Aarti's Issue with men in general.. - Page 4

@samana: you brought an interesting point. ansh is immitating every gesture of his mother.it is indeed dangerous for the long-run.i am eagerly waiting to see how the CVs will handle the story..

Originally posted by: jyoti06

she is scared of another round of heartbreaks and betrayal ...isliye she is sort of building a strong defensive wall around her ...

Originally posted by: maya.sethi17

Totally agree with u very good observation👏, yes she dint appreciate pratik and yash in front of them but appreciate them in front of others, later also v may see this same issue with aarti she will see yash as good person but wont accept him or appreciate him easily as she think she will get diappointment frm him, as wht she got frm prashant.

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

I loved your nuanced observation of the pattern here. Her natural instinct is defense when it comes to dealing with men, and it seems according to here, offense is the best defense.

And more specifically, even when she does respect the gestures of men she is reluctant to say it in front of them, lest they take advantage of her trust and favour. Basically she doesn't ever want to give a man the upper hand in an interaction, so she doesn't give him the power to hurt her the way Prashant did.

The problem with this, other than the obvious one of her not being able to move on and find happiness, is that Ansh is imitating her every move, quite literally! Even though she does regret her actions later, Ansh is not there to see or understand that. He sees only her knee-jerk reactions in the heat of the moment and this is what he is emulating. For example when he decides to go to the bathroom by himself, without anybody's help, he is sort of reflecting the attitude of Aarti's, which is dangerous both on an immediate and long-term level.

If this were to continue, Ansh would probably grow up to be closed off, fiercely protective of his mother and not having any functional relationships of his own as his model was a single person who aggressively battled off anyone who provoked her to come out of her shell.

I like the subtle ways they are building the case for this PV.

Samana thats a very interesting point u made 👏👏👏...Ansh is basically immitating his mother's every moves and in return what he is learning ...to show hocky stick to a random guy 😆 or talk rudely to someone without any reason because thats what his mother is doing ..

Nice point of view... I completely agree With regarding Aarti and her lost of trust in men... I had not thought about it this way. I do think that yash Will change her pov soon. Btw i love this show and kratika & guru...

The post you have written on Aarti's issues with men is bang on!👏👏👏👏

Guys usually a orphan girl, widow or divorcee women especially divorcee women will be the same, they will be rude, shout n tough. bcz they have to face the society where even today people have wrong notion towards them, they r scared that people will take undue adv, especially with men...

Originally posted by: skanda12

The post you have written on Aarti's issues with men is bang on!👏

See one way to see that is that she has been hurt by her huband in the past and therefore has issues with men. The other way to see that is that because she has issues with men, even her husband has been unable to break that shell and it could have led to him finding love elsewhere with a more accommodating woman.😲

Aarti is in this serial shown as an orphan, her own parents are obviously dead. It is possible that from an early age she has been used to fending for herself, causing her to be a sort of half-man and half-woman. She is ready to defend herself against whatever she sees as threat. In fact she takes very manly aggressive measures - such as slapping, hockey sticks etc. Such a person cannot be a pliant wife very easily. Her first husband could have expected that sort of dependent woman which she is not.😲

On the other hand Yash is a fiercely independent man and now seems to prefer an independent woman who will not cling to him. He wants a woman who is fiercely protective of herself and the children. In fact Aarti may finally find the kind of man who suits her independent style. And when she falls in love with such an emotionally mature and secure man, she may let down her guard for the first time in her life.

Yash on the other hand, after he falls in love with Aarti, may realise that a loving woman need not mean a clingy woman, and he too may allow her the closeness to himself. He has to see that closeness in love can also mean independence in decision-making and behaviour.

Lot's of people have commented already, and I haven't had a chance to read them so I don't know if anyone else has already said this. I think that her behavior toward men is not due just to Prashant's betrayal, but probably also due to how she has been treated by other men after the divorce. Maybe she is not just afraid that men might try to take advantage of her, maybe she as already encountered men who did try to take advantage of her. We really don't know what all she has had to go through since the divorce happened. Yes, the CV's have shown us tome of societies typical reactions in these first few episodes, but we have no idea what Aarti may have encountered right after Prashant divorced her. It's possible that even after the divorce, she still had a good opinion of men in general, until some of them started to misbehave with her. I guess my point is, it may be more than even Prashant's behavior that has made her so wary.

If Aaati's Roleplayed by someone else would be better...as Aarti she is DISAPPOINTMENT...