SON (vs) HUSBAND

Hellooo.....

Hope all are fine here....

This topic is quite simple as always...balancing the responsibilities while being a Husband and Son at a time....

Almost every mother tells (and other relatives too), "Dear son, you have changed a lot after marriage."

At the same time wife tells, "You care for your mother more then me and don't have time for me."

I feel that a mother may feel little insecure when her son gets marry, (best person to answer this will be mother) and at the same time, if wife is even dominating her husband she will always tell such sentences (but she will never really mean it😉):-

"You don't listen to me much now😭"

"You are always busy in your work and your relatives😡"

"You don't love me as u use to at the beginning of our marriage neither care for me much"

I want to ask can a Guy balance this equation throughout his life equally. If YES then how it is possible?

MOTHER'S FEELING:-

Meri in aankhon ka woh chamakta taara,

Shaadi ke baad hogaya, aur kisi ka pyaara,

Kaam se aye, to maan kare haath se khilado,

Kaash biwi ke pallo ke saaye se usse mai hatado,

Lagta tha jaise bahu ek beti ke roop me mil gayi,

Lekin kuch hi pal mein mere bete par puri bas gayi…

WIFE'S FEELING:-

Pehle pehle tum ne pyar ki batien bohat kiye,

Bina soonche qasme, wade tum ne bohat kiye,

Aaj kal na woh pyaar aur na woh wada raha,

Dinner aur shopping ke liye bas intezaar raha,

Pehle taareefao ke phool tum barsayaa karte,

Mai rootho to kuch nahi, maa ruthi to manaya karte,

Apne ristedarao mein tum itna khoye rehte ho,

Har waqt apni maa ki goud me soye rehte ho…..

My views are simple you can balance quite well and easily …just you need to have a better understanding and convincing nature👍🏼.

NOTE: - This is not a personal experience coz I am not yet married.

Cheers,

Ahmed

Originally posted by: guess_gallery

NOTE: - This is not a personal experience coz I am not yet married.

Ahmed Ji,

My advice is that you should get married and experience it first hand...😃

As for the age long tussle between the MIL and DIL - to debate who is right and who is wrong is like debating the chicken and the egg thing...but I certainly pity the poor husband/ son caught in between the cross fire

As for my own personal opinion- well since I am a DIL and I have only daughters, it is bound to be very very very biased !😆

nvmd😉

Originally posted by: TallyHo

Ahmed Ji,

My advice is that you should get married and experience it first hand...😃

As for the age long tussle between the MIL and DIL - to debate who is right and who is wrong is like debating the chicken and the egg thing...but I certainly pity the poor husband/ son caught in between the cross fire

As for my own personal opinion- well since I am a DIL and I have only daughters, it is bound to be very very very biased !😆

Originally posted by: daisyUSA

This is tough to answer. As a mother I want my kid to come hug me & love me same way as I always raised and hugged.
As a wife I want attention & appriciation from my husband for whome I left my world and doing all thing that were never done before marraige like cooking, cleaning and maintaing balance between kids, family, finance & friend.

I guess guys just can't justify any relationship. They can easily balance by keeping their parents (leave alone mom) & wives happy by remaining happy & cheerful and no complains...guys either complain or shurg off their responsibilities and we women spoiling them.

i do not agree with this statement at all....why is the poor guy only to blame...is'nt it the duty of the mother and the wife to work out a solution as well rather than calling him a mama's boy or joru ka gulaam.......I'll give u an example and i have heard this too often....in a joint family when the man returns home.....if he goes first to his mom the wife sulks and vice versa.....so what is the solution.......should'nt it be the duty of the wife and the mother also to make life a little bit easier for him rather than sulking and blaming him and making him feel guilty for what ever he does...?

Originally posted by: TallyHo

Ahmed Ji,

My advice is that you should get married and experience it first hand...😃

As for the age long tussle between the MIL and DIL - to debate who is right and who is wrong is like debating the chicken and the egg thing...but I certainly pity the poor husband/ son caught in between the cross fire

As for my own personal opinion- well since I am a DIL and I have only daughters, it is bound to be very very very biased !😆