My take - Page 4

Originally posted by: munnihyderabad

i never had or have any doubts of his behavior... he is the most desirable and most lovable husband...

but spare the guy of this so called dark spot... in the process of coming together it is always linked to his past behavior...let go off it now in the proces

i am more than 100% confident about him... that he will make up to more than what he did in the past.

Originally posted by: Justlikethat1

I am more than confident about that Munni.👍🏼 You see, Aham changed not because he came to know of the atrocities Rashi, Urmi and Kinjal played on his wife, nor because she almost died but because he realized her goodness and understood her..
He is a good man Munni. No denying that fact. It showed even in his hate when he helped her.. And he never ever took advantage of the fact that he was her husband..
He is his mother's son. A man of principles. His past is just a blip but he will surely make that one spot disappear in the long run.. 😃

Originally posted by: shruts18

Harini n Munni...I m not saying for this one Kadhi incidence...she's just too over protective for me...maybe she'll adjust with time and understand the changes in son are natural ...Koki is not b/w them but she's completely not out of it as well! Her too much tradiitonal approach sometimes gets on my nerves😆

Originally posted by: munnihyderabad

shruti... when in a joint family...

a mom cannot be completely out of her son and DIL's life

a mom cannot stay away from her son,..without talking.

can not restrain herself from taking care of her son

can not stay away completely cut off from their son and bahu...

her son and bahu are sleeping in their own room''

she is not asking he bahu to sleep with her... if this is yes then we can say she has to move out from them

traditional approach - i did not get this ...what traditional approach of koki made a gap between gopi and Ahemji

Originally posted by: ShaunSA

Shruthi you are asking something which is just about impossible for most mums. No matter how old her son or daughter gets he/she will always be a child to his/her mother.

I have seen this with my mother and countless other mothers. They will tell you to wear a jersey if they feel you should be wearing a jersey even when you are an adult.You would think they will know that you know when to wear a jersey. But nope. They will still tell you. Or they will ask if you ate. Or if you ate enough. Or why didn't you paint your house that colour instead of the one you chose. Or why did you waste money on going to town when you didn't need to. I could go on...

It's part of being a mother methinks. They always seem to know better then their kids.

I have learnt to listen to my mum or my mil's advice and then do exactly what I want.

Originally posted by: shruts18

But when he massaged her feet, she barged in ...

- for kokila, the first and foremost thing with top priority is work... all the things come later...
just a week before the oil massage, Ahemji was late to work... there was a call on land line ... it's an urgent meeting...and when she asks him the reason... he said he played ludo with his wife...till late night
so on the feet massage ... day she was making sure he slept on time and wake up early in the morning for work... she does not want his work to be disturbed... you do whatever you want but not let the work to be distracted...
on the head wash day she still did not utter a word... because she was upset with him for the remarks he made in the kitchen when gopi was about to faint

When they were sitting together in movie hall, she told them not to...

in the theater it was back of koki's mind why did Ahem take us for a movie all of a sudden what's cooking that Ahem is leaving work and going to mandir the previous day...movie the next day...she was trying to speculate the things going on between them...and she even asks gopi vahu if they are hiding anything...

koki is just being cautious in knowing what her son and bahu are into so that they don't land themselves in any trouble

If he asks her to serve him tea, she interferes...

by asking gopi vahu not to go to Ahem or obstructing her from attending to Ahem...she is again making both of them realize the importance of each other..making them desperate and eager to be with one another she is doing this with her statement ...

yes she has donned the cap of a strict mother to both of them...to set them straight,,,

she is mom to gopi vahu and ahem dikra,..,

If he is little late for office, she inquires...

- for kokila, the first and foremost thing with top priority is work... all the things come later...reason being parag's failure

- she punished him for the very same reason...by not sending him to work and making him do the house work... she wanted Ahem to realize the importance of office work...to make him desperate to go and work...

- she want's her son not to be distracted from work...

She is having too much control over her son and she should let loose...

i think shaun, myself and harini answered the same question in 3 different ways..hope u reasd it

And traditionional in the sense...that he has to sleep on time, get up on time!

sleep on time and wake up on time is a routine of a family, here in US the americans have their dinner at 6 p,m sleep by 9 pm... thats their routine... in joint families these rules are followed very stringently

And that husband should only concentrate upon work and not wife as was done two decades back...her son is grown up now and knows what to do or not and even if he'll do mistakes,he'll learn slowly...but she still keeps a check on each and every single thing!

play with your wife or you care for your wife (some of us think that she does not want a them to be together... it's not right she wants them together as long as it does not interfere with his schedule)

thats a mom who is living under same roof and she cannot keep away from her son and bahu

Originally posted by: munnihyderabad

well said guys

shaun... there is not an ounce of ego in him... gopi already took over his ego

and abay he will make up to her... eventually

but he is not mean and nasty,,,, it's the kalakaries and the stupidity of his wife which led to his behavior,...

in that situation, when the illiteracy thing, the necklace thing came up,,,that is when he slapped her... and any man with a heart and mind in the right place would do the same as what he did...

so he did not hit her out of evilness and hatred,... it was out of frustration and anger triggered by the kalakaries...

so i would say he was not wrong in that situation... it was a misunderstanding between them which he will eventually erase it with his love and trust

Originally posted by: shruts18

Shaun you said it yourself!

Shaun its not about them giving advice...its about them giving advice and we have to listen and follow it as well...here Ahem has to listen to it, follow it and not repeat the same thing again or he'll be punished!

If she was just giving advice, it was fine...but she's so strict to the point that they should abide by everything that she says...

I know she wants good for everyone but in her own ways and her ways are not everyone's likes...

Originally posted by: shruts18

I think this slap thing has been dragged too much...ppl do get lil rough once in a while in married life...after all that is what marriage is...bittersweet!

If Ahem is very strict and reserve and wants things to be perfect and in no nonsense way, then nothing is wrong in it!

I just thought about it...when your wife orders a jewelry worth 5lakhs, then its a big sum and needs to have approval...and if one says that Ahem didnt go into the details, then she also didnt ask or tell him anything after getting the necklace...

She's too naive at times when it comes to keeping her point in front of everyone!

Unless one stands up for oneself, nobody listens these days...but our Golden boy has understood his wife and not just listening to her but adhering to it as well these days...

All said and done...I want Ahem to help Gopi in standing up for herself and know the difference b/w right and wrong...and he should be compassionate enough, which he's already showing, to make her overcome her fear and awkwardness in front of him!😊