Originally posted by: MERARAI
K-Chalbo, thank you for taking the time to type in what was on my mind word for word. Wah, beta!😆. I just want to add that one is a product of one's environment and upbringing. Our adult life is an extension of what we learn and experience in childhood. Krishna was on the right track, he saw the difference between his own family lfe and what he saw at the Saxenas when he explained it to Komal 😊while SS was trashing a room tantruming like a child.😲😡 Krishna has exhibited mature behavior when his parents were rude and immature esp. in defense of Pratigya.
hmmmm... I wonder who bought this 'mature behavior' in Krishna when he never showed ny such behavior while his bhabi or amma were mistreated and why in the world are his parents being rude and immature in case of Pratigya when I am sure even Kesar didnt have to suffer such disgusting comments - like not being a virgin or getting trainings for trapping rich brats - during her first few days as a bride!!! Other than Pratigya being a Kayasth girl, I think Krishna is completely responsible for the mistreatments Pratigya is receiving from his parents! Krishna is the one who turned the Thakur mahal upside down to marry Pratigya and his family is blaming Pratigya like she is the one who encouraged him to do so and so the mistreatments! Plus, his non-stop bragging about his one and only, the best and the fairest, beautiful Pratigya can get on ny women's nerve who loves Krishna and the result is jealousy and hurting Pratigya... SO WHY SHOULDNT KRISHNA BE THE ONE TO PROTECT HER??? That his RESPONSIBILITY - more bcoz she is the person he claims to love and he is the one responsible for her being in that junglee house to begin with than her being his wife! SO, its one of v.few mature, good and right things he has done so far for Pratigya that proves his feelings as true and honest love which I dont think he is even aware of coz he did all those with the mentality that 'she is my wife ie my property' - which is NOT mature and needs to be changed!!!
Krishna's advises to Komal are v.good and smart but sometimes I think he can very much listen to his own advises for his own good!!! And again, Komal's dislike towards Pratigya is also bcoz of Krishna - Komal blames Pratigya for trapping her brother which made her brother to sacrifice Komal and bind her with the floody-Saxenas... And, Krishna always compares her to Pratigya, which makes her dislike Pratigya even more and therefore mistreats her - and trust me, this is v.normal human behavior NOT bcoz Komal doesnt understand or is uneducated or uncivilized or nything like that!!!
The bigger question is how much did Pratigya contribute with his angry response with her own behavior. We saw his attempt in varying degrees in trying to express his love. She rejected everyone of them except the ice stick (she probably took it bec' she was sharing it with her brother and Komal). I see Pratigya's every response to his attempts as a string of rejections. Krishna in spite of his intense nature wouldn't be the only guy to react to his wife's rejection of every little gesture over and over again esp. when it was she who made the choice to marry him. I see Pratigya's reaction as extreme and insensitive............she was sensitive to Komal bec' she is a woman but didn't feel that Krishna deserved the same consideration? For goodness sake, he is her husband, someone she chose to marry whatever her reason. She is punishing him for her decision and that isn't fair. What was the harm in taking a single rose from him. Wouldn't she have taken one had someone from the hotel offered her a bouquet? She glares at him and rejects his touch while she shakes hands and smiles at a total stranger at that. Any red blooded man who loved his wife would go crazy and probably ballistic too even if he had been raised in a more loving normal home with this much rejection after several sincere attempts on his part. Heck, a normal woman would have reacted intensely in her own way to repeated rejections. Just my opinion as always.
Ok! I guess u see 'Pratigya marrying Krishna' as her 'choice' BUT I think Pratigya was 'forced to make a decision' to marry Krishna and I see a HUGE difference in these two!
AND PLZ, the reasons behind her decisions were forceful, humiliation, fear, anger, bravery and nything BUT 'watever'!!!
I understand, since u can think of 'her sufferings' as 'watever', u can v.easily find her faults bcoz if she really hadnt suffered as much as she did bcoz of Krishna, even I would have thouhgt that she was at wrong, completely!!!
BUT I do think that Pratigya was forced into making a decision to marry Krishna and she is punishing 'someone' who is responsible for the fear, humiliations and sufferings she and her family went through, she is punishing 'someone' who has ruined and hurt her self-respect again and again!!! And if that 'someone' happens to be her 'husband' then so be it!!! I dont really think she needs to spare him ny pity/consideration and forgive him and forget about her past - just bcoz she has to spend the rest of her life with him or just bcoz she is the educated one and that is the wise decision to make or that will make her less miserable in the future!!!
I'm sure she'd have accepted a bouquet if someone from the hotel gave her bcoz THAT someone is not nyone who made her and her family suffer or nyone who ruined her self-respect!!! Again, she doesnt think that the 'total stranger' is the one who kidnapped her or insulted her & broke off her engagement!!! What did these strangers ever do to receive glares or disrespect from Pratigya when u can expect Krishna to receive her attention???
Ok! I dont think we can compare Krishna or Pratigya to ny red-blooded man or woman!😆 BCOZ, first of all, I dont think ny red-blooded man would cut his wrists to make his family agree to a marriage and I think ny red-blooded woman would rather be on the run than marry someone like Krishna!!! If he were nything like a normal guy from a normal home, I am sure the whole situation would've been different, like - he wouldnt have forced Pratigya to marry him in the first place!!!
AND since u r saying ny women's reaction in Krishna's shoes would have been similar to Krishna's, how about ny men in Pratigya's shoes??? 🤣 Alrite, I know this is bizare but lets just suppose there is one v.unque girl who is just like Krishna and has forced a guy who is a lot like Pratigya into marriage!!! (Of course, not by kidnapping him or ny such thing!🤣 Or may be its possible that a girl can kidnap a guy - only prob. guys are stronger and dont have to be ashamed of spending one night outside home!) BUT lets suppose that he & his family suffered as much as Pratigya and hers. So, the guy is refusing the girl over and over again coz he cant help but hate this girl....Ok u get the idea, right? NO? How about we just imagine Pratigya plays a similar character like Krishna and vice-versa! Plz. let me know the results of ur imaginations coz mine are - 🤣🤣🤣
Seriously, I think ny normal 'guy' in Pratigya's situation would have done the same as her!!!
Look at Adarsh from a shanthi loving family! He was angry went to stab Krishna bec' he l believed Krishna was responsible for Pratigya's humiliation. He stole money for his parents and he is supposed to be sharif loge, educated. There are limits to what any person can tolerate. She has seen Krishna's temper before at her engagement. Did she not care how far she pushed him bec' her hatred and need for revenge consumed her so much. Before she goes around reforming her husband and in-laws she needs to take a good look at herself in the mirror for a while and I mean not to put her make up on either😉. A woman can destroy or make a home. Ek Parivar ko ek aurat kudh bigad sakthi hai ya achchi tarah se sambaal sakthi hai. Wake up and smell the coffee (since she doesn't drink at the Takurs) beta before things get worse. You took matters into your own hands when you got married, now nurture the relationship, value and make your life the best it can be.
I see, u r taking education to its deeeepest meaning when it comes to judge the Saxenas!!! Tell me something, does educated people lie or not? Does being educated means u cant make a wrong move in ur entire life?? Or does educated means u can never get angry but always try to understand those who wrong/hurt u??? Or does being educated mean u HAVE to understand those who are NOT educated or civilized??? The illiterate & uncivilized people are the only ones capable of losing their temper and making mistakes and them being uneducated and uncivilized, thus their wrongs are excused - is that how it is ???
I dont really think the Saxena Family's behavior has got nything to do with education - its more to do with emotions! The Thakurs on the other hand has got a lot to do with education - starting from their lowly thoughts of women and education to their mistreatments of women or waiting for the munshi to read a letter which might be important!😆
Well, just bcoz she fears his short-tempers, she tries her best to get along with it!!! She didnt shake hands with some other guy fearing his reaction, then fearing his reaction she smiled during the photoshoot just to save the photographer and fearing his reaction she even lets him touch her in public when she feels disgusted by his touch!!! So, do u expect her to live her future being afraid of his short-temper??? I dont think so! Bcoz, she IS a strong and brave woman! She cant let him have his 'right as husband' on her just becoz she knows about his nasty temper!!! She cant make her hatred for him go away or make herself love/respect him just bcoz she fears his temper or just bcoz he is her husband whose very presence makes her remind of the sufferings and humiliations she went through!!! And I think thats the girl Krishna fell in love with!!! Why do u think he calls her 'Sherni'? Bcoz, even though she is scared of Krishna and his temper, she speaks her mind which is strong enough to make him not have everything according to his ways just bcoz he is her husband calling himself parmeshwar - Hutt behooda!Wat did u ever do to be a parmeshwar!!!
A woman can make or destroy a home - sooo TRUE!!! So far, I havent seen Pratigya do nything that shows her flaws, well actually, I think she is being way too kind to the junglees!!!
When she got married, she only saw a sample of the junglee team, one who loved her and was at his best behavior bcoz of that!!! I think, she tries her best to get along with the family even though each is one unique sample than the other! 😆 BUT Krishna has to change himself and start understanding Pratigya's hatred towards him for these two's relationship to actually start working out!!!😃😃😃
Hey MERARAI!!! U alone r responsible for ME sooo looonnnngg comments!!!😆😆😆
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