Krishna Fans:
I know we have been very frustrated with the portrayal of the Krishna character lately and especially because we see so little of him (almost like a breath of fresh air in a suksena claustrophobic chamber) in epis these days.
Anyways, I have been thinking about his character (because you know Krish is so endearing) and while I would prefer a 100% of the old Krishna I can still understand this Krishna's predicament, his actions and his circumstances.
From what I have seen, Men are simple minded creatures. Way easier to understand than women. They are pragmatic and do not like to take unnecessary stress, they find it difficult to multi-task, they cannot handle unnecessary frustration or games of any kind, they see things in black and white with limited to non-existent shades of grey because any grey shades would require analysis and that is not their favourite pastime, they love peace of mind, being nurtured by their spouses and more importantly feeling like kings of their castle. today we saw how he did not like being treated like a upset child by his wife. he wants to be understood as a person not tricked with treats.
Men and women react differently to deep-rooted emotional pain and betrayal. Men become like puppies when they are hurting aggressive and reactive and women become like kittens when they are hurt, vicious and sensitive to any overtures. it is this disparity in our most basic of emotions and reactions that making us interesting and frustrating to the opposite gender.
Look at our baba. Very indulgent and protective (a typical loving husband) in general but I have noticed that this facet of his personality comes to the forefront and is glaringly obvious more so when he and his wife live by themselves (like in the adda) rather than when they live among others (like in Thakur Nivas). This is because as I said men find it difficult to multi-task, they do not know how to balance the responsibilities and priorities that come with the roles of son and husband at the same time and this causes them stress and in turn they fall short in fulfilling one role. This becomes worse when the wife is indifferent or unapprecative or oblivious to their genuine intentions and efforts (like Pratigya).
That is what is happening with Baba. Today baba expressed that simple minded frustration. he is not as clueless as he seems, just being pulled in multiple directions. he feels frustrated as a son, dejected as a husband and rejected as a person. What happens next, he goes into protective mode. Offense rather than defensive.
For the most part I do not see him as a henpecked spouse but as a man reporting to two heads and demonstrating a strong preference towards one rather than the other. I probably would have seen him as a wimp if he was living independently and still lived by his mom and dad's rules or if inspite of staying with his parents as a dependant he was not trying to look for a balanced solution in trying to be a loyal son yet appease his wife. So far, he is trying hard to fulfil both these roles while working on his relationship with his wife which is an unwanted third element.
Today I felt so bad for him. Guys he has reached his breaking point (honestly I am surprised it took him this long) and all that's left to be seen is if drops two of the three hats or all hats and justs withdraws from the situation on all fronts so that he can sit back and lick his wounds.
I did not like the precap. I am feeling so bad that he has been driven to this level of frustration. This is not our baba. he has waited/ abstained for monthsand tried the love route to waste all that effort and end it in this manner???? Honestly CVs I would rather see him divorce than do something hurtful to her because then he would never be able to forgive himself and neither would we.
Anyways that's my thoughts. What do you think?
Hopeš
Geet - Hui Sabse Parayee
