all the deals they made together. Aalekh is unaware of both the deals. Once he comes to know he was used as CHEEZ by his mother and wife, he would definitely want to run away from both of them and never to return. Agar dilse kamzor ho tho hi Sadhana ke paas wapas aayega... that too if she redeems herself.

I don't even want to talk about her judgments. They are always wrong and misplaced.🤢
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Honestly Vishmewell, are you thinking by bashing and strongly opposing Sadhana you are supporting Alekh and getting justice for him?
Tell me why??Why does Alekh deserve this kind of respect when he has showed none?
I am a neutral viewer.At one point of time agreeing with Sadhana was to agree with Alekh.Now that Alekh is so different in not a good way, how can you understand his character which is half baked at this point and put the blame on Sadhana?
In a relationship, you need two hands/two wheels for it to run.
Alekh was the one who broke the trust and bond firs by not supporting Sadhana when she needed.When he gave this message , you are still expecting Sadhana to abide by him?
I support Sadhana's decision of divorcing Alekh as she feels the relationship has gone futile.Taking Alimony might be wrong/ right , it depends on individual thinking.I don't think Sadhana should be blamed for that.

Vishmewell...

Selling Pati? isn't that a bit strong and offensive towards people who actually adore Sadhana's character?

I request the mods to close this topic now as its just going round and round. Everyone had their say so lets end at that.

That was Harsh, the statements were!

No one is justifying Alekh's act here. Alekh is wrong but that doesn't make Sadhana's act right.

Can we please end this discussion ? Lets look forward to Saalekh reunion. There is no doubt that they both love each other so much. They just need to set their priorities straight and be each others support and strength.