Why would he say 'I love you' when you are barely getting to know him? What does he have in mind? Does he have a motive behind this? Is he looking to have sex? If these questions have crossed your mind each time a guy utters those magical three words too soon, relax. You aren't the only one. There are many in your league.
24-year-old Aretha, working with an adventure sports company, backed out of a relationship, when it was at a fledgling stage, because the guy, who she liked too much, said 'I love you' in the first week they started going out. "At the beginning of a relationship, 'I love you' can be too heavy and suffocating. Six days into a relationship, my boyfriend said 'I love you' when we were just getting comfortable. It was too soon, I thought that he was just uttering these words, using them as a ticket to sleep with me. It was kind of putting off and I immediately broke up with him," she explains.
Psychologist and relationship therapist Seema Hingorany, however, rules this theory out. "If a guy proposes his love for you too soon, it doesn't necessarily mean that he just wants to take you to bed."
Most men are very restless when it comes to approaching a girl, according to Seema. "Sometime, they are completely mesmerised by the girl and, being impatient and impulsive, they go on to say those three words. The realisation, in most cases, dawns later.It doesn't always mean that they have a sly motive. It may be very inadvertently done," Seema explains.
Often men are victim to impulsive thinking and action. They may jump into things too soon. "Also, some guys are hugely influenced by others. If their friends suggest they go propose to a girl fast, they will do it without thinking," reasons Seema. "But perhaps because everyone has become so suspicious of each other now, that it's perfectly normal for a girl to smell a rat when she first hears 'I love you', which is why men should probably wait and get to know the girl and the relationship better."
TV actor Yashashri Masurkar says, "When guys say 'I love you' too soon, they probably really like you and want that relationship to last long. Today, men don't really have to be committed or involved to take a girl to bed… girls have become just as bold as guys. So guys don't really have to lie."
