Live in relationship is not a crime nor a sin. - Page 5

Originally posted by: meezishu

Yes, living in together is a personal choice an individual can take, however a person's individual choices are affected by their culture, religion and upbringing. We can't walk away from the idea that your culture and society shapes you as a person. People who are generally exposed to a more westernized concept, will probably be okay with a live-in relationship while someone with a more traditional concept may not agree with it. I think we should learn to respect everyone's personal choice and let them decide for themselves.

From a religious viewpoint, especially an Islamic one, a live-in relationship is wrong, it is strictly prohibited, this is a fact. A lot of cultures don't like it, and that is their personal issue.

However religion itself, in my opinion is something personal, its not something to be dictated to you.

Is it wrong to be in a live-in relationship?

Well that depends on you as a person. Not everyone is religious, not everyone is a Muslim. You are allowed to decide for yourself what is right and what is wrong.

Personally as a Muslim, I don't believe in live-in relationships, and I would never agree to one. However who am I to tell you what's right or wrong, if I say only God can judge you, then well, I got no right to judge. I can only decide for myself 😊

This is not meant as an attack towards anyone / any group of people.

completely agree with you about it should be an individual's personal choice...I have a couple of very good muslim friends but they are non practicing Muslims...who are married to non Muslims...so I am really not very familiar with the rules in Islam.

Religion and Society are for individuals and set a certain guidelines to help the individuals in their journey of life. However, its not the other way around. While human beings are the creations of higher power, religion and society are made by men. Religion is one's personal domain... what s/he believes in and to what extent is a personal choice and it's about staying true to yourself. And at the end of it, all religions teaches you to be human first above all and being in live-in you are not hurting anyone... you are making a decision for yourself, taking a step towards what makes you happy... how can it be a sin then?

Originally posted by: euphoric

Religion and Society are for individuals and set a certain guidelines to help the individuals in their journey of life. However, its not the other way around. While human beings are the creations of higher power, religion and society are made by men. Religion is one's personal domain... what s/he believes in and to what extent is a personal choice and it's about staying true to yourself. And at the end of it, all religions teaches you to be human first above all and being in live-in you are not hurting anyone... you are making a decision for yourself, taking a step towards what makes you happy... how can it be a sin then?

Every individual is free to make choices for themselves. And who else but oneself is in a better position to judge what will work for them or not? I personally believe in the institution of marriage but if someone doesn't wouldn't they live a farce then by tagging along with the societal Do's and Dont's? Is that fair? Scores of women submit themselves in abusive marriages and live through hell every single day... but as far as I know no religion propagates for a man to be abusive and woman to be submissive.. Then? Why no one from the same society stands up to resolve that? We live in hypocrite surroundings... no one comes to you aid when you r in trouble but everyone is waiting to hurl that first stone and the one's eager to hurl the first stones are the one's with hidden skeletons in their closets!

At the end, its one right to be happy... and live the way they want to. And at the end of the day people who want to talk will talk no matter what. It's better to stay true towards your own self and your loved ones rather than join this hypocrite brigade and become one of them!

-Sonia

thanks Sonia...I couldn't have said it better. Just want to add another fact here...how can a society or one's religion decide what is right or what is wrong? Isn't this the same society where there are child marriages...child labor ? Man makes a society and not the other way around.individuals need to stand up for their rights. Shouldn't An individual should the right to make their own decisions ? How can one's religion or society dictate that ?

Originally posted by: Rupunzale

thanks Sonia...I couldn't have said it better. Just want to add another fact here...how can a society or one's religion decide what is right or what is wrong? Isn't this the same society where there are child marriages...child labor ? Man makes a society and not the other way around.individuals need to stand up for their rights. Shouldn't An individual should the right to make their own decisions ? How can one's religion or society dictate that ?

right after all it's a personal choice

Originally posted by: Rupunzale

thanks. Nice to know that it worked out well for you.

Originally posted by: Rupunzale

If two consenting adults ,want to live together...get into an intimate relationship...it should be entirely their decision. It's their life and they have every right to explore whatever they want and please.

I would actually want Gul to show Asya consummating before their marriage. I seriously don't want to see another whole nikaah preparation and then cancellation. Like seriously...they have cancelled the nikaah 4 times already. Either they get them married ASAP or they can consummate. I am seriously finding it hard to believe that they are still holding hands. There hasn't been a single intimate scene. I found Ayaan/ Humeira more intimate. They need to stop lingering with their nikaah.

Cant agree more...breaking stereotypes is what gul has done always...even i think they should consummate...Their souls are unified, means they are married by heart..paper n rituals don matter now..physical union can happen now..because there love is pure 😃

In India this is unacceptable and that's how it is . We have to respect it until we can fight it enough to make a change . In many countries this is common and it's not an issue .
There are two kinds of marriages : One that has to be legal under the eyes of the law ant the other under the eyes of god which was how it has been until the law makers / society took over . Lawful marriages is a plus when it comes to safeguarding family estates .. Money etc in order to preserve for the future generation ... While unlawful marriages has the same effect only it takes a little more stamped documents . I always believe all marriages are legal under the eyes of god first and traditional laws should have no say in it if the couple is following the laws of their religion only . .. Meaning .. Always be true and faithful to each other . Dilshad obeyed both laws to date and Asya has respect for both which is very unique . As for Rashid he failed because of weakness .

well you are right there living in a relationship is perfectly upto one's choice,, have no conflicts with that,,
buh a very simple question, if two adults have really no problem in living with each other, then why they are against naming that relationship?? just to take the taste of icing buh throwing off the sponge?
means you are ready to take IN all goods of the marriage, buh when it comes to responsibility then feel flying off,,

ASYA can't be dragged in THIS TOPIC as They are MUSLIMS, and religion Islam is a very moderate religion, It has made certain boundaries to save the society and its believers from Social n Emot Destruction,

ps if you are really looking fah a change then come US, ther's no restriction, bring anybdy yo want to live with, ps while living wherever you are ask yo Court to review their verdicts,, and if you are really that open minded then wheneva you get married, and have children, let them live in whatever way they feel fine,, Cox Change starts from an Individual