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I sincerely apologize to many people who have felt offended with my post that " Sandhya can join training while pregnant". To be frank some of the comments that came to my PM really did hurt me. Maybe in the excitement of posting the post my message it seems was not clear or what I intended didnt come out properly. Hence creating this post to clarify few things.
I have come across a directive which tells pregnant woman can join the services/ training if a doctor certifies she is fit to take it. Please understand a doctor has to certify that she is fit for training first. If the doctor doesnt certify nobody can do anything. And secondly it is more applicable to IAS, IFS where training is not that much physical. My earlier post meant was the DABH CVs can make use of this directive( I am not asking them to make use of it. As personally I prefer Sandhya taling a leave and coming back to continue to her training after giving birth to the child) was my thought process mainly based on below 2 items
They have made mockery of lot of things, UPSC exam being the height of mockery where they skipped prelims or mains anyways one of the exams.
They have made Emily run around like a mad woman during SBC while she was pregnant. Made Meena climb Daisa's rooftop for papad stealing and if that was not enough Meena simply walked to the children's nursery immedaitely after delivery and switched babies. There are many mothers here and do any one of you agree the above said things happen in real life as far as a pregnant woman is concerned. But DABH CVs have done it.
Second they love drama. They love making Sandhya's life miserable as much as possible. If Sandhya comes back with pregnancy she does not have much problem. Bhabo will take care of her beendini like anything. She gives birth to a baby and since she has done the duty of a good bahu, bhabo like a good saas ( Bhabo says if Sandhya is a good bahu, she will be a good saas too) will support Sooraj in child care till she comes back. No major challenge for Sandhya here, only her training postponed.
So to create drama, create issue, create tiff for Sandhya-Bhabo I just thought CVs will take the route of Sandhya in training with pregnancy with a doctor's approval and Sooraj's support. I had no intention of hurting anyone's feelings or I dont believe it is a realisitc approach. It was meant to be a predictive post, just like I predict many other tracks.
But one thing I have to tell before concluding. Though IPS training is not realistic for a pregnant woman, it is a myth to believe that women need to take rest and rest only during pregnancy like some of the comments I got.
I have many women in my organzization who come driving their own vehicles almost till late pregnancy and also woman who were doing their normal office work till late pregnancy.Their kids are not having any issues.
My mother and most of my aunts did almost all the household works that included cooking, washing utensils, clothes, sweeping, cleaning etc.. while pregnant and neither me , nor my cousins are having any problems.
Also it is scientifically proven that doing regular household works does help the woman to have normal delivery and today's woman are having problem with normal delivery because we sit and work and most our household tasks are machinized.
Once again I sincerely apologize to all those whose feelings I have hurt.
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