Do love stories like Zoya-Asad ever work? - Page 2

Originally posted by: booksfreak07

That's a really good answer and some great insight. But dont you think there has to be atleast one malleable person in a relationship. Cause if 2 stubborn people are together, neither compromises and things get bad. Stubbornness isn't a good quality to have in common.
Also, I've seen your name somewhere. Do I know you from another forum???

Originally posted by: Savage

I'm quite the zombie. I can be found in a variety of forums. You may have seen me somewhere.😃

Anyway, I am too young andnarcissistic to fall in love. But I do have an idea that the real thing has it in to make alterations in your character. Stubbornness is the worst possible trait to have in common. But it's also the most likely one. You see the odds of two very sacrificial people coming together are quite low. I am not sure if such people wholly exist in reality at all.😃

Therefore, yes, at least one person needs to be flexible and one eventually does. If not, they get married and they sulk. In my opinion, it's a tragedy but so not my problem.😛

LOL
Really, how old are you? Cause you sound pretty mature to me.
And yes, sacrificial people do exist! But even they don't want to be with a very dominating person, have seen real life cases.

Originally posted by: nikita59

I am new to this forum out of curiosity since IPKKND got over, wanted to see 4Lions new show. But, then I saw ur post, and I couldn't help but reply. I have a doubt that they do actually work in the long run. I am sure in the short run everything feels happy and nice, since the couple is still in that phase of attraction and love, and their belief that they can make it work. If two people are that opposite, it ends up in a separation. I have known my friend's cousins a long time since childhood. Each of them married to a person so opposite, infact I was shocked at first how will their marriage work in the long run?! I had my doubts but one cannot actually say that on their face, as at that point of time one is so in love, that they think they would have a successful relationship. They all ended up in separation eventually, and after that point of time, you do become bitter about anotherrelationship. So for now, they are single. Personally, it depends on those two people involved in the marriage. If such complete opposites do marry, one of them has to bent in the long run. If both of them are headstrong, and want to do things that they feel is right, that by no doubt ends up in a divorce or separation. When that actually happens, those two people do wonder, how the heck they got this far in the first place?! But yes, in a relationship, of complete opposites, one of them has to be sacrificing to have a successful long run marriage. I doubt though, b/c it take a lots of hard work, patience, and at times facing of losing one's own self respect and ideals. So, in my point from what I have seen and have known friends, who are that opposites like Asad and Zoya, it ends up in a divorce, sadly. B/c on the screen it looks good, but in real life it takes a 1000times more effort to make it work.

Even I used to watch IPK! But stopped a couple of months back, so sad that it's over.
And even I have seen such couples with broken relationships and marriages. It's devastating for the people involved...

A very good question ,, but its says love helps in changing yourself and that what make the realtion work.

Originally posted by: booksfreak07

LOL
Really, how old are you? Cause you sound pretty mature to me.
And yes, sacrificial people do exist! But even they don't want to be with a very dominating person, have seen real life cases.

yes dear fopposites attract ,and they can be happy together.i am a good example of this.my hubby and i are totally different people.in fact people wonder how we got together.he is very outgoing,very social.i am very reserved and i do not connect with a lot of people.our lifestyles were different.he belonged to a typical joint family,i studied in a hostel.he loves to go out and meet people, i love to stay at home and read a good book.we have had our share of problems but our bond is very strong.we have been married over twenty years and they have been more good than bad.it does take alot of work and lot of arguements,but as they say where there is a will,thereis a way.there just has to be a sense of commitment towards the relationship and willingness to respect differences.thats my story, my pov.

Originally posted by: anoo67

yes dear fopposites attract ,and they can be happy together.i am a good example of this.my hubby and i are totally different people.in fact people wonder how we got together.he is very outgoing,very social.i am very reserved and i do not connect with a lot of people.our lifestyles were different.he belonged to a typical joint family,i studied in a hostel.he loves to go out and meet people, i love to stay at home and read a good book.we have had our share of problems but our bond is very strong.we have been married over twenty years and they have been more good than bad.it does take alot of work and lot of arguements,but as they say where there is a will,thereis a way.there just has to be a sense of commitment towards the relationship and willingness to respect differences.thats my story, my pov.

That's adorable! Very inspiring for all is out there.
And as if my choice in boys so far is any indication then I'm likely to fall for a person who's a complete opposite. Will keep your words in mind. Thanks 😊

Relationships working out and splly marriage is all abt adjustment and willing compromise and how ever headstrong u are when u enter that institution the changes start to happen not bec its necessary but because that how its meant to b ...and marriage is really abt individuals starting out as chalk and cheese and ending up like birds of a feather ...and because u love the person u try and do what u can to make it work

U know they say woh pyaar hi kya jo apko badal de and not accept u the way u are but then change is the name of this Love game

Good one.. here's my reasoning..

Yes, the concept of 'opposites attract' does sound and appear very dreamy and romantic, thanks to our TV shows and movies..

But of course, it does happen in real life.. Can u imagine, how boring it would get if you and your partner happened to have the same set of principles, same thinking, same preferences? Your relationship will definitely be smooth sailing, but it'll be monotonous at the same time.. The passion and attraction might fizzle out after a while, coz you'll both have figured out and completely accepted each other in a matter of few years.. What next?!

This is where 'contrasting natures' come into play..

It's good to have someone whose opinions differ from you, someone who tries to challenge you at each step.. That sort of keeps you thinking, makes you grow up on somethings as well.. Of course, it's a bit too glorified on TV and is not soo extreme in real life..

My fiance and myself are entirely 2 different people, i'm quite talkative and outgoing, while he's a bit reserved and more of an introvert.. i take each day as it comes while all he cares about is the future.. im religious, he's an atheist.. i believe in families; he doesn't.. That makes us quite different. and we do fight a lot over these issues.. but what matters in the end, is the fact that you're relationship is above all of this.. and the urge to make it work is what keeps you going.. 😊 of course that is if, you're 100% ready and committed!

Issues and fights are a part and parcel of every relationship in the world; be it with parents, siblings, best friends and couples too.. And there's this misconception, that marriages are a compromise.. I don't think so; it's not a compromise.. It's only a matter of acceptance of the other person's opinions and dreams.. You don't really have to sacrifice yours for the sake of it.. Both can co-exist together.. 😊

Well, i hope i haven't ranted and bored you.. 😉😛

As for Asya, looking forward to seeing if they can make it work despite all odds... their contrasting natures are going to be the defining point in their relationship in the future.. 😊 Let's see if the shooting star grants them their wishes.. 😉😃