how selfish can nitika be??

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IshaMish

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Posted: 13 years ago

#11

are nitika ji.. aap itni bhi so called 'naukri wali' na bane.. thodi madad kara dengi to kya bigad jayega apka.. 11 logo ke chote se parivaar me.. wo bhi tab jab malti ji to patta bhi nahi hila sakti.. 🤣

ek din kar ke dekhiye itna kaam.. kamar toot jayegi apki

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-Morgoth-

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Posted: 13 years ago

#12

Originally posted by: abc113

My response was specifically to videosearcher's post (about Toasty) and not the to the original poster. You have to read my other posts elsewhere to understand my POV on Nitika.

abc, it was not directed at you. I was going to post it and thought that sentence is apt to quote. So though I quoted you it still was my comment in general about the situation. :)

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-Morgoth-

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Posted: 13 years ago

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Originally posted by: abc113

In Toasty's case, you will have to admit that she is GIVING respect (and love) to C-family and she is RECEIVING respect (and love) in return. Everyone in C-family including Pitaji is constantly comparing Toasty with the only woman they have learned to idolise, Vimla (their mother and Chedi's wife), what other honor could she ask for me in this family!

Call me a cynic or blame my psychology/med bg, when I see all the work loaded on one person then first thing that comes to my mind is 'taken for granted'. It is very easy to dump the load on one person and expect them to do everything and call it respect. When the person fails then easy to blame her too. I also find it annoying when one person takes on all the work and tries to keep everyone happy. I hope Nikita helps but I also hope that Ved is allowed to help in her place and also Toasty should let others do their work nd not stop. It's a show but it's applicable fr people in general too.

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abc113

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Posted: 13 years ago

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Originally posted by: -Morgoth-

Call me a cynic or blame my psychology/med bg, when I see all the work loaded on one person then first thing that comes to my mind is 'taken for granted'. It is very easy to dump the load on one person and expect them to do everything and call it respect. When the person fails then easy to blame her too. I also find it annoying when one person takes on all the work and tries to keep everyone happy. I hope Nikita helps but I also hope that Ved is allowed to help in her place and also Toasty should let others do their work nd not stop. It's a show but it's applicable fr people in general too.

No doubt C-family is taking advantage of Toasty from day one. Making a young girl cook 3 meals a day for 9-11 hatte-katte people everyday, do all the cleaning, laundry, ironing, etc is pure injustice. She is a bahu, a normal human being not a robot!

However, knowing how close-minded and self-absorbed C-men initially were especially Pitaji, Pashu and Prachin, I have no doubt in my mind that they have found respect and love for Toasty in these one and half years.

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videosearcher

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Posted: 13 years ago

#15

Originally posted by: abc113
videosearcher: The question of who is to be blamed comes only if Toasty is complaining, I never see her doing that so why play the blame game.

Many highly educated women are full-time home-maker by choice. That doesn't make them dumb or any less acceptable in society. One who chooses to do whatever gives happiness to oneself and to the people one loves, is the blessed one. And looking at how much love and respect she has given as well as gained in C-family, I think she is truly blessed.

Dear abc113 , I no where meant to say that Toasty is doing wrong by doing household work . The post topic was ' How selfish can nitika be' I meant to say that nitika shudnt be blamed for selfishness for the situation where toasty has to do everything bcoz thats Toasty's decision for the situation ( for which the viewers are getting sympathetic towards her) she is in today . She is definitely not complaining, but the Viewers are , that toasty has to do everything and Nitika is selfish etc. I just wanted to make a point that as toasty gave important to the household chores over her career , Nitika is giving importance to her career over household stuff. So if viewers sympathize with toasty blaming nitika is TOTALLY NOT FAIR.

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abc113

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Posted: 13 years ago

#16

Originally posted by: videosearcher

Dear abc113 , I no where meant to say that Toasty is doing wrong by doing household work . The post topic was ' How selfish can nitika be' I meant to say that nitika shudnt be blamed for selfishness for the situation where toasty has to do everything bcoz thats Toasty's decision for the situation ( for which the viewers are getting sympathetic towards her) she is in today . She is definitely not complaining, but the Viewers are , that toasty has to do everything and Nitika is selfish etc. I just wanted to make a point that as toasty gave important to the household chores over her career , Nitika is giving importance to her career over household stuff. So if viewers sympathize with toasty blaming nitika is TOTALLY NOT FAIR.

Thanks for explaining!

I have been wondering too why people are calling Nitika selfish. It is totally unfair. It was Toasty's decision to stay back at home and cook/clean and she is happy this way. That does not automatically imply that all other Bahus should follow her trend. Nitika is totally right in her choice of doing job and she is extremely lucky to have a friend like Toasty and husband like Ved who are willing to take extra pain to support their friend and wife respectively.

People who have problem with Nitika's job and attitude are expected to have similar feelings for rest of the C-men who are also getting it easy because of Toasty.

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NightStarr

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Posted: 13 years ago

#17

Hi SBS fans!!!

So I don't usually comment on this forum but I do read threads here and there about the show as I do watch the show. As I was reading the thread about Nitika being selfish and Toasty being all mighty for doing all work and all that I couldn't help but to want to share my two cents. I feel like there isn't one person to blame in this situation. And I know that a lot of people think that Nani ma is wrong but even she is right to a certain degree.
I will start with Nitika as the topic is made about her. She is not wrong to want to work even after her marriage as I feel like in today's society we have come far where women and men both should work and be equal but (and that BUT is might be the cause of the problem further in the future), she seems to think she has absolutely no responsibility towards house. I am not talking about her doing the dinner or other big chorus as they take more time but something as simple as washing the dishes after dinner as she is now home. Or making tea for everyone after dinner. I feel like Nitika was put on the spot because on numerous occasions she left her plate on the table after eating because she had to leave for work I mean come on no matter how busy your, you could at least take your plate to the kitchen if you don't have time to wash it. The whole taking the breakfast to Malti was another occasion that I thought Nitika handled well as Toasty didn't ask her to prepare Malti's breakfast but just drop it off in Malti's room on her way out.
Now Toasty: yes she is happy to do all the work as she has been doing it for a year or so but even then when she initially joined the C-family there were about 9 people but now there are more people and regardless of how hard she will try to handle all the work she won't be able to and due to all the work it will effect her marriage. If she is constantly tired and busy in house work it will eventually have a negative effect on her marriage and her relationship and once that happens she will blame others because they did not help her. Even if she doesn't come out right and blame them somewhere in her mind she will hold others responsible. (Or at least in real life something like this is bound to happen).
Now about Nani ma. I think her nariyal was a perfect award for her. I know some think that her thinking is old fashioned and all that and they are right to a degree but she is also good at heart and in one of the episodes she even said that she doesn't mind going with the new ways and world as long as it does not create any problems in one's life. I agree she is creating a big fuss over nothing but I don't think her way of thinking is wrong as she is trying to think about the future where one day Toasty does get annoyed at Nitika refusing to do something because she is tired of has to go to work. Nani ma is trying to prevent a problem that does has the possibility of happening as it doesn't matter how close of friends Nitika and Toasty are, if something goes wrong at work for Nitika and its due to some work that Toasty asked her to do she might hold her responsible and vise verse. I am not saying it will happen but that it has the potential of happening.

Ok Wow I think the wrote more than anyone, I hope I didn't bore anyone!

NightStarr

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