Mala doesn't seem to want reconciliation consciously at least. She didn't choose to come to Rudra, Laila made that decision for her. She didn't choose to come to her family, Dilsher made that decision. She hasn't chosen to explain her past actions, Paro is doing that. The only thing she is doing is crying over everything she has lost when she walked out of the doors. The only person she can have any expectations from is Paro whom she is been a good mentor. It would be very foolish of her to assume the rest of the Ranavat clan would feel anything but hurt and disappointment for the emotional and social damage caused.
For Paro, who was orphaned very young, the kind Thakurain who guided her and probably other girls in Birpur, it meant the world to her and helped her find happiness in spite of the tragedy of her parents death. So now she is trying to do now is give Mala hope when her family is standing against her. She also knows by now that her husband took his mother's departure very badly and has been in pain since. She knows that they were very close and he is lonely and finds it very hard to trust people, to love people and to accept relationships. In her opinion, if he mends his bonds with his mother and finds healing, he will be ready to find joy in their future together. All noble intensions, but what she doesn't realise is he was ready to come out of the shadows and walk into the light with her and Mala dragged back into the dark. She doesn't realise that he is not ready to accept Mala back, he doesn't want to look at her or talk to her. For her, he is been given a chance to get back his parents and he should make the best of it.
As for Dilsher, he mentioned when he gives the red saree to Paro, that it belonged to the woman whom in the house. Besides he is in that point in life were he just wants to spend his time with a loving family without any fights for wealth, power or status. So as long as his wife is safe and his son has Paro to lean on, he is prepared to weather the storm.
Rudra has always been a ruthless and shrewd man. He will not accept anything without proof. He will not give anyone the benefit of doubt. He judges by facts not feelings. So however sorry he feels for his mother's plight, unless she proves her point, whatever it is, she will be treated as the woman who ran away when things got tough. And no amount of preaching by Paro is going to change that. Mala has to step up and defend herself. Its not fair on her part to let Parud fight over her, they deserve better.