Sadhana MUST learn a lesson:Mod's note on PG42 - Page 22

Originally posted by: jyoti06

One thing I would like to say here...Whatever Sadhna did required lots of guts..no girl of today can do such a sacrifice for her family..so we need to give her the credit where it is due👏..I love both Sagini and could identify with both the characters here😳..

Coming to Sadhna,its not easy to take such a decision of marrying a mentally challenged guy whatever mayb the reason..knowing that she is getting married to someone who doesn't even understand the meaning of marriage..knowing that the marriage will b just for namesake as she will not b getting that love from her husband which every wife after marriage gets..she still decides to go for such a marriage just to save her family..is praiseworthy👏...

In fact when Ranveer decides to marry Sonia,that time Sadhna had the option to leave Alekh ..but she din't do that and that time she wasn't forced to live with Alekh either..she conitnued with that relationship because by that time she was in love with Alekh😳..

Today she signed the divorce papers to save her Mami's life because like I said she feels that she owes a lot to that family and in that situation she din't hv any choice left either..but she had hopes that mayb her Alrkh ji will not sign those papers and will try to find out the reason behind her signature,.but sigh..that din't happen and Alekh din't give her a slight chance to speak up..

But again Sadhna did a mistake somewhere..her only mistake was that she din't tell this to Ranvir..I m sure Ranvir would hv given the money to Sadhna for Mami's operation without letting Ragini know about it..so that Ragini could hv performed in Natraj utsav and side by side Sadhna too could hv arranged the money for the operation😃..but sigh then the story would not hv been so much interesting like it is now😉😆😆..

Originally posted by: Omshanti1111

Sadhna today gave the final answer to this post..."main kya koi cheez hoon, etc etc.." must watch the scene and her dialogues...this will make clear that her decision was not mainly based on money

Originally posted by: vishmewell

@ red - If Sadhana remained truthful to her marriage in your opinion even afer signing divorce papers for Sharma family crisis, Aalekh is more truthful to his marriage not only by not signing the divorce papers but also by not even looking at the other woman. He kept her away, did not stop his mother from throwing her out. Same night he went to Sharma house to tell Sadhana he would always marry her now and everytime he had to make that choice but went back without telling her. But that doesn't mean he was not truthful to his wife and been a faithful husband. If Sadhana nursed him to health, Aalekh was mountain of strength in protecting her from Vasu and all bad people. He did his part even as a pagal. He did that for Sadhana even when she was not living with him. The reason for Sadhana signing divorce paper is totally wrong and unacceptable.

@ green - Both never explicitly expressed they love each other. But definitely showed in hteir actions they are immensely in love. Woh kaafi nahi tha Sadhana keliye to win the competition to save her mami and clear the misunderstanding right after letting Ragini know her mother's condition?

Aalekh is mad about Sadhana signned the papers is legitimate. She should have talked to him before she made that decision unilaterally. Ek sauda karke shaadi ki for her family, doosra sauda karke divorce kardi phir sharma family keliye? Aalekh was never more important to her than Sharma family. For that reason alone I would say she went over board with her Sharma family Obsession. Aalekh doesn't need a wife who makes a sauda of their marriage everytime there is musibbat in sharma family. No man should need a wife like Sadhana.

Originally posted by: Nu_Adu

@red...For a moment I thought the great Mrs. Vasundhara Rajvansh is here at the forum! 😲😆

Originally posted by: vishmewell

lol... it's ok Suchitra... 😃 sab chaltha hai... in fact, daudtha hai. we are all here to make a point. My philosophy of life is ek hans ki tharah practical hoke, dood aur paani ko alag karna zaroori hai. Thaki sehat keliye dood peeyen, aur pyaas keliye pani peeyen.

Serials ki character ko kyon, kabhi kabaar apne aapko bhi analyze karne chahiye khud ko nikhaar laane keliye. 😛

Originally posted by: suchitra_1

Hi again,
Sorry vish, thats why i said I hope you do no take offense and yes I was going to judge your comments by gender and as I mentioned it is a surprise to me.

@ Everyone else, the reasonings here are just going in circle.

I do not believe in ignoring the good and out weighing it due to some mistakes on part of Sadhana, which too are justifiable.

No one is perfect and Sadhana is not perfect naturally , she is a human being.

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Marriage = Marriage after its done,
Questions like: Would sadhana have married if she didn't need money etc. don't make sense because would Alekh have married Sadhana if he was normal? We can only Speculate!

Yes, it doesmatter. Because it is proved that she did marry him for a deal; monetary + jiji. She first walks away and goes back to Vasu to accept offer when they were thrown out of the house and moved to Nani's house.
Time will tell you (because Anu+charu+pankhi+myself and others arguments are not convincing about Aalekh's character).

Whats written is written. She would have married him even if there is no need of money because it was written for her that , Alekh be her husband.
If this were true, phir Shaadi ka sauda bhi likha gaya hai Sadhana ke naseeb mein. Phir sabko ye baat bhi maan ne chahiye.

When that responsibility came upon her as a wife, she , Sadhana, took it seriously and fulfilled it.
Yes, I agree. Sadhana ne barkhoobee nibhayaa apna karthavya. Aur saat saat har rishte ko lipat the gayi.

1. She fulfilled the marriage rights between her and Alekh : when she married him. The first few months

2. During Ragini Ranveer track

3. During Shlok track

4. During Choti Ma track

5. During Dadi bua track

6. During Alekh becoming Normal Track

7. During Ranvir going to jail track

So 7 whole times she was doing fulfilling it.
I agree with all your points. The is no dispute about it.
7.5) sadhana comes back trusting Alekh, she fulfilled it cause of trust
That's after dropping the ball on him. After the divorce. The moment she signed it, she had given up all rights to Aalekh. Leave alone any expectations. She closed the deal.

Now,
8. Alekh kicks out sadhana says i was mental when I married you so get out. Alekh normal divorced Sadhana at that time.
Aalekh was not the one divorced Sadhana. He made the mistake of not standing by her. Yet, he showed concern, love, closeness his actions. In Mallika's office he made it clear that his actions should speak louder and har baat kahaa nahi jaatha. sab ka apna apna thereeka hotha hai.




Marriage GONE


What ever Sadhana did after this, is Absolutely reasonable. Cause she didn't end the marriage FIRST , Alekh did. So khalas matter finished.
yek mahina alag rehnese shaadi khatham nahi hothi. Divorce karne se khatham hothi hai. Aur woh kaam Sadhana ne ki. not Aalekh. Khalas ne Sadhana ne ki.

So now all those who wish well for Alekh sahab and think he is a lover boy and a sweet victim ( which I hope he suffers MORE)
You have the freedom of speech and thought. I respect it.
will Ignore ALL 7 cases of Sadhana proving herself again and again... but go
"but why did she sign those papers"
In Management concepts, every project has beginning and ending. In this case it is the deal.
Although Sadhana did everything right after the marriage, the very fact she divorced him and accepted big fat money, the Sauda she made with Vasu first time by getting married, ended with it. So, between the beginning and the ending, everything she did, becomes part and parcel of the deal.
If Sadhana was righteous, she would have gone looking for Aalekh first, asked him to help her, if he doesn't, then she should have told him to hell with you and this marriage, and walked away from him, go to Vasu and sign the divorce papers. She can ONLY make decisions pertaining to her alone.
It is sad to see Sadhana lie to Mamaji about her married life. She did not tell anyone about her close encounters with Aalekh in his new bedroom, at work, bus stop, and not even on the day of the competition. What is she afraid of? Is she is feeling so guilty about her actions what she did to Aalekh and fear and feel ashamed that aaj nahi tho kal yehi Sharma family when the dust settles down, palat kar (they have proven record for doing that) are going to make mazaak of her marriage and her sauda? Jo kuch bhi ho, I commend her vision into the future and the judgment about the people she deals with.

right!!!

Again.. Sadhana is NOT a door mat and Alekh divorced her first.

Originally posted by: Sajimok

Cudn't Sadi just get Ranvir in confidence to get money for her mamiji' s treatment ? Afterall it is ragi's mom too. What if she had died while awaiting for the surgery? Why Sadi has to be the matyr always? Surely ragi wud have appreciated it if Sadi had done dat instead of competing in dance or divorcing her husband. How come she cud not lie to protect ranvir afterall she was attacked by gundas? I see her lying the rest of the time or evading the truth. I am sure she thinks it's ok to lie for the Sharma parivaar but not for the Rajvansh... Her character flaws make me disgusted!!!

Originally posted by: Omshanti1111

if you juggle the word mother-in-law, do you know what we arrive at
"Lady hitler"...apt for Vasu...