Is divorce and moving out worth it??

Recently there have been reports in the news about sussane and hrithik roshan splitting.

Everything depends on person to person and their views on marriage

@Tinoo...very meaningful and thought provoking post ! 👏👏





You will have significantly more time alone, which can be both an advantage and a disadvantage. If you have outgrown your relationship you might be more true to your current authentic self by deciding to go your own way and split. Feeling lonely is a common reaction after a divorce.

Now...I think...divorce is no more a social stigma...it is an accepted norm ...but at the same time ...it leaves a deep impact on the life styles of individuals...and opens up new challenges and new dimensions !!---as in the case of Anandi!!!

But every divorcee may not be as lucky as Anandi !

Some people are ok with living a life of lies. They live happily in their bubble. But for some, being dishonest with self, is end of life. It will be like feeling dead inside. How do we equate wealth and status with feelings and emotions? They are two different things.

Suzanne Roshan's parental family is rich. She herself is a successful interior designer and runs high end decor stores. So even after leaving Hrithik, she does not have to suffer much financially. It's not like she saw crores only after marrying Hrithik.

It's person's choice what she wants and what kind of position she is in. If one's having one's own identity, earning well for onself and has nice support from parental family too then why stick to marriage only for husband's wealth?

It's about individual's priorities too. Everybody doesn't want just money and material comforts. If you feel stuck and stifled then you can't enjoy wealth. Better to move out then and compromise with factors like less material comforts than compromise with abusive or philandering ways of one's spouse.

Women have to weigh pros and cons of what they want.

Anandi's story is too dreamy. No in laws or village support a woman to this extent. In Indian society, divorced, widowed, sick and even ageing men prefer to marry single women than consider a divorced woman for marriage. Men like Shiv barely exist (which is why Shiv's so popular as a character). Families like Shekhars are also rare. Mostly families refuse such alliance outright or are all like Sanchi (bitchy, narrow minded).

It's true divorce is more of a stigma for women than men. Men get a new wife easier, than women getting a new husband. And men are more likely to get a single woman. Whereas divorced women are more likely to get divorced men, widowers or those with kids or even older ones with growing kids.

Society's still partriarchal.

I know a woman who's doing well for herself even after divorce. But also know a woman who was doing well, but gave in to depression and ended up losing everything. Her son's studies are also suffering due to her giving up her job and mental health issues.

Women must be strong and know what they are doing.

In either way I feel it is a woman's loss when her husband cheats on her behind her back.

i do not know if its worth it or not. each case is different. depends on if the relation is getting physically abusive etc etc... finances, husbands name these things are certainly NOT the reasons to put up with a loveless marriage, cheating husband etc etc.. well if the reasons are you want to make the marriage work at ANY cost then its a diff thing. but nor all women are well off or financially independent like ie. jaya or sussane are. some women have to put up because they are financially not independent and have no one to take care of their finances. And if such women have children then they have no choice.

Originally posted by: Shinya

Because Jaya chose to remain with Amitabh does not mean other women should also live with their cheating husband.

Jaya too may have decided to walk away at some time, and amitabh may have convinced her to stay. We dont know what happened. All men are not Amitabh and Raj Kapoor.

Why should Sussane care who comes into Hritik's life after she is gone? Money is the not the top priority for every woman especially if the woman has self-confidence. I am happy she chose her self-respect over her husband's money.

@Missesha

I think it's hard and nearly impossible for a woman to make her man realise her worth if he's drifted away. And I find it regressive too. Men and in laws don't tolerate even small mistakes and flaws of a woman. But a woman should keep up with everything and rather work on making the man realise her worth? The Biwi No. 1 type of idea? Why?

And what can women do? Anandi kept serving Jagya's family, stopped her own parents from insulting Singhs and Jagya and herself got Bhairon to fund Jagya's studies and lifestyle, did not file any case against Jagya etc. But despite all her goodness and tolerance Jagya did not realise her worth. He never came back to her.

It was only after divorce that he began to realise Anandi's value and got more desperate when he saw she was going to remarry and there was no chance of getting her back anymore.

In reality women can only be tolerant and continue to be all nice and serving and hope for husband to realise his mistakes and get normal. One can't brainwash anyone to mend his ways soon.

Either men have to be status conscious to stick in a marriage (like Amitabh and Raj Kapoor) for their position in eyes of society or men's family has to deal with an iron hand with them (the same stars had pressure from their parents also to get back with their wives).

I don't think it's easy to behave exactly like how someone else wants you to or would like you to behave and tolerate even if he's cheating or sleeping around with someone else. It's said Mithun secretly even married Sridevi. I wonder how his wife Yogita tolerated all this!

Men's families too, I've seen, give up after some time. My relatives had given ultimatum to their son that divorce won't happen as no one in family ever did it. They tried their best to convince him to stay with his wife only. From debates to emotional blackmail - everything happened. But son was adamant. He started remaining more and more outside the house and more disconnected from family. Finally divorce did happen and his family couldn't do much. Rather they eventually supported him because they couldn't tolerate their son being so distant from them.
Men have it easier...after all...blood is thicker than water.

It's been 15 years now. The relatives barely mention the DIL they once used to support so much. Even if one or two people mention her, they shed a quiet tear for her and leave it at that blaming fate etc. Their son has remarried and they're all normal family. All those so called threats of breaking ties with him etc. faded.
No one knows whereabouts of former DIL anymore.

In-laws support to a woman is also only upto a limit I guess.

Women get a really raw deal compared to men...