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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: Jan50

This womanizing and infedelity is very common among the rich,, successful, charismatic men like

Trump, sports celebrities, film stars. Their women akso can do the same. They are no comparison or role models for ordinary mortels with middle class morals. They can go in and out of marriages any time and come out unscathed. It is the ordinary people who have to think thru a lot before taking
Drastic steps of divorce. As kools said, it is not for "pati parameshwar reasons" people stay in
Marriage. Life is tough for both spouses after divorce in India. Even men face some stigma in work
Places and in society after divorce.
Even in western countries,specially USA, the living standard after divorce comes down drastically.
Divorce is very expensive. You pay the lawyers and then alimony for a man. For the woman she has to
Cope with less income, security and specially if there is a kid. That is why courts all over the world
Try to discourage divorce. They give ample time for the couples to reconcile.


For one thing child support is not directly cut by government from pay checks like in the US

Divorce is not speedy and takes years if its not mutual consent and the spouse decides to fight it out

there is a good deal of corruption and the lawyers decide to prolong the case by taking dates upon dates for their own income

ladies often figure out that by staying in the marraige the man is forced to take more responsibility , financially and of the children both ...i am speaking of situations where there is no physical abuse .

They don't do it coz they worship the man at all . They take an assesment of the limitation of situations .

And as u said rightly , sleeping around is very common in rich society [ nowdays even in middle class ] , its no big shocker to the wife .


Edited by koolsadhu1000 - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Jan: Divorce is not a cakewalk for anybody in ANY country and milieu. But that doesn't stop the US from having a 50% divorce rate, does it?
On the Indian context, my "pati parameshwar" comment was indicative of the larger, generic Indian mindset that still largely prevails in rural areas or amongst urban underclasses. My point was, that the West is eons ahead of India or rather the whole of Asia, with respect to viewing divorce liberally. Even some urban Indian women have this mode of thinking, albeit subconsciously.

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