UMeTV 02Mar'Dharam Ignores Meera ' - Page 3

Originally posted by: xPalkix

Then Sharukh, Salman and Aamir will come and give Dharam some pointers on how to romance in Hindi film style 😉

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Originally posted by: katrinasalman

Gopi could have stopped her, tied her up etc etc

If I was a gohem shipper, I'd be ticked off at the cvs for bringing in a leap. As a fan, I'd want to watch them bring up their kids and stuff. But anywho all done and dusted.

@Bold But this is a stupid 'sacrifice'. What's the point in sacrifice if it's doing no good to that person? Dharam doesn't love Durga, no point.

And I don't think the Modis would want Meera to sacrifice like this if they knew the full story. If they do then well, that's very selfish. Gopi doesn't know yet how much Meera loves Dharam and she also doesn't know why there's a wall between Durga and Dharam.

Gopi won't go to that extent of tying her daughter up. Yes, that can be Kokila's work. Ahem himself had locked Kinjal & pushed her in the mandap where Dhawal was sitting but he has never been like that with his own daughters. Do you think I was happy with the leap as a gohem shipper. I wanted gohem & the girls to be in US & have some quality time & be away from all the family jhamelas for at least one year. All the shippers had protested against Gopi killing Radha & going to jail but the CV's will do whatever they want. Even if Gopi & the Modis know that Meera loves Dharam what can they do about it? They certainly would not want Meera to be called as a second woman or Dharam's keep & even Meera does not want that either.

Yes good point. But then there's vidhya. Seeing as vidhya is so mature and sensible, I wonder why Meera turned out so negative? Actually this is the same as Gopi and Rashi. Urmila raised them both but Gopi somehow turned out to be an angel and Rashi was negative. But just like how Rashi changed, Meera too changed. Rashi changed after she stopped listening to Urmila. If Gopi had brought Meera up, there's a good chance Meera would have been hugely influenced by her and she wouldn't have been so difficult. See how Meera transformed so quickly under Gopi's influence, imagine what ten years could have done.

Meera is basically very soft but she easily gets carried away by what others say. She gets manipulated very easily. Rashi changed over a period of time & that too after marrying Jigar. I agree that 10 years would have made a huge difference in Meera's life. Gopi killed Radha & landed up behind the bars for 10 years but it was also Ahem's fault as well tbh. He has left the house taking the girls away. That is the blunder he has made. Two wrongs does not make one right. He could have worked out a strategy to get rid of Radha which he didn't do. Motherly love do spoil the children at times. Kokila didn't discipline her children. Urmila spoilt Rashi by training her with kalakaris.

He took trouble but that comes in the duty of a parent. After bringing the child up, it's their life. A parent can stop their child from making bad mistake for sure, that's their right and they would always want to make sure their children are safe and are making the right decisions. But expecting them to sacrifice and stuff is just plain wrong. Also, marrying Dharam isn't a wrong decision, Dharam loves her and will always have her back. More importantly, Meera loves him too. That should be a sufficient reason, as long as you find a good person at heart then what's the fear? The parents may have more experience, but life will throw very complicated matters and you need to deal with it reasonably. Don't just take two or three things into account but the whole thing. In this case, they're only looking at Durga and age gap. They're failing to see the main thing which is what their daughter actually feels. She's burning inside and they don't even know about it.

Gopi even said that if Meera loves Dharam, she won't know what to do. Gopi wouldn't want her daughter to suffer.

Actually speaking, it is not necessary that parents should do it. Most of the times, they leave their children to fend for themselves & even make them beg on the streets otherwise they will get beaten up if they don't do it or come back empty-handed. But Ahem never ever did that. He has brought them up very decently with love & care. He gave them the same comfort & luxury as Modi Bhavan. Only thing is that he could not devote much time to them. But Meera could have taken Vidya's help instead of clinging on to Mansi. When Dhawal slapped Kinjal, she too went back to MM. Even Pappu missed a motherly figure at that time but he is also sensible & matured like Vidya. Yes, Gopi said that if her doubt turns out to be true she will be in a dilemma. If it comes to that she will go to Kokila/Ahem & ask them what to do about it. But I don't think the Modi family will make Durga move out for the sake of Meera's happiness & she herself does not want that. Dharam does not love Durga but it is none of their business. It is their lookout.

But will the Modis be hurt? How will it hurt them? They'll be happy if their daughter is happy. Unless of course they care for what others think, which isn't a good reason in my book. If Modis can't suffer, why should Meera? She honestly doesn't owe them anything.

But the norms of the society change over time, you can't deprive yourself of something just because the society says no. You're living for yourself and your loved ones, not for the society. Besides, Dheera aren't doing anything wrong, if Durga gets a divorce, there is nothing wrong with them. It's not like Dharam is a goon and a bad person to whom Meera is keen on marrying. You should always set a good example to others, marrying for love isn't wrong. It just shows that there are no boundaries when it comes to love which isn't a bad message.

Dharam too defends Meera, more than Sharavn defends vidhya IMO 😳

Yes, they do want Meera to be happy but not at the cost of others. If Dharam dies not love Durga, that is none of their business as I said earlier. It is between Dharam & Durga. Even Meera does not want to screw up Durga's life for her happiness. Btw, why will Meera suffer? If at all she does, she won't be suffering for the entire life. Time heals everything. After all what is Meera's age? She is educated, attractive, majestic & capable of bringing people to her side. She can get many Dharams like this but Durga has got only one Dharam & is solely relying on him. More importantly she does not have anybody behind her except for Shravan & Vidya. Though they can do a lot for her to get her the right, Durga has tied up their hands. She wants Dharam to accept her willingly.

Exactly, marriage is about responsibilities. Cooking and cleaning isn't one of them tbh

That's just life.

Main responsibility in a marriage is to be there for each other in good or bad. Dharam and Durga are far apart even though they're together.

Marriage needs, love, trust, emotional connect and understanding. I am not even talking about the romancing.

Durga and Dharam don't have love that's for sure and they simply don't connect. For understating, one needs to have communication and both of them rarely talk. If Durga understood Dharam, she'd know he doesn't love her back. And if she loved him, she'd want him to stay happy. So I don't see them as a proper couple.

Did Dharam tell her Durga was dead? I don't recall Meera ever asking about his first wife.

Meera and Dharam may not be married, but they love each other now. Radha Krishna didn't marry but their love is eternal 😳

The fountain example is good but then all the relationships in this show are bound to break then. Ahem and Gopi married, he didn't tell her about his gf. Jigar and Rashi married, Jigar didn't know Rashi fooled him into marriage. They lasted...

Shravan is hiding from vidhya, will they last?

And Dharam isn't even lying to Meera anymore, before he didn't love her hence, he didn't bother clarifying anything. If Meera asked him, he'd want to tell her for sure.

@Bold Thats you assuming things. Who said Dharam doesn't like Durga for that reason? The reason hasn't even been told yet, saying that is unfair. It's a very stereotypical approach, just because he's older and Meera is younger, automatically he will like her for her beauty -_-

Actually in the initial days of their marriage, Dharam warned Meera to not even think about them two ever having a relationship. He wouldn't say that if he was oh so crazy about her beauty.

He fell in love with her personality and beauty is a cherry on top. Dharam isn't some ugly man either, he can get beautiful girls if he wanted to be that kind of man.

That's like saying Meera loves Dharam because he's rich. Very unfair judgement.

Cooking & cleaning are the part of household work. Durga has performed all the duties as a wife without expecting anything from Dharam & he has told her that in actual terms, she has fulfilled all the duties of a wife & also admitted that he could not do the same. What happened between them has not been revealed as yet. There are so many things that has to be unfolded in which misunderstanding can be a part of it. Gaura convinced Meera to marry Dharam by giving a false pic that Dharam is without his wife so she can fill it & even Dharam was supporting her for her revenge. How can you compare dheera with Radha-Krishna? They are no where close to Radha & Krishna. Ahem hid about his gf from Gopi but she got to know that from Kinjal. She was also ready to step out with dignity but it was Urmila & Rashi who was controlling her life. She was a puppet in their hands. But Kokila did ask Ahem about her choice & that was the right rime for Ahem to open up which he didn't. That is why there are frictions in their married life. Rashi fooled Jigar & married him but Rashi is no more. So relationships break after death.
@bold: That is not an assumption. Gaura told this to Durga that if she was attractive or intelligent, Dharam would have stuck to her. We still don't know the reason why Dharam does not have those feelings for Durga or why he even married her in the first place but God/CV's forbid that, if Gaura's words turn out to be the real reason behind Dharam not loving Durga, it wont be acceptable to me. Love or no love once you have taken the plunge it cannot be undone. Who said that Meera married Dharam for money? At least, I didn't say that. Why will Meera even do that. Chirag has made a factory in her name even before she was born.

Originally posted by: xPalkix

Originally posted by: katrinasalman

Originally posted by: katrinasalman

When parents take responsibility, they will forego their interests. One of my friends want to study CA but he is having a family & business. Even if he wants to do, it is not possible for him as he is married & is a father of 2 children. CA is a subject where time needs to be invested to clear the exam & many fail in that. Even if parents are not doing any favor to them, it is their moral responsibility to look after them. Rich or poor, the children's demands should be within the capacity of their parents. Money cannot purchase everything. It has got limitations. I agree with you on that part that Meera is forcing Dharam to accept Durga. she is only staying in that house because of the cooling time & will leave once she gets the divorce. Actually, divorce is not needed as having a second wife without being a divorcee or a widower is not considered as a marriage in the first place. But the court wants the proof for that. Meera loved Sanskar & had eloped with him but he didn't love her & did not intend to marry her. If he was a right guy for her, why would Ahem & Gopi disagree for their marriage? Meera might have made a right choice regarding Dharam but at the wrong time.

I didn't say it's right for the child to forget their parent after they reach adulthood. I did say that they shouldn't forget the love and care their parents gave. They still don't owe anything but it wouldn't be ethically and morally right if you just viewed your parents as a caretaker.

Here the question isn't about Meera taking care of them, it's about her life. It would be wrong of the Modis to expect her to give up her love for them. Right now with the whole confusion of Durga, it's the correct decision. But if they get Durga divorced and they still object then I would find that wrong of them.

Exactly, that's what we were saying, if there marriage was null why the hell is divorce relevant? 😕 Plus why is Meera still wearing the mangalsutra, screams hypocrite to me. On one hand, she's trying to patch Durga and Dharam and on the other hand, she is wearing the symbol of their marriage 😆

I don't think Meera loved Saanskar tbh She was doing it to escape the Modis. Plus, she never cried for him the way she did for Dharam.

Proper or improper has to be decided before taking a plunge not after marriage. Did the interview say that Shravan is not Dharam's kid & Durga is not his wife. I see the video spoiler that has been posted but it is not working. But at least till that time Shravan is his son & Durga is his wife. a cake cannot do without main ingredient but in a marriage one does not get ready-made stuff whether it is arranged marriage or love marriage. One needs to put in a lot of efforts to make a place for themselves in their spouses heart & have the capacity to deal with the most critical situations.

Yeah but I don't buy the Durga story. I don't believe she is his wife. At least not until it's confirmed anyway. So I don't think it's easy to comment on this issue. Even if Dharam married her out of his own will, it doesn't mean he has to stay with her forever. Especially when there's no hope in the marriage. The interview 😕

Arre you're not understanding the cake example 😆 Without the flour and butter, it won't matter how much you beat the batter, it won't be a cake. Without love or even an understanding, the marriage is not a marriage. What is the purpose of a marriage? The partner is supposed to be your other half, Dharam and Durga are nowhere near that. They even act like complete strangers sometimes.

@Bold Yeah exactly. This is even more serious cus you can't even go around the corner shop and buy love. It's either there or not there. At least with flour and eggs, you can get it easily 😆

One sided love is not a crime as I said earlier. Dharam beat himself for Meera & I have mentioned in that post that it is utter madness. If I am saving my spouse putting my life at stake, that is true love & if I punish myself for his mistake, it is insanity. Dharam did the latter. Btw, I told that he didn't perform the duties of a husband as far as Durga is concerned.

It's not a crime but it's not right either. Gopi said it herself. Durga may as well fall in love with the mirror, it'll make no difference to the situation.

It's not madness, it's his love for her that he can't even think of hurting her. In that situation it was either Guara or Meera and he chose both. He didn't hurt Meera and at the same time, he satisfied guaras plan of punishing Meera. Although it backfired on Guara.

I found the scene melodramatic but not insane. The tattoo scene is another story however...

Yeah and his duty involves love, he can't love Durga.

To be very honest, I don't think Durga is Dharam's wife and Sharavan isn't his son. The latter, I'm much more confident about. It's saathiya and more importantly, it's a show. There's a reason they've made Durga stay out of the house for ten years and them calling her manhoos is also another clue.

Can't say for sure that this is what'll happen but from what I am gathering, it is leading that way.

If this doesn't happen then the cvs have no chill cus they'll keep Dheera and the khichdi of relationships 😆 I don't really care as long as Dheera are together 😳 But for those who want this show to have 'morals' then that'll be an ideal solution.

Originally posted by: xPalkix

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