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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: telstra

hmmm happy holidays to u too😛

like always a very good post😳
now coming to ykw matter hmm see two wrongs never make one right here tanmay is behaving all mad and misbehaving with ykw. so was he always like that? was he always that rude? no he was a good person who genuinely liked arushi and claimed that he knows about her past and marrying her fully knowing everything.
when hubby is not in good mood or in fighting mood wifey has to be extra gentle and caring and down to earth here ykw is fighting with tanmay on same wavelength and trust me it will not help any of them.
a wifey knows her hubby the most so its ykw who has to think that did tanmay loved her passionately truthly in all these years if he does then i will not suggest divorce not to ykw and neither any couple i will say if she has to hold his feet to make him hear her side of story then she must go ahead one touch of love and tanmay will atleast hear her without being angry may b he will not react spontaneously but will think about it as both love each other and trust me it will not hurt ykw self respect too.
as for shamu and dadi i will blame only them for whatever this couple going thru they shpuld have taled with tanmay before marriage. and still besides seeing something wrong in there daughters life freely allowing kn to enter his home🥱all bs.
hmm there is one thing called karma and ykw is suffering because of that only she tried to break kesar home aman wife home(unknowingly) and above all kriya home so this is bound to happen
ykw = prats little sister😉
mine pov😊

Good post telstra, but maybe my views are somewhat different because I'm not married yet and my opinion might change once I'm married.
I agree this is Karma, she made some bad decisions in her life, and now she has to face the consequences. Somehow or the other it had to come back to her. But I do not like Tanmay's about turn 4 years into the marriage. He knew she was married before, and he knew she loves him now. Is it so easy to doubt a person you've spent so many years of your life with?
And alright, if he was accusing her of lying to him about her relationship with Shakti, why is he accusing her of going around with several men? It's just disgusting. I saw Arushi trying to explain the situation to him a few times, but begging him to forgive her on her hands and knees is too much. That's like accepting she was wrong and she needs forgivenes..
However, I also think that both sisters (Arushi and Prats) are too rigid, and always consider themselves to be right. Ask them to ask forgiveness from someone, and they refuse point blank, and in a strict tone most of the time. There is no bending, no compromising from their side.
I think Arushi should now look at other options of earning from home. Maybe writing articles in the newspaper like Pratigya once did, maybe give tuitions again if Komal allows her, maybe do something online.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Good post 😃

I think arushi should leave tanmay n live her own life...its pure torture to live with a doubtful husband who always insults her...


but i agree with naz di...tanmay is not a bad person...he is being led to believe certain things n i can't find anything wrong in what komal told him about arushi...arushi did sink low to take revenge from her sister ...any body will think very low of such a girl ...
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Arushi has taken enough nonsense from Tanmay. How can he accuse her of trying to meet other men without evidence and after four years of marriage. Arushi should talk to her father about Tanmay and throw Tanmay out. She is an educated girl. She should get a job and take care of her father and dadi and make her own life.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: dhakarn

Good post 😃

I think arushi should leave tanmay n live her own life...its pure torture to live with a doubtful husband who always insults her...


but i agree with naz di...tanmay is not a bad person...he is being led to believe certain things n i can't find anything wrong in what komal told him about arushi...arushi did sink low to take revenge from her sister ...any body will think very low of such a girl ...



Komal spoke the truth about Arushi that her reason to marry was to hurt Pratigya..

A person who tortures a person emotionally makes him a bad person..He chose to believe them despite being married for many years and not having any trust in his relationship or marriage..To me if you believe everyone but your wife and your own relationship then he is bad!! No excuses!!


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Posted: 13 years ago
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Komal spoke the truth about Arushi that her reason to marry was to hurt Pratigya..

A person who tortures a person emotionally makes him a bad person..He chose to believe them despite being married for many years and not having any trust in his relationship or marriage..To me if you believe everyone but your wife and your own relationship then he is bad!! No excuses!!




ofcourse tanmay is behaving badly now...but he was not like this always...only lately he started this kind of behavior...and i am not making excuses for his bad behavior...just stating his reasons for his changed behavior...

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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: dhakarn



ofcourse tanmay is behaving badly now...but he was not like this always...only lately he started this kind of behavior...and i am not making excuses for his bad behavior...just stating his reasons for his changed behavior...


Still no excuse in my opinion...he is using a child's love to excuse his behaviour is unacceptable..

It has gone beyond the doubts of wife but a double face for the family..again he chose to believe despite him knowing the truth..no one fault but his..
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: starlight123


Still no excuse in my opinion...he is using a child's love to excuse his behaviour is unacceptable..

It has gone beyond the doubts of wife but a double face for the family..again he chose to believe despite him knowing the truth..no one fault but his..




i would say he has no back bone n has no self respect ...but i don't think he is faking his love for chinki...he is faking his relationship with arushi in front of all ...but not with chinki...

he chose to believe others ,...yes, his fault...but there is truth in komal's words if not in KN's ...if komal has said any lie about arushi, no problem... arushi can make him see KN's lie , but how will she explain about her behavior to P? he is now under the impression that arushi will play any kind of dirty games to get what she wants...like how he is thinking that she is demanding to work outside for being close to other men or demanding to live apart for her selfish motives...now he is believing a mixture of what KN n Komal told him about her...he is thinking that if she could marry a guy whom she claimed to detest for taking revenge from her blood sister , she could probably do anything for achieving her means...n she can't deny she did play dirty for her revenge... i am not saying tanmay is right in believing in others words ...n torturing her...but that his doubts r not baseless(according to him) , atleast from komal's part...

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Posted: 13 years ago
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i would say he has no back bone n has no self respect ...but i don't think he is faking his love for chinki...he is faking his relationship with arushi in front of all ...but not with chinki...

he chose to believe others ,...yes, his fault...but there is truth in komal's words if not in KN's ...if komal has said any lie about arushi, no problem... arushi can make him see KN's lie , but how will she explain about her behavior to P? he is now under the impression that arushi will play any kind of dirty games to get what she wants...like how he is thinking that she is demanding to work outside for being close to other men or demanding to live apart for her selfish motives...now he is believing a mixture of what KN n Komal told him about her...he is thinking that if she could marry a guy whom she claimed to detest for taking revenge from her blood sister , she could probably do anything for achieving her means...n she can't deny she did play dirty for her revenge... i am not saying tanmay is right in believing in others words ...n torturing her...but that his doubts r not baseless(according to him) , atleast from komal's part...



If you watch the scene when he was saying dont separate us from Chinki, he was clearly using the child to make Komal to change her mind on half the house expenses..That shows his cunningness in using a child..

Again, I disagree about your defense on Tam, he is baseless in his beliefs as he chose to believe them..Again his mind is the one to choose what to believe..He chose to believe the worst therefore there is no excuse for him..No excuse..

TBH, dont have much sympathy for such character or any understanding their POV when they abuse and torture their wives, so no matter what defense or reasons you point out it wont make much difference on my POV as I believe that a person who has it in him to abuse will abuse..That Tanmay is an abuser!!!




Edited by starlight123 - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: starlight123



If you watch the scene when he was saying dont separate us from Chinki, he was clearly using the child to make Komal to change her mind on half the house expenses..That shows his cunningness in using a child..

Again, I disagree about your defense on Tam, he is baseless in his beliefs as he chose to believe them..Again his mind is the one to choose what to believe..He chose to believe the worst therefore there is no excuse for him..No excuse..

TBH, dont have much sympathy for such character or any understanding their POV when they abuse and torture their wives, so no matter what defense or reasons you point out it wont make much difference on my POV as I believe that a person who has it in him to abuse will abuse..That Tanmay is an abuser!!!






well i didn't find his behavior fake

n who defended tanmay? not me...he is doing wrong n as u rightly said emotional abuse on arushi...i was merely pointing out his reasons for such behavior(according to his POV)...the CVS showed these reasons , not me...n olny wondering how arushi could show him that she didn't mean it when she did all those horrible things to P in the name of revenge... ..even KN has his reasons for hating kesar , beating her up n trying to kill her...but that doesn't mean he is not evil or we r defending his actions ...stating one characters reason for so n so behavior which is shown by the CVs is not defending the character... nobody is excusing him of anything he did n is doing...just stating his POV as shown by the CVS...i am not trying to change ur POV here, why should I? ...everybody has their own point of view... every body behaves in a certain way for some or other reason ...i was just pointing out that reason...i didn't call his actions as good or is sympathizing with him...

when i said i agree with naz di, i meant the only portion that tanmay was not like this earlier...he used to be a good man...


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Posted: 13 years ago
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@elle oh i am married mashalkah and was saying with mine experience sometimes in life u have to compromise to acheive big things with holding tanmay feet i did not meant asking forgiveness i meant to mellow him down to listen to her once without anger and i agree she did tried to talk to him but in absolute anger like calling him a shameless man ik n front of her sis too mzch,she will not get anything by fighting with him one has to bow down and in our society better if,girls bow down
Divorce leaving hubby all very easy to say but these decisions cant b taken in fraction of a sec
As for prats ince she realised k loves her.she mellowed down and was after him to listen to her once after hospital track
And in end a wifey knows is her hubby worth it of her live,sacrifice?
If not then kick him no need to be a devi and all goody goody lol
Edited by telstra - 13 years ago

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