very interesting topic.
Here are my 2 cents;
1. I would be lying if I said age doesn't matter at all. It matters. And here I am not talking about the guy being younger/girl being older situation. I am just talking about general age differences between a man & woman who are considering marriage. It matters because that affects the relationship both consciously & subconsciously. It affects our thinking that 'ok, this person is younger than me. He's bound to be more immature' - the older person automatically assumes the role of being in greater control & parenting the other, just the way Saachi behaves with Dhruv. And that can be dangerous at times if the other party is egoistic.
However, just to qualify - age is an important fact, but it should never form the basis of deciding on a relationship. In fact, most of the time, in a successful relationship one shouldn't even realise that there is a huge age gap.
2. That concept is rubbish to me. It's just another means of re-enforcing patriarchy, which I absolutely detest. Man & woman are equal, & should thus, be able to make their own choices of who they want to marry without any pressure. If they have no problem with their age differences, then society should mind their business.
3. In this world where nothing is permanent, even relationships are not permanent. Something that might be our world today might mean nothing to us tomorrow. People evolve with time, & so do relationships. Thus, there is no guaranteed formula to successful relationships. As long as 2 people want to be together, they can be together.
4. Like I said in the 1st point, all of us jump to judgements when it comes to age & this is not just for romantic relationships, but all relationships. Parents think that their children are kids & don't understand, because of their age. An elder sibling feels the need to live up to expectations of family more than the younger one, because of age.
The whole idea of 'age' connotes responsibility & maturity for almost 99.9% of people in this world. And Saachi is no different. Being the eldest child, she feels the need to take care of Aaji & Nani. Being older than DV, she feels that she has seen more & thus thinks she is much more mature than him. Most of us are very quick in declaring that age doesn't matter. But it does, & it affects us almost all the time, without us even realising it. Just to make it clear - rejecting an alliance just because of age is stupid, but realising the effect 'age' has on relationships is important.
5. Here, I might give an answer that sounds ideal, but I do believe in it. I wouldn't mind marrying a man younger than me. All I need is for him to love me & to be invested in our relationship. If 2 people truly want to be together, they will be go against all odds to be together & be happy.
Great post :)
Off to read everyone else's views.
Edited by prc_fan1 - 11 years ago
So, according to you does Age play a major role when it comes to love or marriage ?
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