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I've read several posts here about how Krishna MUST first change and become a better person deserving of Pratigya before she can or should fall in love with him. Let's take a look how we live in the real world...............that is depicted in fiction as well.
As a parent, do we tell a child, you behave well, do well in school first, then I will love you?
Do we tell our spouses, first be a good husband/wife, keep me happy, then I will love you?
Do we tell our friends, first be who I approve of all/most the time, then I will love you?
Doesn't it work the other way round? Love is unconditional by his very nature. We love our children, and that love and caring allows the child to learn to behave well with parental guidance. When teachers care, students are motivated to do better.
Little things that a bf/gf or a spouse does for their partner is appreciated and makes their feelings for each other grow into a deeper understanding and loving each other. The same is true for friends. Some relationships start off as friendships which later blossoms into a more intimate one.
So how come Krishna has to change first to win Prats's love? Krishna, the man-child has some mature moments in his life. He has shown sound logic on several occasions. He has shown he wants to change bec' he loves Pratigya. His methods are not the best but he has tried in ways he knew how to express that love given his personality, upbringing and family (they do matter).
Prats on the other hand comes from an educated (which means looking at life with a broader perspective and reasoning) and sharif family. She has been nurtured and raised with love and shown right from wrong (which is questionable these days given how the Sucksenas are handling themselves). She even tells Adarsh that with love one can change a person. She is good at advicing her brother but doesn't listen to herself.
How does telling her husband she hates him, wants to teach him a lesson, get revenge for her family's humiliation make her life any better? When a child is punished they act out even more. When one blames or confronts a spouse without explanations things get worse. If a friend is accused without details, the friend doesn't return your calls or walks away.
Prats is approaching her relationship with Krishna in a ulta-seedha way. And we have all seen Krishna tell Amma, SS and Prats on several occasions to give it to him straight and stop the ulta-seedha talk. When AV simplified his advice about women Krishna got some of it.
Komal has started trying to understand what Adarsh is about (even if she is jealous of Rolly), which is a good place to start. Seems like Prats is the one who has to change her tactics to get this relationship back on track. Krishna gave it a try his way, but this man-child is lost at the moment about has backed off his efforts to win his wife's love.
Your thoughts?
As a parent, do we tell a child, you behave well, do well in school first, then I will love you?
Do we tell our spouses, first be a good husband/wife, keep me happy, then I will love you?
Do we tell our friends, first be who I approve of all/most the time, then I will love you?
Doesn't it work the other way round? Love is unconditional by his very nature. We love our children, and that love and caring allows the child to learn to behave well with parental guidance. When teachers care, students are motivated to do better.
Little things that a bf/gf or a spouse does for their partner is appreciated and makes their feelings for each other grow into a deeper understanding and loving each other. The same is true for friends. Some relationships start off as friendships which later blossoms into a more intimate one.
So how come Krishna has to change first to win Prats's love? Krishna, the man-child has some mature moments in his life. He has shown sound logic on several occasions. He has shown he wants to change bec' he loves Pratigya. His methods are not the best but he has tried in ways he knew how to express that love given his personality, upbringing and family (they do matter).
Prats on the other hand comes from an educated (which means looking at life with a broader perspective and reasoning) and sharif family. She has been nurtured and raised with love and shown right from wrong (which is questionable these days given how the Sucksenas are handling themselves). She even tells Adarsh that with love one can change a person. She is good at advicing her brother but doesn't listen to herself.
How does telling her husband she hates him, wants to teach him a lesson, get revenge for her family's humiliation make her life any better? When a child is punished they act out even more. When one blames or confronts a spouse without explanations things get worse. If a friend is accused without details, the friend doesn't return your calls or walks away.
Prats is approaching her relationship with Krishna in a ulta-seedha way. And we have all seen Krishna tell Amma, SS and Prats on several occasions to give it to him straight and stop the ulta-seedha talk. When AV simplified his advice about women Krishna got some of it.
Komal has started trying to understand what Adarsh is about (even if she is jealous of Rolly), which is a good place to start. Seems like Prats is the one who has to change her tactics to get this relationship back on track. Krishna gave it a try his way, but this man-child is lost at the moment about has backed off his efforts to win his wife's love.
Your thoughts?
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