Originally posted by: Sutapasima
Every word you uttered here is so precious Madhuri .. aap guru ho π
Suta, here is the next part of Draupadi's answer to Satya.
Following the conversation between Draupadi and Krishnaβs wife Sathyabhama is found in Vanaparva (3-38) of Mahabharata:
Amazing details of housekeeping, human psychology, and ancient ways of showing respect β all covered by Vyasa in this chapter.
O blessed lady Satya, my husbands have become obedient to me for my diligence, my alacrity, and for the humility with which I serve my Gurus and my husbands.
Suta, this description shows us how wealthy life the kings in those days used to lead!
Every day I personally wait with food and drink and clothes upon the revered and truthful Kunti, the mother of those heroes.
Besides these, ten thousand Yatis with their desire under complete control had their pure and well-cooked food carried to them in golden plates:
I knew the names and features of every one of those girls and also what they used to eat and what they used to wear and what they used not to do.[ PREFERED TO KEEP AN EYE ON THE MAID SERVANTS!]
O beautiful lady, those foremost of Bharatas, throwing upon me the whole burden of looking after all those that were to be fed by them, would always pay their court to me.
While my husbands were engaged in virtuous pursuits, I supervised their treasury as inexhaustible as the ever full abode of Varuna.
Day and night bearing hunger and thirst, I used to wait upon the Kuru princes, so that my nights and days were equal to me.
This is the great charm ever known to me for making my husbands obedient to me.
Therefore always adore your Krishna with friendship and love !
Avoiding all excitement and carelessness in the presence of men, conceal your mind by observing silence.
Then Satya asked--
Draupadi! Through what mannerisms have you been ruling over the Pandavas, who are handsome heroes as the kings How is it that they behave as if under your control? How is it that they donβt get angry at all with you? How is it that the handsome Pandavas are always under your spell? They keep looking at your face all the time, thinking βwhat will she say to me?β For this, are you doing any vrata, Tapas, Mantrasnana, medicine or the power of knowledge or herbs or are there any Japa-Homa for this? Tell me that secret of love which will successfully keep Krishna always under my control. Tell me the glorious secret of your sexual power, Krshnaa! β Saying this, Satyabhama shyly fell silent.
Then Draupadi said again: βI will tell you the blemishless ways of holding your husbandβs mind. Friend! If you behave like this, you can keep your husband away from other lovers.
When my husband sleeps out on some family business, I go without flowers and make-up and follow a vow.
βWhat my husband does not drink, what my husband does not chew, what my husband does not eat, I avoid it all.
βWell trained according to the prescriptions, well-adorned and most eager, beautiful woman, I am bent on what he wants at that time.
Draupadi muses a while making various faces. Satyabhama becomes impatient and slaps her on the back, βWould you be serious? You donβt know what a hell of stress I am going through!β
Draupadi smiled with all the splendor of her pearls, βO.K., I will give you a volley of tips. Listen carefully.
Satyabhama frowns, βWait Wait! Are you quoting from scriptures or what?β
- O.K. O.K. Here are the strategies along with explanatory notes for your benefit Satya!!!!
The male psyche has tremendous dependence on external signs.
Love feelings are not evoked in an empty stomach. I never indulge in angry and fretful speech. In that way, I am always musical to them. The woman of their dream always speaks and even sneeze in music, you see! I always do what is agreeable. That way they have their cup of machismo brimming! It is a peculiar phenomenon of the male psyche to bask in domineering! I never laugh except at a jest. That way they fear to offend me, and in fact, struggle to make a jest. That way my laughter is so valuable to them!
When they leave home for the sake of any relative, then renouncing flowers and fragrant paste of every kind, I begin to undergo penances. That way I regain touch with my natural self, while they are convinced and know I am not happy in their absence. That way they receive a boost in their ego! Whatever they drink not, whatever they eat not, whatever they enjoy not, I ever renounce. That way they are assured I am perfectly tuned to them. Each except Partha thinks I am made for him! He is too clever for these tricks!
They are the polish of the pearls; I am the thread that holds the pearls together. I must see they do not lose the purpose of their life. The male psyche is a fool, you know! It is clever enough to understand its own foolery, but not braver enough to overcome it. Partha stands out in this respect too!
- So what should I do?
- Just get rid of your fear of losing Krishna. Relax. He is yours. Nowhere will he find more variety than you! You are sulky, you are childlike, and you are also a warrior. Where is your match?
- Draupadi, please tell me, how do you keep them in illusion and not allowing them any chance of disillusion is your secret?
- Not exactly! Men will be disillusioned about a woman after marriage. It is as inevitable as death! So I keep them in the illusion that they have no illusions about me. That way they will not search for real disillusionment!
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Suta , edited and censored a bit wherever it is necessary and made it brief. Still many slokas are there . will share later.
OK a few more points in the next post and then I will stop myself π
Edited by Viswasruti - 5 years ago