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Posted: 13 years ago
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Shraddha,

I think we all agree upon the fact that Indu is wrong and that Saanchi is annoying.

That Indu is in wrong, is a Period for us and therefore we girls all started giving out examples of stalkers. We do not fight a stalker as if we are trying to fight the ethically wrong issue. Here the issue is not about right or wrong. Here issue is about self-preservation. We need to protect ourselves and that is where we find Saanchi at fault. Instead of keeping the drama simple, she took it to heights.

Coming to kidnapping/threatening of Mehak in March for forceful acceptance.
****Mehak too provoked Indu Singh. Point is we cannot clash with the ego of a psychologically imbalanced person. While Saanchi was the primary reason for bad happening to Mehak, Mehak herself could have been acting calmly.
****This action from Indu came because he was publically rejected by Saanchi and not only that he was ridiculed by teachers and some students. The humiliation needed vent.
****I am not defending Indu Singh. I am only explained why we saw that action. Can we not expect that ? Can we not be careful ?

Indu forcefully trying to get married to Saanchi at gun-point --the first time
***This is where I took it as grey area in my first post yesterday and said if I was in Saanchi's place what would have happened to me...would I have been miraculously saved, would I have succumbed or would I have died...I don't know. But I have read newspaper stories where story ends with one or the other party getting killed...so there are untold stories where people might have escaped also. Survival/Death.

If in real life this happened to a girl, she might weigh pros and cons and decide what she can do about the situation. After all it is life and no drama. good thing is again...the girl is not being raped. Could she have sought police protection ? They did not show us this thing. Instead Saanchi had only gone to VC to seek help. That did not help her at all...so she was almost cornered. Now she is waging war against Indu Singh's atrocities...Probably that is Saanchi's answer to men like Indu. Can I call her the Bhanwari Devi types ?

There are Pakrua Vivaahs in Bihar where men are kidnapped and at gunpoint forced to marry women. This is a system to ward of the dowry demand. But whatever it is.. are those men waging wars with their wives and families or have they accepted their wives. I guess we can say 50 -50 chances either way.

Almost every story of this kind is MISFORTUNATE and UNFORTUNATE EVENT for the person who is subjected to this kind of humiliation. Then question is WHY we as the VIEWERS failed to sympathize with Saanchi from Day one. Weren't we supposed to ? Why did not the CVs seriously dramatize the girl's trauma and her ways to fight it and instead focussed on her tricks in getting away. As viewers we too need to get involved in the traumatized person's story so that we all come with solutions...but no such thing happened in this drama. That is the biggest slip of this show...

And now that game is on...we still are on the side of Saanchi and only pleading to first protect herself and later think about other things. Right now she is VICTIM. Then please act victimized and later address redressal for the situation. But again many have lamented...this is where Saanchi failed. She doesn't act or feel like a victim.

The show has lot of psychological loopholes. we have never complained before but the TRPs reflect that. Now we are debating so much because the silly SR over college grounds is outrageous to the viewers and we are not sure where this drama will end. We may feel tired and stop watching the show altogether.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Oh... selvi.. thanks for sharing ..
See that is what ... u have handle things smartly . First see the guy you are dealing with... then give it back to him.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Selvi, I do love you and definitely wouldn't want you tortured. My question, why didn't Mehak and her parents file complaint against Indu. I have never supported whatever Indu has done up until the forced wedding and have always been proud of Sanchi! Shraddha, am not debating that Indu is right, its another storey that its AD. I would have been happier if Sanchi had replied in person when Indu proposed for which I seriously would like to kill Shuklla and the entire Tiwari khandaan except Anita. Just coz Sanchi replied in the same manner he proposed, he went nuts. Indu has abused Mehak 3 times now, where are Mehak's parents and why haven't they stepped in to help their daughter. If the guy who harassed me for a year did anything similar to my friend and I, I would like to say, I would have gotten him arrested so fast, he wouldn't know what hit him! Just like Neelu has posted, support Sanchi but not her stupid ideas or her snobbish behaviour which just adds fuel to fire. Why make it a fiasco, when she knows what kinda person Indu is. What to expect from a gunda but yes, I had high expectation from Sanchi!
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: rashsharma40

Oh... selvi.. thanks for sharing ..

See that is what ... u have handle things smartly . First see the guy you are dealing with... then give it back to him.


BUT THAT DOESN'T MEAN BABY KI .. WE GIRLS ARE WEAK.. AND THESE GUYZZ SHOULD JUST WALK FREE AFTER COMMITTING SUCH CRIMES...

agar ye banda zyada haddh karta toh... which he was very capable of.. i had to hide my actual location from him...
but in sanchi-indu case.. he knew everything about her... he came to her place( i know he is also innocent) but pyaar paane ke zabardasti me usne usse aur durr karr dia..

think some1 locks you up in a classroom or kidnaps your friend... and forces you to say... by making your friend suffer infront of you.. and we girlss are very protective about our close ones.. the person who hurts them will definitely be your greatest enemy..( she didnt know good side of him)... MUs tha okk..
and sanchi made blunders ok.. that doesn't make indu look good..
both are at fault.. but sometimes to save yourself.. you sometimes make saome foolish decision and shez young...
both of them will make me mad someday... god help me..

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Posted: 13 years ago
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Selvi,

Each harassment story has underlying common trend and yet subjectively different.
You too have handled best in the way you could. You also did the first thing...preserving yourself.
Escape/avoidance cannot be called cowardice in this case. It is actually the prudent way as we have to be careful. In all such cases, family and friends ask us to be careful and not give any lee-way to the person who is harrassing us. in the end with our attention and care, we do win even as it takes time and patience.


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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: roshaeldsouza91


BUT THAT DOESN'T MEAN BABY KI .. WE GIRLS ARE WEAK.. AND THESE GUYZZ SHOULD JUST WALK FREE AFTER COMMITTING SUCH CRIMES...

agar ye banda zyada haddh karta toh... which he was very capable of.. i had to hide my actual location from him...
but in sanchi-indu case.. he knew everything about her... he came to her place( i know he is also innocent) but pyaar paane ke zabardasti me usne usse aur durr karr dia..

think some1 locks you up in a classroom or kidnaps your friend... and forces you to say... by making your friend suffer infront of you.. and we girlss are very protective about our close ones.. the person who hurts them will definitely be your greatest enemy..( she didnt know good side of him)... MUs tha okk..
and sanchi made blunders ok.. that doesn't make indu look good..
both are at fault.. but sometimes to save yourself.. you sometimes make saome foolish decision and shez young...
both of them will make me mad someday... god help me..
The mistake was of property papers and then sending him to jail... i am sure selvi ... u would have not got your personal pending work done from that guy . you are using him ... oh come on u cannt do this ...It is simply invitation to trouble.

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Posted: 13 years ago
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Great post Shri! Yes, self preservation is the word I was looking for. CV's probably didn't think this through as Sanchi fails to get sympathy. Why?? So, its okay to jump in guns blazing and to hell with trying to be safe? As a girl that's the first thing to keep in mind. Our schools teach girls to be safe, what are the CV's trying to say safety koh maaro goli as long as you can prove you are right to the entire world. I believe in standing up for yourself but sometimes stepping back doesn't mean you are weak or you have been proved wrong. Indu seriously seems to have psychlogical issues, now tell me, do you mess with a psycho or you run a mile? Maybe the CV's should have shown social issues, and Sanchi winning against all odds as opposed to this fiasco which btw is making my head spin and driving me nuts! Yaar durdarshan par pyaar dikhao, duniya mein nafrat ki kami nahi ki TV par bhi dekhne ko milta hai! Selvi I am proud of you for dealing with the guy! I think, I am done! Sorry, if I sounded harsh. I can't believe I am going mental over a soap!
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Namita,

About your 2nd last post, I totally agree with you. Succinct !

I too wanted to add that somehow Mehak's parents are conveniently left out and bizarre it is that the two youngsters of Mathur family...the sibs of Saanchi are missing in action. Girl's family's trauma & silent involvement is grossly made insignificant in this show. And basically they made us go tight-lipped by showing INEPT PARENTS for Saanchi as both of those parents are quite abnormal.

***Poorly presented story with lack of research****

And the last post...I am with you. See what the SR in college grounds did to me...I have been raging since that spoiler day.😆 Emotional Atyaachaar on us viewers.


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Posted: 13 years ago
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shridevigaddam...ALL THE BEST ... I NO YOU WILL HANDLE THAT GUY ...
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Posted: 13 years ago
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I know Shri, absolute emotional attyachaar! I have turned into a raving, emotional crazy woman who supports Sanchi yet yells at at the same time! Sanchi what did you think the gunda Indu Singh would do if you humiliate him in public? CV's neh mere dimaagh ka dahi kar diya hai! Its 4am in Vancouver, 2hrs before my alarm goes off and what am I doing? Raving and ranting on India Forums! Yikes!

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