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Originally posted by: SRKLuvr

But my problem is that at that time Koki never had any honest intentions choosing Gopi as her bahu. I still remember her saying she wanted a girl who would be her bahu first and Ahem's wife later. She put her son's happiness on the line she didn't care for his feelings and in the process she ruined Anita's life also. Koki thinks being a good bahu you have to be able to cook well and sing well. I mean wth? Is that all a woman is about? As to Anita seeing Ahem on her wedding day well I think even I would be reacting in an odd nostalgic way seeing my ex at my wedding but she was more than happy to marry that other loser Nilesh and she even believed that she had married him for sometime. Maybe the fact that she had been dumped by two men and that she had no one else left in the world became her breaking point.

I disagree.. Koki wanted a bahu, correct.. Someone who would stay under her and not take her son away from her. Correct. When you are so much into seeing Anitha's PoV, I am surprised that a possessive mother's POV is no taken into consideration. A girl who in her love of a few years can be possessive but a mother cannot?

Right, but that is not the point. Koki got the girl of her choice. She may have been like that in the beginning but once she realized her mistake, it has been Koki who has given this relationship between Ahem and Gopi a chance. Plus, I do not think the criteria of a good bahu is singing and cooking according to Koki..

It is about staying in a family. that means, thinking of a bunch of people, not just the two of them... A family is not just a husband and a wife. It is made of numerous others..

The cooking was not cooking. I think you got that part wrong. It was about how Gopi does things as her duty happily and does not have selfish or money minded reasons. Serving an elder should not be done for nek or even Ashirvaad. It is something that has to come on its own, done without expecting benefits..

The competition was in Anitha's mind. Koki just showed how wrong she was.

As to your point on Anitha being rejected twice. Very true. I was also sorry for her at the beginning. She had a hard deal. But you know what, she ruined it herself.

Koki and Ahem may be the reason for her pain last year and they more than made up for it. Especially Ahem. Anitha never got over her past. However painful a failed love is, it cannot come over life.

Another point. Just because she was hurt gives her no right to hurt someone like Gopi who was nothing but kind to her. Anitha was just disgusting🤢
Her amnesia seems to be a temporary pain. Look at her.. She is superficial. She wants to rule over all and thinks everybody else is downmarket. So I wonder if her amnesia was the product of wanting to show Ahem that she indeed had a great life. Fine. .She did it..

The loser Nilesh as you say, actually came back to apologize. What happened on their marriage day is difficult to digest even for the groom. He realized and came to ask for forgiveness.. It was Anitha who wantedly shamed him. Let us say, she was indeed correct for just a second.

Aravind is the new groom she had a chance to make her life with. Ahem is married for God sake and whether he likes Gopi or not, he did not give Anita n iota of indication that he loved her still. But Anitha still made sure that the marriage with a decent guy who did not mind her past did not take place.. Well done Anitha👏

Not everyone is strong from inside like Gopi is and such incidents can leave you severely out of confidence with low self esteem and to try deny that to yourself you pump up your ego thinking it will protect you from the hurt and you start to grow resentful. I mean I just feel bad for her - her turning this way I don't know its an adverse reaction to pain and humiliation and its really not the real Anita.

Why should anybody pity her. She has continued using your same excuse, she was a victim earlier to create havoc. That is no excuse

As for your last sentence about opportunity to find another husband well the first two men she loved left her so both turned out to be jerks. Its very hard to trust a man with your life after that or even love again ok once failed you can give it another go and she did but twice hurt...then its very difficult. Koki may say it and think a girl whose been hurt so many times can just do it easily but it really doesn't happen that way😭

I again disagree. I do not think she loved Nilesh at all.. And as for her love for Ahem, it was proved how much she loves him yesterday.. She loves herself, just like Rashi.

Ahem was her obsession. He was handsome, a trophy, a model person. She wanted him. She almost had him but for his mother.

She cared naught for the family. Her words on the song she sang are ample proof about her superficiality.

As for Nilesh. I do not blame him. Yes. He acted badly on their marriage day. But he did come back to apologize. Ahem wronged her, yes. But he also tried his best to make up for that mistake..

Originally posted by: Justlikethat1

Answers in Blue.. I disagree on your points.😃

Originally posted by: doc4ever

Loved reading this!! 😊 It made a whole lot of sense!!

The points in pink are just too good!!

Originally posted by: SRKLuvr

But my problem is that at that time Koki never had any honest intentions choosing Gopi as her bahu. I still remember her saying she wanted a girl who would be her bahu first and Ahem's wife later. She put her son's happiness on the line she didn't care for his feelings and in the process she ruined Anita's life also.

When Koki went wife hunting for Aham she had no idea he was seeing another girl, when she came back with the picture, Aham did not disclose he was seeing another girl, he instead said he supported his mum's choice in wife for him. The matter of Anita only reared it's ugly head on Gohem's engagement on seeing Aham's distraction on his engagement when they were putting each other the rings, then Koki found out who this girl was and went to challenge her to say she was not suitable for her son, based on the background Anita had...we can see this right?

It's being accomplished in homemaking skills (the cooking and crafts) but also to be obedient to the elders, Anita looks on in scorn at any traditional values. She expressed contempt at the Modi's rituals of aarti in the morning (she has never attended), the way they leave they lives, she wants to travel, visit upmarket shops, the Modi women hardly leave home, they stay in doors all day and attend the market for vegetables like a middle class woman does, they may be wealth but the wives go around in rickshaws, to the market. But all the time Anita harps on about Monday market cheap clothing, nail polishes, she eats western foods, she orders out food, so I think had Aham married her she would have not managed to be a Modi.

We have seen Aham is never one to go against his mother, again and again, and he is happy to have the mother have the reigns of his life, only when his mother is happy is he content. His a momma's boy. But Aham was wrong to date Anita knowing his mother would find a wife for him, but young people don't know what values are really do they, he probably thought she was right for him but over this year he has seen Anita was not right for him but Gopi is right, because her character matches his Khaki's character, she doesn't want arguments in the house, she's accomplished in all that is required by the Modi's.

Anita took a risk to get involved with Aham and never meeting his family, we don't know how long they dated, if it was a long time, she should have met them and reassured herself that the family approved her and an understanding was made with them that she would be accepted, she never did that. Again she took a risk, when Nilesh, who was right to call of the wedding to Anita, when he caught her and Aham and her not speaking, Aham not speaking, they gave them the opportunity to explain why they were on the bed together, but neither spoke up. Anita then made it worse to send him on his way when he came to apologise and work things through, she screamed at him (again you see her upbringing???) and told him to get out. Blaming him entirely on the hope that she could guilt Aham to divorce Gopi and be with her, because he caused the misunderstanding with the phonecalls, but when she remembered everything with Nilesh and she caught Aham calling her.

But I see where you are coming from when she was dumped by Nilesh she lost her memory yes, but she had complete organ failure. So it was too much for her, and she lost a bit of her mind with the shock of it all.

As for your last sentence about opportunity to find another husband well the first two men she loved left her so both turned out to be jerks. Its very hard to trust a man with your life after that or even love again ok once failed you can give it another go and she did but twice hurt...then its very difficult. Koki may say it and think a girl whose been hurt so many times can just do it easily but it really doesn't happen that way😭

Yes I agree with you here, you don't change who you love overnight. So perhaps either she goes away and puts herself together again to marry in a years time like last time, or she bites the bullet now and go for it now, marry Arvind who she has already accepted and he has too, so traditionally they are betrothed, if she takes a year out and forget men take up painting or something else, she will find someone else to fall in love with, but time is against her she needs to settle down (age) and to be honest when you get married and the wifely duties and everything keep you busy and she will forget Aham.

Originally posted by: SRKLuvr

Hmm well I hope then that she marries this Arvind guy for her own sake. Wait...he is a nice guy right😊

Originally posted by: Nafisa_blossoms

Who knows we just saw the matchmaker, punditji, bring the picture and explain his profile, and Koki asked Anita, she agreed, Arvind and his family were called to Modi Bhavan and Arvind was all smiling and approving the family asked if Arvind could have some few moments alone with Antia and they went off to the terrace together and Arvind told her that he approves of the marriage and she also, and they came to confirm this to everyone and they were discussing wedding dates with the punditji who will officiate the marriage in the next coming month.

So we don't know much about him, like if he has any ulterior motive, and I don't think from the SNS point of view they will show it, because that would be taking the story away from Gopi who is narrating the story right, so they will keep within the limits of Gopi's life and how Anita affects her directly.