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I may be old fashioned in my thinking but I am going to voice an unpopular opinion. Everyone is calling Gopi dumb, brainless and stupid (I really feel offended when people call her that) because she is helping Raji. But isn't that how Indian culture is. We are supposed to help our family. It is western culture that says leave people alone to sort out their problems their own way.
I am sorry, but if I was in place of Gopi, I would do the same for my sister and brother in law and before you start throwing rocks at me, here are my reasons:
1. Rashi and I share the same blood and I have lived with her for 20 years. I was treated badly both by my maami and Rashi before I got married, but still forgave them. Just because I am married now, how can I change my attitude towards her especially now that I have the love and support of my in-laws whereas before, I had nothing. If I didn't become bitter then, how can I turn away from Rashi now. She is my older sister who I look up to. Moreover, I am who I am - a sweet, loving, and forgiving person. I can't and won't change even if you call me stupid.
2. Rashi may be a witch, but I haven't always seen all her kalakaris (most of them failed, right). I only know about a few of them and feel she did them for some misguided reason to help me. Remember, we as viewers know more about Rashi than Gopi does.
3. Not only Rashi, but devarji is also suffering and along with them, kakaji and kakiji too. How long can this keep going?
4. Others on this forum will say instead of helping her I should guide her in becoming a better person, but I see the change in her. She is working in the kitchen more and she has helped me during my recovery.
5. No matter what, Rashi is here to stay unless Jigarji and the elders in the family talk about divorcing her. Again, I will try to fight it if they say they are going to divorce.
6. As far as paying attention to my own relationship with Ahamji, I am doing all that I can. I don't know what extra things I need to do next. Ahamji is paying more attention to me but I don't know if it is just friendly. He has said to me before that he dressed my wound out of concern for a fellow human being, so all this concern may be just that. He has to make the next move.
7. For the last time, I did not get Ahamji involved in the Raji matter. He decided on his own. Ahamji is older and wiser, and my husband, I can't refuse him anything. How could I stop him, when I was seeing this caring side of Ahamji that I had never seen before? And I got to talk to him, spend more time with him and plan things with him that I had never done before. Although I didn't, but would you blame me if I told him about more household problems if it meant I will have more time with my Ahamji.
Sorry for the long post, I don't think it is Gopi's fault that CV's turned this positive track into negative. We cheered at first because the track meant more Gohem bonding. If they had shown at the end of track that Aham was craving for closeness with Gopi when he saw how close Raji had become, we would all be calling Gopi brainy. I believe it is not Gopi, but the CV's who are stupid, brainless, and dumb. They have turned something good and beautiful into bad and ugly.
I am sorry, but if I was in place of Gopi, I would do the same for my sister and brother in law and before you start throwing rocks at me, here are my reasons:
1. Rashi and I share the same blood and I have lived with her for 20 years. I was treated badly both by my maami and Rashi before I got married, but still forgave them. Just because I am married now, how can I change my attitude towards her especially now that I have the love and support of my in-laws whereas before, I had nothing. If I didn't become bitter then, how can I turn away from Rashi now. She is my older sister who I look up to. Moreover, I am who I am - a sweet, loving, and forgiving person. I can't and won't change even if you call me stupid.
2. Rashi may be a witch, but I haven't always seen all her kalakaris (most of them failed, right). I only know about a few of them and feel she did them for some misguided reason to help me. Remember, we as viewers know more about Rashi than Gopi does.
3. Not only Rashi, but devarji is also suffering and along with them, kakaji and kakiji too. How long can this keep going?
4. Others on this forum will say instead of helping her I should guide her in becoming a better person, but I see the change in her. She is working in the kitchen more and she has helped me during my recovery.
5. No matter what, Rashi is here to stay unless Jigarji and the elders in the family talk about divorcing her. Again, I will try to fight it if they say they are going to divorce.
6. As far as paying attention to my own relationship with Ahamji, I am doing all that I can. I don't know what extra things I need to do next. Ahamji is paying more attention to me but I don't know if it is just friendly. He has said to me before that he dressed my wound out of concern for a fellow human being, so all this concern may be just that. He has to make the next move.
7. For the last time, I did not get Ahamji involved in the Raji matter. He decided on his own. Ahamji is older and wiser, and my husband, I can't refuse him anything. How could I stop him, when I was seeing this caring side of Ahamji that I had never seen before? And I got to talk to him, spend more time with him and plan things with him that I had never done before. Although I didn't, but would you blame me if I told him about more household problems if it meant I will have more time with my Ahamji.
Sorry for the long post, I don't think it is Gopi's fault that CV's turned this positive track into negative. We cheered at first because the track meant more Gohem bonding. If they had shown at the end of track that Aham was craving for closeness with Gopi when he saw how close Raji had become, we would all be calling Gopi brainy. I believe it is not Gopi, but the CV's who are stupid, brainless, and dumb. They have turned something good and beautiful into bad and ugly.
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