Originally posted by: Mulan08
I understand your frustration with the way Indian society is, but that is not reason enough to sit down quietly and let things be. We all can be independent in our own way, it can be small or big, but it is a very negative thought to suffer injustice of any sort. We need to at least correct the misapprehension that it is all the girl's fate to adjust and suffer. Of the two struggles, I prefer the one where one has a voice, and has hope to live a better life.
It is this mindset that led Nisha Sharma to rebel against the dowry system that led to a chain reaction of inspiring girls even in villages in interiors of our country. So,hope works, and shows good results in the long term. If one is already willing to suffer then everybody will make sure that the suffering is doubled, no?
I know.......n i think.....as indians........most of the girls...(not all).........might feel real bad for how things are in india.
I agree to whatever u said.........its true.......that independence is something girls shud go after.........its better for thier self esteem....and thier self-confidence.
But adjusting themselves in a different household...........i dont think that'll take away thier independence......n neither does it mean suffering.......infact that'll help them later on.........as once they get to know the routines.......n make a place in everyone's heart...........they can rule the house by making it thier own.........i dont understand why girls think of thier husband's house as thier sasural......is that not thier home as well ??
What does the mothers say to thier kids............'beta yeh aapki mamma ka sasural hai..............ya.............beta yeh hamara ghar hai.'
I think becoming a mother.....(excluding the pregnancy stage)............and becoming a new bahu........have atleast one similarity............we get responsibilities........from the first day on.
Wudnt a mother make adjustments to her life........when she has a kid..............so what the big deal for a girl to adjust...........in her new house...................A mom wud never think of her independence being at stake.
So whats the big deal???............i mean i'm sucha girl.........who have liberal thoughts......but along with that i'm rooted to the customs..........n traditions.
When i get married into a different culture household..........i'll respect thier culture......n try to follow thier customs..........but i'll have my own too.
And that is what Mona is doing.........she is still the same punjabi girl...........who when didnt know how to wear a sari..........continued wearing salwar kameez.
Getting up in the morning as other people......does not take away her independence...........helping with household chores......does not take away independence.
My father always says...........'whereever u go.........u've to adapt according to the atmosphere......that'll make ur life easy..........otherwise......u'll get mad at the single breeze.'
(When in Rome.......do what Romans do.)
But yeah............in-laws like Mona's are tough but can be easily manipulated..........but when things dont workout in our favor then we've to keep continuing.......keep trying..........wont one do that at thier jobs.......at schools.........so whats the big deal about trying that at husband's house.
Nothing personal hun.........its just my POV.😊................BTW i'm Sonal........what's ur name ?
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