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Posted: 14 years ago

#21

Originally posted by: Aeryn

Well to be fair, it was all natak on her part. She wanted them to believe she was pregnant. But still the thing is she has never outright said it. Saxes were the one who jumped to conclusion. They congratulated her and she said nothing so we can say she lied by omission......But the fact remains that Komal said to Adarsh he can rectify the misunderstanding if he wants to which he didn't.....Plus Komal would not have done all this if Adarsh was not so adamant at not making their marriage a real one....

good points..and tru - what other than rebeliion can he expect from komal then... he shud atleast show SOME concern for her in front of others... there was this one scene where he promises he'd stand up for her even if his family says anything to her... but all false... 😕 do the thakurs liveon street, or has komal been raised in a kotha that they'r constantly taunting her abt "izzat"

see i think komal is someone who'd run around her hubby pretty much like krishna does for pratigya if adarsh just gives her ONE LOVING look...she truly is a gem of a wife... but the whole family is SO DUMb that they can't understand just a simple fact: komal wants her hubby to give HER time and affection - come on yaar even a kid wud understand that she craves ADARSH's attention his approval😆 and the whole family can't see this... they keep samjhaoing her that "adarsh has work"😕 they shud FORCE adarsh to spend time with his wife.. to give her ATTENTION..

but ofcourse komal isnt always right.. i mean, today😆 and nowadays😆 the way she keeps taunting adarsh that now that he is on his TAM TAM😆 the baby thing can't be fulfilled😆now now komal, that IS kind of harsh!😆 but i think now its all her frustration coming out! man she seriously rocks! i mean WHICH daughter wud say all this in front of her family? that she lied abt the baby cuz she thought it'd eventually come tru but now since her hubby is on wheelchair...................😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆saxenas wud prolly had gotten a HEART ATTACK if they hear her giving such reasons😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆

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Meaningful

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Posted: 14 years ago

#22

Wow!! I did not miss a single point. Very well put.😊

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elle45

@elle45

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Posted: 14 years ago

#23

Excellent post Koolsji! 👏 I agree with you completely. It seems that the real victim in the show is Komal, who has constanly been disrespected through no fault of her own.

Kesar's words to Shakti today struck me as very appropriate for Komal also. She said that even if you live with an animal for sometime, you develop some feelings for that animal. However, Adarsh has not even developed those feelings for Komal in all these months. He doesn't show an ounce of affection towards her.

What seems odd is that there was a day when he was ready to "fulfill all her wishes".... The day of the accident, when Komal had to sing and dance and practically BEG for his attention, he left the house saying that "today he will do away with all her complaints". If he was willing for all that, that means he should have at least SOME love for her in his heart, right? After the accident, even if they can't consummate their marriage yet, the least he can do is talk nicely to her, just behave in a romantic mood. But no, he doesn't do any of that.... What does he believe in? An ALL or NONE effect?

I think Komal has tried her level best and has continued living in the house despite being degraded constantly by everyone there, except Nainaji. And that Dadi! My God, it seems like she's talking to a lowly maid when she's addressing Komal! I think it's high time Komal leaves home. Perphaps that's when Adarsh may realize that he can actually miss her.

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koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 14 years ago

#24

Adarsh is doing exactly what Shakti is doing to a woman ...........making her feel UNWANTED , destroying her self esteem .

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Aeryn

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Posted: 14 years ago

#25

Originally posted by: starlight123
Thank you Kools for making such a post... Seriously, Adarsh seems to have regressed and his contempt for his wife is now open for everyone to see. Why do these educated Saxes like to make a spectacle about their personal lives?

The problem is that Komal is not Pratigya and Adarsh is not Krishna for the abuse to be recognised. Yep, you've nailed it If such behaviour was shown by Krishna, we would have floods of posts condemning the abuse. Poor guy can't never express his feelings (apart from his undying love for prats) or frustrations without the forum being swamped by posts all advising prats to divorce such abusive man who clearly doesn't love her......😆 But the abuse is done by Adarsh and the victim is Komal, therefore the abuse is acceptable. Of course it's acceptable, afterall she's SS' betiya, rude, uncouth, ill mannered so the saxes have every right to behave like that with her

Komal had a forced marriage. She is the only one who had no choice in the marriage. Rest of them made a choice, and therefore for Pratigya or Adarsh to say they were forced is bull. If the choice is taken away from you , then one can claim that they were forced. 👏 Thank you for telling this. You don't know how much I appreciated it..... I'm really exasperated each time I read pratigya was forced into marriage....No she made the choice to marry and teach a lesson to her supposed stalker.....It was HER agenda and Krishna was rather the unsuspecting victim of it since for him it was a love marriage.....

As Adarsh is the one who initiated this marriage it is up to him to take responsibility to either make a go for this marriage to work or give her the respect and end it.

I dont understand what he has to complain about. He has a wife who seems besotted with him and would follow him like a puppy if only he gives her little attention. Most husbands want wives to serve them hand and foot, and Komal would do that because of her love for him.

I seriously wish the CVs recognize the abuse in that household towards Komal. But I dont have much hope because till date the Saxes have not reflected about any decisions made by them. They are hellbent on living from past humiliations and insults and not looking into their own behaviour. They prefer to blame others instead of taking responsibility for the own actions.

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koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 14 years ago

#26

Starlight , Aeryn . NO ONE FORCED PRATIGYA IN MARRAIGE . She WANTED to take the bull by the horns , her blood was sIZZLING . It ALWAYS sizzles . , Pratigya made her choice to teach her stalker a lesson . Krishna wanted Pratigya at ANY cost . Adarsh chose this marraige to get a leverage against his sisters sasural so his sister wud be protected . . Only Komal didnt choose it . She was FORCED in it .Given away by Krishna , used by Adarsh , Komal is the real victim . She shud kick these two men in the 🤬 as they are both classic 🐷

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Binita

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Posted: 14 years ago

#27

Kools di

Excellent Post I was waiting for this one !!!

I have to agree Adarsh has made a mockery out of the institution of marraige, I have always wanted to know what made him think Komal would be any different far more cultured then her brother when he was well aware of her background, her upbringing before he married her. And why is Komal the uneducated, rude, brat the only one working on this marriage when she was given no choice but to accept it in the first place.

Adarsh advises Krishna to protect his sister, to stand up for her regardless of the circumstances, I wonder what it will take for him to practice what he preaches especially when all he does is humiliates her publicly and rejects her repeatedly just because she is not up to his standards, she may not be as educated as he is but she loves him far more then he will ever deserve !! Yes he was willing to accept her recently unfortunately she had to beg him, when it was his decision to marry her making it his responsibility to either accept her or at least make an effort to transform her !!

A part from Adarsh the family is just as useless except for naina ji, and the way she is treated in front of outsiders is not at all acceptable. I always fount it interesting that Komal may be rude as well as blunt but she truly cared about her in laws, while they never thought twice before insulting her openly in front of strangers by always finding her wrong how respectable of them!! I highly doubt anything will changer from their side and why should they feel the need to respect her when her own husband finds her humiliating and refuses to stand up for her !!

Edited by Binny1247 - 14 years ago

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Anjaani

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Posted: 14 years ago

#28

great post kool sis

remember the time prats puts a condition that she will only return to sasural if her FIL came to take her.......SS comes n takes komal instead.....n komal tell adarsh come get me in a few days

but after a few days komal calls adarsh to come n take her to sasural.....adarsh tells papa dear that komal wants to come home....papa dear says no she can not come due to prats kidnaping blackmail....komal gets ready n is waiting....adarsh doesnt shows up...n no phone calls either....saxenas give komal no importance or family status at all....she is unwanted

i seriously want arushi to go through what komal is being put through after marriage......n then lets see how arushi n saxsenas react to that treatment

n i have read over n over again.....that komal should be happy because she hasnt been physically abused.....

but komal has been emotionally abused by saxenas.....n emotional abuse is a form of Domestic violence.....

Edited by an_jaani - 14 years ago

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Sid

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Posted: 14 years ago

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well said guys! really well summed up!

i would liek to add just one more point:

Education, which saxena family is SO PROUD OF, is not JUST ABOUT ACADEMICS... education is more than just books...it's more than just the ability to read and write... ilm kisi bhi cheez ka ho sakta hai... deen ka ilm, TAUR TAREEKON ka ilm, saleeke ka ilm, insaniyat ka ilm... infact, the MOST IMPORTANT thing education teaches u, is not what 2+2 equals... it teaches u the VALUE OF HUMANITY.. it teaches one the value of INDIVIDUALITY..an educated person is one who understands that this world is made up of people of ALL SORTS OF PERSONALITIES, all sorts of flaws and goodness, but the important thing is RESPECTING everyone.. treating everyone as equal.. yehi toh cheez hai that makes education so much superior to jahalat...

so what exactly are the saxenas so proud of..?? how does education make them better than thakurs, when all theydid was LET THEIR SON BRING HOME AN INNOCENT BRIDE, AND DUMP HER IN A CORNER, AND THEN SUBTLY BELITTLE HER as much as possible... does THIS reflect their EDUCATION???👎🏼 the thakurs it seems have MORE SAMJH than the saxenas, atleast they knew how a new bride is welcomed, be it THEIR CHOICE OR NOT...👍🏼

oh oh, and to end this post, let me give a FINE example of how EDUCATED our saxenas are, of how much RESPECT and care they show for their bahu:

komal's father brings food for her, because she told him she misses it... she is eating (aww she looked so cute!) all happily, and what does the daadi say when they see it's non-veg: "HAYEE... plate kharab ho gayi..phenkni paregi".. and the rest it seems are just desperate to take throw everything from the plate to food to SS himself 😆 out of the house! now, i understand faith guys, don't get me wrong.. i realise how much value veg non-veg can have for ppl, because even pork is forbidden for us... but if some1 is eating that in front of me, i am NOT gonna STARE AT HER as if she is some elephant gone wild! woh toh it was komal and her "tough" upbringing that she kept eating.. if there was somebody else in her place, somebody like one of US members, i am sure humare halak se niwala tak nahi neeeche jaata... saxenas talk abt education, they do not even know it is BAD MANNERS to comment like this WHILE someone is eating? cant u let the person eat in peace now that they ARE eating, and discuss the issue LATER... PEACEFULLY... ??

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CrAzYRED

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Posted: 14 years ago

#30

Komal, is a neglected wife, that is a from of abuse too. Adarsh, is selfish, there is no hope for him. he like to think he is a protector for his family, krishna make him weak at that, especially when krishna agreed for him to married komal, he never in his life expected that would have happen. He need a lot of growing up to do before he can make a real marriage.

Edited by mia03 - 14 years ago

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