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I am a pretty irregular TV viewer in general (in fact, rarely watch anything except singing / dance shows). My Mother In Law came to stay with us 2 weeks back, since then I sit with her at the end of the day watching TV just for giving her company. I must confess I haven't seen the three leads before in their previous shows.
I am struggling to understand or rather cannot wrap my head around 10 YEARS leap. Life and love seem to have stood still for all 3 main leads which I find very hard to digest.
Divya - I really like her. Simple, honest and the one to take right decisions. Leaving Raj was not wrong in absolute terms - she was responsible for the lives and careers of 2 younger siblings (maybe the way she left Raj was wrong or she failed to make him understand her viewpoint). But her love for Raj remained same for 10 years? Love needs to grow, right? I mean the things that attract you at 18 and at 28 are extremely different. I don't believe in soul mates or 'one great true love' concept. In my own relationship that started with mutual liking, grew to companionship and lately is all about support (since my baby was born). Divya matured overnight to take care of family, stayed alone in a big city, struggled in career and eventually got a lot of success - in short she grew and changed as a person. But all this time her feelings for Raj didn't change, she remained in love with his memories and moreover she expected things to be as she had left them. Isn't that very unrealistic? Also, are her siblings that younger to her that it took 10 years to settle them?
Raj - Don't understand him at all. He married out of parental pressure or on rebound. Then took it out all on the one person who symbolized everything that was wrong with his life - by his anger and later by rejection. May be initially it made sense. But for 10 years? He's been shown to accept that his relationship failed because of him - seriously, understanding that took 10 years. He knew Divya's family issues - still considered her departure as betrayal. Now, he feels betrayed when Divya gets engaged. Doesn't he know his own marital status? Couldn't he try to sort the matter between them if she meant so much? Divya loved him and thought he would be waiting for her so I am assuming that things weren't too ugly between them when she left.
Sarita - I like her too and love the fact that she can standup for herself. And can understand the various posts supporting her and sympathizing with her. But again, 10 years? Even after 10 years, she hasn't accepted that her marriage has failed, she still tries to attract him? She is resentful of Divya, her MIL, her SIL's but doesn't have any real anger towards Raj - the one who really wronged her. She might not have called off the wedding as it was already too late and eventually Raj did turn up on his own. But even when he told her plainly that he won't accept her, continuously rejected her (in marriage, being cold and distant is rejection) and left her alone to fight the sharks (i.e. his family) for 10 years, she still wants his love? What qualities did Raj ever demonstrate before her for her to like, respect or be infatuated by him? What stopped her from slapping him hard or unleashing all her fury on him (she does that often but on wrong people - the main culprit is not even acknowledged)?
My conclusion - 10 years leap was a stupid mistake. CVs should have mentioned 1-2 year leap and things would be far more acceptable - Divya's love, Raj's hurt and Sarita's frustration as well as still-alive hope.
