What if Paro was in Rudra place did rudra had accepted her

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jaya100

@jaya100

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Posted: 11 years ago

#21

What's there to forgive? Rudra is a 28 year old man who is actually more a representation of his generation than the snow white tv dikras who've never dared to look a non related woman in the eye. This is his past and a time of his life when Paro was not a part of his life. If Paro loves Rudra then she'll accept him with his past. My main worry when Rudra tells this to Paro is that she'll feel bad for Laila and want Rudra to accept her because she, Paro, has already made a vow to leave him.

As for the second part. it's unfortunate that Indian society makes demands on women that it doesn't make on men. If the world were a fair place then had Paro been 'experienced' too it shouldn't have mattered to Rudra. Honestly though I get a feeling that for someone like Rudra who is fair minded it might not have mattered. He might not have liked it but he would have accepted it as a part of the woman he loved.

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Sunara

@princessunara

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Posted: 11 years ago

#22

Originally posted by: gangaprakash38

I hope to god they show this and put an end to the divinity in this show.!!!.. I think its been shown to a breaking point now... and just leave the gods alone yaar

lol except when they make it literal like the holding the neck to stop poison stuff (but then kaki also held her own neck.. so where does that leave us?🤔) i actually enjoy a bit of symbolism..
hehe adat pe majboor.. IPK made me addicted to them! plus I love our mythology most of which I have forgotten after leaving school! :p

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Sunara

@princessunara

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Posted: 11 years ago

#23

Originally posted by: jaya100
What's there to forgive? Rudra is a 28 year old man who is actually more a representation of his generation than the snow white tv dikras who've never dared to look a non related woman in the eye. This is his past and a time of his life when Paro was not a part of his life. If Paro loves Rudra then she'll accept him with his past. My main worry when Rudra tells this to Paro is that she'll feel bad for Laila and want Rudra to accept her because she, Paro, has already made a vow to leave him.
As for the second part. it's unfortunate that Indian society makes demands on women that it doesn't make on men. If the world were a fair place then had Paro been 'experienced' too it shouldn't have mattered to Rudra. Honestly though I get a feeling that for someone like Rudra who is fair minded it might not have mattered. He might not have liked it but he would have accepted it as a part of the woman he loved.

I completly agree with u!

di as for Paro leaving cz she feels bad for Laila thing - here is the thing, does Paro know that physical aspect of sex can exist outside the boundaries of love and/or marriage?
that is what her upbringing has taught her. mind u its not us who no matter what our upbringing is, know that different situations existing out there thanks to TV/newspapers/internet; none of which Paro has ever had access to in Bhirpur..

So would she not come to the conclusion that if he were to be physical with Laila, that was cz he loved her? it seems stupid a conclusion for us worldly people. but for that border village girl who had never crossed the boundary of her village.. didn't know a single person outside that small village.. would it be wrong for her to make that assumption?

cz there has been pretty good stuff to support it.
1. Rudra 1st wanted to marry her to punish her for not testifying against Tejwat.
2. He then didn't want to marry her at all after the need to punish her for not testifying was gone from his priority list.
3. And only for his job he married her again..

so it wouldn't be too far fetched for her to believe that its due to Laila he did those things!!

and add to that her promise to bolenath.. we have a perfect path for Paro to take to go out of his life!

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onlysanz

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Posted: 11 years ago

#24

I dont think that rudra would ask for an apology even he did not apologise to her for mistreating her in bsd headquaters. .Paro's actions are justified if she leave him for laila and would think that he was never her and I hope people of this forum will not call paro a weak character or say that she lost from laila blah blah. Feeling bad that people are making fun of the character of a uneducated village girl all the time and her belief who has not seen the world .rudra should not be blamed for his actions because of his upbringing but what about paro's upbringing? She is grown up in just a small village with just her mami,sis and bolenath. among the people who teach theri daughters that "pati is permeshwar" so its quite obvious that such a girl would believe in religious symbolism.I know its difficult for people here to connect with a village girl but calling her innocence a stupidity is not right.

Edited by onlysanz - 11 years ago

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afghangirl

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Posted: 11 years ago

#25

Originally posted by: -Sush-
Do you mean FORGIVE him for having a relationship BEFORE she met him?

Or

FORGIVE him for walking out on Laila AFTER being with her for 8 years?😃

Yes.thats exatly my point.this was long before paros time and parud got married under strange circumstances.she fell in love with without knowing him well.there is no question about her forgiveness. He didn't betray her.her being pure and him not is also not a question about being a girl or a boy.its more about his own life and the decisions you take.

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Wanderbug

@Wanderbug

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Posted: 11 years ago

#26

Originally posted by: deepika09
I just want to ask why not d same rules for girls and boys ,what if paro is in place of rudra n she had a relationship with someone leave 8 yrs just for one night then do u think rudra have forget her everyone know d answer is no so why paro should forget rudra so easily why such diff rules n plz dont me give me answer that girls has to be in their boundary n paro will never do that n we all know that...

Being a girl n being a girl like paro who is so pure ,how can a girl forgive her husband easily who had a relationship with other wooman for 8 yrs n that too just physical realtionship n what if d relationship was before marriage n what if he is a man ,just think about a girl doing d same thing n then also u guys will say the man should forgive her no na will rudra have forgive paro if she had done that i know she can never do that but still i know he wont forgive her anyway then why diff rules for man n woman n if i would have been on paro place i would not have forgive him easily now its rudra time to run behind paro n paro should be trying to maintain distance from rudra n rudra getting restless...

Do answer but dont give me answer the character r different n all that n it was before marriage bcaz if paro had done d same thing before marriage then what?

If paro had affair then it would be different story by CVs. Its a story and these are just characters.. so how they will react is all written by some one else.

Saying that... in reality now a days in many urban places these things have become quite westernized. I see people entering into serious relationships and Live in before marraige.. If it works out then they tie the knot .. if not then both boys and girls move on.. not only that they maintain amicable relationships with their exs as well.

A big example is the film industry it self. Many actors are bold enought to accept their relationships and when it breaks they are open about that.. not only that they even continue to work together without any hard feelings.

Times are changing... I will not say whether its for good or bad..

Now , accpeting someone with their past it depends on person to person and situation to situation.. In my opinion neither rudra or paro should be judged based on their pasts.

Now, as far as i know Rudra is supposed to be based on Othello.. (though so far i have seen nothing of that character in him... i guess Cvs read a different version than what i hve read)

Othello and Desdemona's love was doomed due to their social standing and also due to Othello's jealously.

Othello killed her because he doubted her.. so yeah its safe to say if Rudra is anything like Othello, he will never forgive Paro... and that long wig that SI is sporting will come handy in enacting one of the best dramatic scenes ever written.

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samirao

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Posted: 11 years ago

#27

No , if PARO was in RUDRA ,s place he will ever except her , or as his lover

U see it's not about forgiveness , cuz whatever RUDRA have done was before marriage , after marriage he is faithful with her so far , but yes he should tell her his past , now he is forced by Laila to tell PARO about his past as we saw in today's epi ,

PARO will b hurt , she is a innocent village girl , this 8 years long relationship is a big thing for her , i demand and hope cvs will allow her to react like a normal person , she should b jealous and insecure , I don't want her to apologies to Laila darling noway , and leaving RUDRA for Laila is a big NO from my side , I know that she have to fulfill her promise , with god , but she can do it after kicking out Laila from havaili

She can distance herself from RUDRA for a while , so she can digest this big ugly truth of his past , but leaving RUDRA for Laila is NOT except able at all

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MaroRudra

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Posted: 11 years ago

#28

I don't think a lot of people posting here have actually understood your question and so are going on about how Rudra has nothing to apologise for as everything he did with Laila was before marriage. However in answer to your question, had Paro had a sexual, premarital relationship with a man for 8 years, Rudra would NEVER have forgiven her. It would be interesting for Paro to ask Rudra this question, that had she done the same would he have forgiven her? We all know the answer.

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gaymsk

@gaymsk

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Posted: 11 years ago

#29

Originally posted by: MesmerizingSanz

@ bold have to watch the episode to see

But i think he is telling paro because he feels guilty

In addition the serial is based in rural where having relationship is not considered just an affair
The one who he had affair has come back to claim her right and is the one who has suffered the most, so Logically Paro being the native and Pure heart girl will surely leave rudro for laila

people dont have much idea abt villages , who told u there no airfares in villages , there r many honer killing cases bcs of affaires

there r affairese , very few boy n girls r not involve in love but mostly de r n kissing n smooching r part of it , but yes wen baat bahar aa jaati hai den badnaami sirf girls ki hoti hai n de treated like unpure bcs evry boy know if u have affaire den physical intimacy is involve in there

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Amni

@amni375

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Posted: 11 years ago

#30

I don't get it. What is there to forgive Why should Rudra apologize to Paro for a relationship he had with someone before he met Paro? Question of forgiveness does not arise.

As for your other question regarding, what if it was Paro and she had a relationship with someone before marrying Rudra. Same rule applies to that.

we all have different relationship with various people through out our lives before we finally settle down? they can be physical or emotional. Are we suppose to apologize to our husband/wife for these past relationships? I don't think so.

Now if Rudra had a relation with Laila after his marriage to Paro, then I can understand the question of forgiveness.