I may be old fashioned - Page 3

Lovely post!! Cant agree with you more!!

Originally posted by: Xarina

I am not quite sure where to stand on this. I love Gopi's character to bits and have always done so since the start. She is too good for this world and people will take advantage of this. Be it her sister. maami, mother in law or husband. They have not and will not put her first. Regarding calling her dumb. That she is not. But sometimes, I just wish she was a little bit more savvy. If anything she has an excellent mind and can troubleshoot matters in her own way. I want her one day to stand up and command the respect she is due for I believe that in times of crisis it is her words that have offered a solution. In other words, I don't like seeing her as a doormat and just wish to shake her and tell her to get a backbone.

Originally posted by: aris22l

I may be old fashioned in my thinking but I am going to voice an unpopular opinion. Everyone is calling Gopi dumb, brainless and stupid (I really feel offended when people call her that) because she is helping Raji. But isn't that how Indian culture is. We are supposed to help our family. It is western culture that says leave people alone to sort out their problems their own way.

I am sorry, but if I was in place of Gopi, I would do the same for my sister and brother in law and before you start throwing rocks at me, here are my reasons:

1. Rashi and I share the same blood and I have lived with her for 20 years. I was treated badly both by my maami and Rashi before I got married, but still forgave them. Just because I am married now, how can I change my attitude towards her especially now that I have the love and support of my in-laws whereas before, I had nothing. If I didn't become bitter then, how can I turn away from Rashi now. She is my older sister who I look up to. Moreover, I am who I am - a sweet, loving, and forgiving person. I can't and won't change even if you call me stupid.

2. Rashi may be a witch, but I haven't always seen all her kalakaris (most of them failed, right). I only know about a few of them and feel she did them for some misguided reason to help me. Remember, we as viewers know more about Rashi than Gopi does.

3. Not only Rashi, but devarji is also suffering and along with them, kakaji and kakiji too. How long can this keep going?

4. Others on this forum will say instead of helping her I should guide her in becoming a better person, but I see the change in her. She is working in the kitchen more and she has helped me during my recovery.

5. No matter what, Rashi is here to stay unless Jigarji and the elders in the family talk about divorcing her. Again, I will try to fight it if they say they are going to divorce.

6. As far as paying attention to my own relationship with Ahamji, I am doing all that I can. I don't know what extra things I need to do next. Ahamji is paying more attention to me but I don't know if it is just friendly. He has said to me before that he dressed my wound out of concern for a fellow human being, so all this concern may be just that. He has to make the next move.

7. For the last time, I did not get Ahamji involved in the Raji matter. He decided on his own. Ahamji is older and wiser, and my husband, I can't refuse him anything. How could I stop him, when I was seeing this caring side of Ahamji that I had never seen before? And I got to talk to him, spend more time with him and plan things with him that I had never done before. Although I didn't, but would you blame me if I told him about more household problems if it meant I will have more time with my Ahamji.

Sorry for the long post, I don't think it is Gopi's fault that CV's turned this positive track into negative. We cheered at first because the track meant more Gohem bonding. If they had shown at the end of track that Aham was craving for closeness with Gopi when he saw how close Raji had become, we would all be calling Gopi brainy. I believe it is not Gopi, but the CV's who are stupid, brainless, and dumb. They have turned something good and beautiful into bad and ugly.

Wow this is an amazing post! Outstanding !

lovely reasoning...i love Gopi vau for her pure n innocent soul ...only that she's smart enough to not let Rashi or anyone else hurt her or her relationship with Ahem by any means , and only Ahem can teach her to do this, no one else!!!

I agree to the topic maker. Very nice post indeed and I always love gopi for her innocence

Great topic and cool OP.

Originally posted by: kamjal

wow love the way you have summed up Gopi's character and you are right it's the cvs fault but at the same time we have to know that we also love Gopi's character due to the cvs but because Gopi is at the forefront ( in our presence ) that's why we blame her just like if she did some thing commendable like saving herself from the kidnappers we praised Gopi so likewise in this case too we blame her for what's happening.

I just want to correct you on one thing and may be to all that have this not so nice notion that the west are not family oriented and would have let their children handle their own problem. Well I assure you that is not the case as am non indian living in the west and most people who have problems turn to their family for support and guidance.

I agree with what you are saying. I apologize for making that thoughtless comment about the western culture. You are right. I should not stereotype. I should know better. I have seen plenty of Western people who make sacrifices and there are plenty others who are selfish too. So there are all kinds of people out there. I didn't mean to offend anyone. I am sorry for that remark. It is just that in Indian serials and movies, there is a lot of preaching about how one should sacrifice themselves for their families and help each other. The help they provide in these serials is almost interference but it is shown as being good with end results being positive. That is what I was trying to point to; how it is portrayed in fictional world. Didn't mean to be offensive.

Originally posted by: ShaunSA

Great topic and cool OP.

I have to admit that the one thing that makes me mad the most about SNS is the character development from the CV's.

Apart from Aham not a single character is showing change and development.

You cannot expect a girl to be married for over a year and still be the same. There must be changes, improvements, some sign that her life has changed.

And yet with Gopi we see nothing. She is still the same Rashi behn Rashi behn chanter that we saw initially.

Come on Cv's. It's time for some change guys! Don't leave it for the last episode and then show us a new Gopi. Show us her changes over the weeks and months! Make her stronger! You know you can!

Originally posted by: aris22l

I agree with what you are saying. I apologize for making that thoughtless comment about the western culture. You are right. I should not stereotype. I should know better. I have seen plenty of Western people who make sacrifices and there are plenty others who are selfish too. So there are all kinds of people out there. I didn't mean to offend anyone. I am sorry for that remark. It is just that in Indian serials and movies, there is a lot of preaching about how one should sacrifice themselves for their families and help each other. The help they provide in these serials is almost interference but it is shown as being good with end results being positive. That is what I was trying to point to; how it is portrayed in fictional world. Didn't mean to be offensive.