SON (vs) HUSBAND - Page 2

Originally posted by: ani11

i do not agree with this statement at all....why is the poor guy only to blame...is'nt it the duty of the mother and the wife to work out a solution as well rather than calling him a mama's boy or joru ka gulaam.......I'll give u an example and i have heard this too often....in a joint family when the man returns home.....if he goes first to his mom the wife sulks and vice versa.....so what is the solution.......should'nt it be the duty of the wife and the mother also to make life a little bit easier for him rather than sulking and blaming him and making him feel guilty for what ever he does...?

Well who is blaming "poor guy". You have a very valid example of joint family and this is where balancing comes. If you have happy wife & happy mother on your hands then if you go kiss your mom first before your wife or viceversa won't be issue but trick is if you hug your mom then hug your wife also. You can't give special treatment to one and cold shoulder to other....after all both are womens and emotions run high ..... and I agree to then also we will say why you have to do same thing for both of us and can't be creative .. 😆 but as long as they know how to divide attention & make each one special....

Originally posted by: daisyUSA

Well who is blaming "poor guy". You have a very valid example of joint family and this is where balancing comes. If you have happy wife & happy mother on your hands then if you go kiss your mom first before your wife or viceversa won't be issue but trick is if you hug your mom then hug your wife also. You can't give special treatment to one and cold shoulder to other....after all both are womens and emotions run high ..... and I agree to then also we will say why you have to do same thing for both of us and can't be creative .. 😆 but as long as they know how to divide attention & make each one special....

so u mean the onus to keep the wife and the mother both happy lies on the male and the lovely ladies...make no effort ..just sit there and paint their toenails...😆😆

Is topic ko dekhkar ek lion yaad aaya hai...phek deta hoon... 😆

Maa ki aankhon ka taara
Biwi ki Museebaton ka maara
Ma ne ki zindagi bhar tareef
Biwi ne di zindagi bhar taqleef
Ma ne apne haatho se khana khilaya
Biwi ne tere hatho se khana banwaya
Maa ki aatma kar rahi teri pukaar
Biwi se mil rahi roz gaali hazaar
Abey Besharam kyon ki apni khud barbaadi 😆
Ya kisine tujhe jamagotey ki goli khila di

Originally posted by: ani11

so u mean the onus to keep the wife and the mother both happy lies on the male and the lovely ladies...make no effort ..just sit there and paint their toenails...😆😆

You have to make effort if you want best of both worlds. Are you saying that mother should let guy pamper his wife & don't complain or viceversa....or that mother and wife come to common ground and understand each other.

I am thinking of scenario of perfect saa bahu realtion where they discuss with each other and say beta this is what we both want to happen "curtain color will be green"..."we have decided to make aloo prantha today"..."You should wear white kurta with jeans...."👏

I wonder in reality how much of above is true....Would like to hear from others ..if wife want green & mom want brown curtains then what should guy do.....I feel he should get something with both shades or take them and let them choose some different color...instead of listening to "you are mama's boy"...or "you are your wife's gulam"...since guy here is who is compaining that he is stuck between wife & mom so he should also learn to balance the scale.

Originally posted by: daisyUSA

You have to make effort if you want best of both worlds. Are you saying that mother should let guy pamper his wife & don't complain or viceversa....or that mother and wife come to common ground and understand each other.

I am thinking of scenario of perfect saa bahu realtion where they discuss with each other and say beta this is what we both want to happen "curtain color will be green"..."we have decided to make aloo prantha today"..."You should wear white kurta with jeans...."👏

Maybe we should match saas-bahu kundalis!!!😆

I wonder in reality how much of above is true....Would like to hear from others ..if wife want green & mom want brown curtains then what should guy do.....I feel he should get something with both shades or take them and let them choose some different color...instead of listening to "you are mama's boy"...or "you are your wife's gulam"...since guy here is who is compaining that he is stuck between wife & mom so he should also learn to balance the scale.

I have been lucky so far - my MIL and I gang up against my husband! 😆 However, it's not always rosy and picture perfect, and whenever we have disagreed, we have solved it between us without involving my husband. Like I said, touch wood 😛