Originally posted by: Raadhni
A very good topic. I reckon Arushi should just throw him out and live an independent life caring for her grandma and dad. Then shame on Tanmay who after four years of marriage is still doubting his wife and alleging her of infidelity. He should be ashamed of not progressing at work place and being a ghar jamai... arre atma saman naam ka bhi koi cheez hai. Shaadi kiya , na pyaar pr izzat de saka na sar par chhat - bada gatiya insaan hai. Aisa insaan ko koi bhi ladki/aurat ko saath nibhana namumkeen hai. Come on Arushi be bold fight for your rights. Where there is no trust and faith in the relationship then there is no point in staying in that relationship. Just divorce him and throw him out of the house. Let him go and rent and cook else where. He is just a free rider. Na usme swabhimaan hai na woh gairathmand hai --tabhi tho Komal ki tanne sunkar bhi ghar jamai ban kar abhi tak baita hai.
Loved your post. It's true that in these times, such thoughts would be considered backwards... but the fact remains that society does not like a guy to stay at his wife's parents house, unless there is some majboori. Not only in our desi culture, but I have observed this in the western culture as well.
No self-respecting guy would live at his in-laws house for so many years, without any specific reason, esp after all the taunts from Komal. I've seen many guys who will be earning less money, but will manage in their means, in a tiny apartment and curtail their expenses but will live in their own house according to their wish. And even if they live at the in-laws, they usually do contribute an equal amount towards the expenditure. Tanmay just wants to have his cake and eat it too. Komal is also not entirely wrong in asking for money, as at this stage, 4 years after marriage, Tanmay should be contributing more, especially as he doesn't want his wife to work.
Also, I agree about him not progressing in his workplace. It's sad per-se, but if he really isn't getting promoted in the last four years, then why doesn't he start looking for a better job, instead of being satisfied with the meager amount of money he is making? He also needs to step up and rise to the challenge of finding a job with a higher pay.
Personally, I believe that a guy should be earning enough to support at least himself and his wife independently before he decides to get married. Or he should allow his wife to work, so they can share expenses.
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