Its NOT Paro's JOB to fix Rudra! - Page 5

Very well said- i also hope that Rudra can use Paro as an inspiration rather than a magic wand.

Originally posted by: napstermonster

I posted this earlier on another thread that Zara had started regarding Othello/Rudra and Desdemona/Paro, hope it refreshes your high school Eng. Lit. memory!

Regarding the parallels of Othello and Desdemona.

Issue of Paro marrying Rudra--Desdemona, Othello's wife, marries him very very much against the wishes of her family and her society. She falls in love with him, again not because she wants to but because she is fascinated with him, having never seen a man like him in all her life.

As Othello is the Moor, a hated group of people at that time, Desdemona marrying him makes her an enemy for her own family. Her father is shocked and throws her out of his house, for marrying a man who is hated and feared. She is helpless, and dependent on her Othello fully, for everything. He, also, is obsessed with her without ever really understanding even the first thing about her.

Desdemona and Paro have a lot of parallels--if she does marry Rudra, it will be against her village, and her family. She will be rejected, and have no one but Rudra, and will depend on him for her very life and existence. And he wont understand her, since she is an "auraat."

Unlike the independent, fiesty and clever Khushi Kumari Gupta, Sanaya is playing Paro as an abla nari (which is in keeping with Desdemona). D is known as one of the most tragic figures in Shakespeare because her innocence is so pure, it ends up killing her--literally becoming the reason for her death. She to the last moment does not UNDERSTAND his pain or his jealousy because she has no negative emotions like this inside her--she is too simple and too good for them.

And finally, Paro is showing each and every sign of Desdemona--who was totally naive and innocent, who did not see evil that was right in front of her (Iago-Thakur-sa? ),and even after falling in love with her, she was not someone he even trusted after marriage, and she gives up everything for him, even her life.Desdemona's life and her death is Othello's sole decision, her entire life is in his hands. Again, like Rudra right now.

Ultimately, Othello kills Desdemona because of his own past, and his own personal demons. Ultimately, Desdemona dies because Othello always believes that such a beautiful, sweet woman HAD to have something wrong with her or she would never have married him in the first place. Parallels to Rudra, all over the place bai-sa!

Originally posted by: princessunara

Hi,

I agree very much so..

But well here r my points

If it was all so white it wouldn't be any fun watching. AND unlike in IPK I hope there is a PROPER redemption track.

Also another, the guy might be flawed.. BUT Paro wished for something, to belong to somebody fully and to have someone who was just hers. If their journey together gives her that in the form of Rudra the bumpy road might be worth it IF this becomes their journey and he changes. Another thing I have noticed is that the Jallad cannot bring himself to deliberately hurt her.

He has strong reasons to hate her on a none personal scale this time, its neither her aukat nor her class that is the issue he has with her. Its her suspected terrorist connections. Even despite that what I have noticed is that he cannot bring himself to hurt her, Not even to pin her to a wall hard enough to hurt her much even at a time when she has riled him up.

Anyway the next point is that with stereotypes, isn't this the very tale practically ever M&B book feeds us since we r old enough to understand romance? At least that is what it has been to me since my 16th b'day when mom gifted me my 1st M&B. So i wouldn't call it desi show specific issue.

Another case in point - reformed playboys, bad boys r said to make the best husbands..well the chances r that hardly any will reform. But its also true that when such a person reforms for a good woman's love its for life. They will be loyal beyond life and will love and cherish that woman.. At least sigh.. that is what the romantic in me has always said to me..

Now if u ask me if Paro deserves better. I will say HELL YES! I was one who shipped Varun -Paro to the max, cz the picture he painted for her, a life which was a promise of loving companionship was what i thought what she deserved.

But the thing is if it was the case the story would already be over right?

They need flawed beings to carry this story forward...In real life i will never say this is a good thing! no way in hell! but for a fictional tale i am fine with it..

I hope this marriage wouldn't happened I want Thakur man to kidnap Paro and tries to kill her I want Rudra to find out about her innocence.

Cannot agree more 👏 Well said Napster.. 👏 In fact you have just echoed my thoughts.. when the marriage between R & P was announced yesterday, I thought to myself.. oh no! not again..!! Give me a break 😕

I am not sure why the TRP audience (if that is what forces the CVs to come up with such a theme) forces such a concept in every other serial then I am sorry we cannot expect anthing novel in any serial. sure the portrayal of the roles, the acting of every actor and the presentation is par excellent... but the theme is an hackneyed one... If a good serial is measured by its ratings then there is no hope for creativity or variety...

I am positive that a role reversal will not go lightly with the audience... 😃

Cheers
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I completely agree. But this trend is , sadly, inspired from real life. Too many parents think a wife will fix their out-of-control son. And said sons end up abusing the poor girl. I do wish to see Rudra changing himself because he realizes he is hurting not just others, but himself as well.
Let's not talk about that other show. As much as I loved watching it, at the end of the day, the girls (both the sisters) got a very bad deal. One had a husband who wouldn't stand up for her and the younger one had one who couldn't stand her uniqueness.

Originally posted by: napstermonster

For once, I would have liked to see Rudra fighting his instincts and learning to leave his childhood inside that box with the doll. To come to a realization that his father, who has been wrong about so much, is also wrong about this. I don't want him, the "hero", to trap Paro into marriage, when she literally has nowhere else to go. Rudra consciously knows he is damaged, and that his dad did something wrong. Then why cant he, a warrior, fight THIS as well? Why cant the story be about him fixing himself, and Paro being the inspiration for that, as opposed to the fixer?

Originally posted by: Naach_Basanti

Completely and whole heartedly agree with you.

In real life no one would be with men like Rudra and the character who shall not be named. They all look great on screen, but beyond that they posses nothing that would make a relationship work- respect, love, trust and a willingness to adjust.

But having said that I have seen this happen in real life. Many families get their badly behaved son married to a girl in the hope that marriage will change them, their wife will fix them up. One of my close friends got married to such a guy who had anger issues and would end up beating her up. Their marriage had been arranged by his family who believed that a wife would make him reign hi anger.

To me personally this is a TV show. as long as they show a good character progression and show that the guy does change eventually, the guy is remorseful to his action and the guy in ways more than one redeems himself I'm happy to overlook this stereotype. Which is where the show that shall not be name failed miserably for me.

However the one thing I won't accept is domestic abuse being passed off as passion and intensity. I spoke against it strongly during past shows and will do so if it comes up after their marriage.

This alpha male and docile female family life has been shoved down Indian woman's throat (rather lives) since stone age - in the name of culture and Values. Now the Media is just making money out of this by fictionising the same in the name of art.

Originally posted by: napstermonster

Loved your reasoned analysis, Sush! This is the issue for me--as serialjunkie says, there is only so much you can expect on a soap. But with Rudra, they spent the past 30 episodes consistently creating in his "protector" image. His words may be bitter, but his actions are all selfless. Whether its saving an unknown girl from rapists and taking a bullet for it, or dragging a mean drunken father everywhere and make him rotis every night--his actions are those of a true protector.

A protector, however, does not abuse those in his power, to get his way--and for me, a fake marriage, or a hate-marriage--hell, even the threat of it--sign this file, or I'll marry you--its an incredible betrayal of Paro's trust in her Jallad. Thats a trust he has created--she trusts that he has brought her to this haveli, he is shielding her, and he will come back and stop all this marriage nonsense from Kakisa. To then walk in, and use marriage like a weapon, to get his BSD confession and his job back-- Its even a betrayal of Rudra's own character as we have seen it to be so far.

If the marriage happens, it will be something Paro will not easily recover from. In her mind, she is a widow. She has religious grounds for not becoming a bride again, for a while at least. Not to mention, she is as helpless, as alone, as anyone can be--she cant even kill herself, to escape him. To abuse her in this position by forcing a wedding on her--fake or not--it would be a betrayal from the man who has, so far, only protected her. She might not know that he has protected her, and would see a marriage as one more form of torture--but you are the audience--wont you find this a huge change in the character of Rudra as we have seen it shown so far?