The Treatment of Rashi on Show

Ok this is going to be a long one. It comes about as a result of some truly awful and negative comments i've seen on here, the perception that these types of shows give to the general public, and in particular the image of women they portray in this show.

Last night's show was a case in point. We had a plot point of Jigar losing his rag at almost losing his child. Blaming no one else but Rashi for the incident. Now here's the strange bit. The lady that was being pushed, physically abused in front of countless strangers and family was his wife (the one who equally as him, was distraught). The crime she committed as per shown on the show was she left child in the safe' hands of her mother. Surely, surely the father has seen this, but no...it is implied from the show that only the female can be responsible for the upbringing and safety of her child, and if anything should go wrong, boy there is hell to pay.

The poor girl's insecurities from constant severe verbal chastisement from a mean aunt (not even mother in law, I might add, it's an aunt), over petty things like (below)

are one of the root causes for her tricks and a perceived injustice. Now I'm not saying Rashi is perfect. Far from it, we have seen the girl manipulate and play some dirty tricks for sure. This is the antagonist side of the character, which Jigar (and no one else saw in the early days)...and thus have no reason to go ape over.

Not wearing sari correctly.

Too much make up.

Not waking up early enough.

Not being religious enough.

Not having things done for master Jigar (who I might remind you is not a kid)!.

Breaking a dish.

Not singing nicely enough.

Not being better than her Daughter in Law.

Talking to her mum.

Going out with her husband.

Being into celebrities.

Not cleaning properly.

Not coming on time to stop her niece from crying.

Seen in the corridor at the wrong time.

Not making the dishes as delicious as it should be.

Wanting to buy nice clothes.

Not naming her own kids.

Is this a house, or family that any girl (including the saint Gopi) would want to move into. It is a nightmare house. It is constantly reminded through one character or another that someone (always female) is the one who will be kicked out of the grand house if they do something wrong. How pathetic is that. How can they show women being treated like slaves, and objects that the men can shout, abuse, and throw away any time they so wish. It is then up to the woman to apologise, realise her rightful place, and go back to being just mum'.

We also see such behaviour as Kokila insulting and forcing the marriage of her son.

It is a scandal that not many on here, or implied on the show mentioned anything about the physical abuse that was meted out by the husband. It is the way women are treated in these shows that are often reflected again in certain parts of our society. 😡

You're right.

Yes you r exactly right.
Rasi also a member of the house.
Rasi did some good deeds also.
As she saves meera .and
she saves the house from the maids.
What ever jiger did is very wrong.
He bashed her alot.
What ever rasi is doing now is correct.
I know that rasi did wrong in the influence of radha.
So jiger has to talk rasi before taking this decision.



IF IAM WRONG DONT BASH ME
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KyaHai, I agree 100%. Sadly, this is how most of Indians think - that the ideal woman should be a mother and wife first, and what she wants for herself is completely irrelevant. The Modis is a traiditonal family, a patriarchal family where there are certain very strict rules. Only men can go outside (officially to earn money, but in reality nobody checks what they are doing the whole day and what they do - they can do whatever they want, because they are not constantly monitored 24/7 like their wives in the house). The society is slowly changing but only in metros, especially in the families with young professionals, where females are also educated and want to work to earn money. Sadly, in other levels of the sociaty, including the rich business class (like the Modis) the tradition has remained unchanged. Even if the girl is educated, she must never earn money or go out alone - after she marries she must stay at home and only tend to the family.

It will take another 100 years for this thinking to change.

In our Indian society people think it's fine if the husband gets physical with his wife when the wife commits a mistake.Most of the time a abusive husband gets way stating the same reason.

What is happening in the show also happens in real life too. If one DIL is like our Gopi devi then the others have to suffer because people always compare just like Kagadi does all the time.

You're only looking at one side of the argument here.

Some of the points you have made TM are valid. There is no harm in wanting a nice life, nice things and being your own person. But what Rashi has done since her marriage to Jigar is to belittle, crib, gripe and push him away most of the time. He adored Rashi, even overlooked her odd behaviour when she was in cahoots with her mother. True he should have not yelled and pushed her in public, that was not the place. Within the confines of home, however, is a different story. He let rip at her, venting his anger and pent up feelings at that time. How would any man feel if a woman denies his children and then continues to lie to him when he had heard for himself.