DOTW: marriages & perspectives

Hi all..very nice post and good questions😊..my take on the discussion..

First and foremost strength or foundation for marriage is trust and love. For the simple reason that 2 ppl are going to spend their life together'.Second comes the warmth and understanding.. Those 2 should connect with each other to share their daily happenings. Like sorrow and happiness'in essence pillar of support'In shanaks marriage we all know the circumstances they got married'it was forced' But we saw their relationship progressed from friendship and now to love' They first got to know each other well, then were there for each other and understood what the other wanted in order to complete their overall relationship. We saw shaan changing for khanak and khanak accepting shaan for what he is' Their relationship is till now not too stong nor too weak'they are in middle..i will give 7..they still need to make their relationship more meaningful to become like brick so that evil forces around them cannot break it'

Yes we still would have accepted this marriage' but here we will have to consider 2 options..if the story starts with natasha's perspective shanak track cannot move ahead and if at all at first we would have treated khanak as we first did for Natasha and later when they fall for each other we would have loved it'another perspective is that when it comes to marriage even though the guy has a Girlfriend or not with circumstances forcing them to be together they are bound to fall for each other. either the first love has to be weak or the trust in marriage should be strong'we saw in shanak's marriage they started to fall for each other with time and both accepted their responsibilities towards each other'.perspective comes second as far as we see a cute strong couple with love and trust in marriage..

Because you want shaan to be more confident😆 and not act by others direction..but that's what shaan is..little childish but khanak's effect is there on him..it will take time for him to leave his childhood attitude completely but he will sure stand up for khanak and his marriage this time..so you will enjoy the shanak scenes'

Originally posted by: Sid4TeamCanada

so here's this week's discussions:

1) What factors should be taken into account when discussing the strength of a marriage? and based on these factors, what overall score would you give, on a scale of 1-10, to Shanak's marriage's strength? (1 being extremely weak... 10 being EXTREMELY STRONG - like a brick!😆)
I feel dat only 2 factors r imp.4 a successful marriage Love and Understanding.Dere's no doubt dat shanak love each other a lot.In fact shaan has never loved natasha dis much nor has khanak loved suraj dis much as dey love each other. But when it comes 2 understanding here dere is some problem.No doubt shanak know each other a lot deir likes & dislikes etc. but dey still have 2 understand each other.Shaan feels dat khanak loves him but khanak's certain actions confuse him and he feels dat may be he was wrong.On da other hand khanak knows dat shaan has nothing in his heart 4 natasha but still feels dat shaan can be happy wid natasha.Dey shd first try 2 understand each other otherwise it will lead 2 problems in da future.I am sure da dumbos and mogambo will try 2 take advantage of shaan's ego and khanak's sacrificing nature while trying 2 separate dem.😡😭 So i give dem 5 out of 10 only for da love.

2) We have seen this show from khanak's perspectives mostly, if we look at how it started..its promos its title songs, first episode... all from khanak's perspective... how she lost her childhood lover/husband, how she got another guy in her life.. all planned by destiny.. and then how she had to face her current husband's EX... now HOW would we have reacted, had we seen this SAME story fromt he perspective of natassha? instead of khanak's wedding, had our story started off with NATASSHA's falling in love with shaan (maybe covered in one episode in a quick recap), her wedding preps with shaan.. and on the engagement day he comes in with a new bride! a bride who later on calls OUR HEROINE "doosri aurat"... see from khanak's perspective, everything that happened till now seems fate, seems all perfect to us..her and shaan falling in love..

but wud we have had the same reaction had we seen this story from natassha's perspective? wud our atttitude towards shanak marriage had been so positive? wwht abt our attitude towards shaan's new wife? wud we have wanted their marriage to end?
U mean 2 say dat if natasha would have been da heroine den how we would have felt?Probably we would have hated shaan's wife even after knowing da circumstances.I am saying dese because we have seen dese in so many soaps earlier when da hero marries another gal due 2 some majboori and den it's da heroine who always has 2 sacrifice her love and even go 2 da etent of telling da hero 2 forget her and accept da gal as his wife(as if it's very easy)😆Thankfully natasha never did it.She knew dat shaan didn't betray her. she knew whatever happened in dhulwadi was not her fault so she thought why shd she suffer so she fought 4 her love.😊👏I don't think what she did was wrong.In fat she proved 2 be stronger dan da other heroines of soaps who met wid da same situation.And da gr8 thing abt her is when she realised dat shaan no more loves her she let him go.😊 She neither blamed shaan nor her fate.😊👏so i am happy natasha is not da heroine.😆

3) Why am i so ghussa on shaan nowadays?😆😆 😆and why did i wanna whack his head MAJORLY today when he started showing off all that attitude... while a few moments ago he was acting like a baby when thsi attitude WAS MOST NEEDED! toh batao... main kyun itn ghussa hoo..kyun maine aaj apna fav shanak ke scenes nahi enjoy kar paaayi?😆
mujhe shaan pe gussa bhi aata hai aur pyar bhi.😳hope he changes soon 4 betterment of deir relationship.

Alrighty ya'all.. am out to grab somethign to eat... hopefully this and next few weeks will make me forgive and forget this maha burthal maha pareshaan and maha wuss shaan!😊