Concern: rights of members&constructive criticism [VB Nt Pg4]

This post is on certain things I've observed and endured in this forum for a long time and finally decided to speak.

Well that's some no nonsense attitude in there.
Anyways while I do agree with some points such as people should be allowed to make comments about other fandom services irrespective of the one they belong to , the concept of bashing has been drastically altered in this forum. There have been rifts between every fandom and each time it has taken a turn for the ugly. People have become more and more sensitive about their favourites and I have seen this change in myself as well. What may seem like constructive criticism to one individual may not be taken lightly by another, merely because he/she has seen such topics lead to further disharmony in the forum.
Though constructive criticism should be encouraged we cannot restart it all of a sudden and baby steps need to be taken. Moreover I think the post that encouraged you to post this topic intentionally or unintentionally became a comparison post and both the tanha and the vrushan fandom suffered for this.
What you aim to achieve through this post seems idealistic today and the need if the hour is to not deviate from the topics and move onto personal comments as well as not degrading or reprimanding one actor to promote another.

@^^^

Originally posted by: bleu98

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<font color="#ff0000" face="Comic Sans MS, Times, serif" size="2">I would like to add only one thing- I have witnessed this ever since I joined and it's not one single post that caused me to write all this. While today's post may have acted as a catalyst, there have been ample instances of personal attacks on me and other members for no reason. And I have never even criticised any actors- merely characters.</font>

I have never said that you are wrong. I too have faced personal attacks. Even though I love both kriyaansh and swaron, I am and will forever be a bigger fan of kriyaansh, so trust me when I tell you I felt horrible inside when a swaron fan told me that I was fake for defending Kunwar or shakti when I claimed that I liked swaron too which is what led me to remove my swaron siggy as well, however the fact remains that things here are fragile and even though what you wish to do might actually be for the betterment of the forum, it is a little late in the day to create posts like these because it will just lead to misinterpretations again and you will be the one who might end up getting bashed. All I'm saying is that baby steps need to be taken. Believe you me that someone will take this offensively. People have become less tolerant and more brash and somewhere we are all responsible for that.
I sincerely hope that people take your post in a positive sense but the chances don't seem too bright

Yes. 😊 I'm just trying to pave way for those baby steps.. dunno if it'll happen.. 😕 and I didn't misunderstand you. I was just clarifying. And trust me I've faced bashing and closing of topics too. 😆 Anyway, I don't give a tiny rat's ass about cyberspace bashing, else I wouldn't have written all this. I have a handful of friends here and they know me for what I'm. And that'll do for me. And even I think this post won't be taken in the right spirit, largely, but I had to write it- give it all away you know.. 😊

Exactly before I used to comment on Swaron and no one would argue with me this was when there were 2 fandoms and then after this 3rd fandoom all this started happening and fans are bashing characters there are people saying I like vrushan wala Swaron and some people saying I like tanha wala Swaron ( I said this lol so there was no confusing :D) but its not like I cannot like both Swaron. I like both I prefer tanha though that doesn't mean I can't comment on vrushan or like them does it. This forum has changed so much since I took the break of leaving IF for studies.

Originally posted by: The007Shivani

Exactly before I used to comment on Swaron and no one would argue with me this was when there were 2 fandoms and then after this 3rd fandoom all this started happening and fans are bashing characters there are people saying I like vrushan wala Swaron and some people saying I like tanha wala Swaron ( I said this lol so there was no confusing :D) but its not like I cannot like both Swaron. I like both I prefer tanha though that doesn't mean I can't comment on vrushan or like them does it. This forum has changed so much since I took the break of leaving IF for studies.

lol I had that spunk around me when I rejoined IF too, got reported on every single one of my first five posts

I actually consciously stay away from posting things and stating my opinions on new/old etc etc... Even though their are genuine doubts in my mind. Or even when I find something disconcerting or OOC for some character, just because I dont want to incur the wrath.

@Shivani

Originally posted by: bleu98

<font color="#ff0000" face="Comic Sans MS, Times, serif" size="2">Yes.😊I'm just trying to pave way for those baby steps.. dunno if it'll happen..😕and I didn't misunderstand you. I was just clarifying. And trust me I've faced bashing and closing of topics too.😆Anyway, I don't give a tiny rat's ass about cyberspace bashing, else I wouldn't have written all this. I have a handful of friends here and they know me for what I'm. And that'll do for me. And even I think this post won't be taken in the right spirit, largely, but I had to write it- give it all away you know..😊</font>

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<font color="#ff0000" face="Comic Sans MS, Times, serif" size="2">And I can empathise- I felt so mad and frustrated every time I was told how I don't understand Sharon. How can I not understand SRP- she is an inspiration to me and I admire and adore her more than any fictional character on TV or cinema.😭</font>

Yeah I saw that part of the argument. This is what I mean when I say personal remarks should be stopped and why I have never bashed another actor. Such things are said in the spur of the moment, but can really hurt the other person.