Serious matter..

My dear friends...

Im going through a very difficult situation...one of my Ex-classmates from college just as old as me, has been active on social networking sites like Facebook...some stranger guy messaged her some months ago and she replied... his first message was pretty innocent and she didn't see any trick or malice in that...day to day his messages started becoming frequent and mostly they used to convey her that he is lonely and just needs someone to talk...
she was weak minded and did not once stop him... once she told me about her new friend and also his need to just 'Talk'
that was maybe 10 days back..i immediately recognized his true intentions behind the messages and told her to block him...but she ignored me and continued her own thing...
then came a message which said she is the only thing which is keeping him happy in life and he wants to meet her...he wants to live with her and he will do 'anything' she wants...(understand the double meaning)
she used to forward me his messages regularly and this time she too felt something amiss in his 'innocent' messages...this time she heeded my warning and blocked him...

but then all hell broke loose... He made a entire new ID and started sending her abusive messages and he accused her that she led him on the entire thing and she just wanted to have cheap online S** related fun..
last night she kept online whole night and he abused her whole night i believe...
this morning i got 20 odd messages from her saying that she has let down her parents and herself by entertaining such person and she is ending her life..as she has no reason left to live..

i have been trying to call her and get in touch with her since morning and there is no answer on any of her phones...she is not online at FB either and im scared and shocked..

there are people on this forum whom i really care about and who are active on Facebook and other similar sites...
im not telling you to stop using them but just be careful and for any reason don't give any stranger a chance to rule your life...zindagi khel nahi hai...think about your parents...

despite taking precautions if you fall victim to online bullying then please share it with your friends or even parents...don't keep it under wraps...

i don't know if i made a mistake by making this post...just wanted to share my predicament as im very disturbed..

it is true that many facebook and other forum users are not very careful. i have a facebook account too, but i make a point not to accept people who i dont know personally

THINK 1000 TIMES BF TALKING TO A STANGER IN FB CHAT SKYPE ETC or BEFRIENDING DEM IN SOCIAL NETWORKING SITES.BEST THING IS TO AVOID DEM.WEN WE WONT RESPOND DEY WILL STOP BY DEMSELVES .THERE R FRIENDS DAT WE KNOW PERSONALLY. DEN Y WE WANT SUCH UNKNOWN FRIENDS.I REALLY FELT SORRY FOR UR FRIEND VIBHA WHO HAD UNDERGONE THRU SUCH BAD THING.MAY GOD GIVE HER STENGTH n PLZ GOD DONT MAKE HER TO DO STUPID THINGS LIKE SHE SAID ENDING LIFE.(LIFE IS SO PRECIOUS)

OMG a serious matter indeed...just hope ur friend is safe sisu...And the worst part is nowadays we can't even believe a girl's profile..there are many fake ids (both boys n girls)...the only thing that could be done is to stay cautious

No you are not wrong in sharing this. There are many innocent girls out there and if you were able to get through to even 1 of them, their innocence could be saved.

I wish you would've told your friend that everybody in life gets deceived at least once. Nobody gets by without having been deceived or lied to in their entire lives. This time it was her. You should've also told her that it is alright and he is being rude with her on the net which is not acceptable but at least that is all that he can do. She is safe and he can't come and reach her in person. She should deactivate her fb account permanently, if she is badly addicted to fb than make another account under a different name and to NEVER let strangers into her personal life like this.

Plus you should've told her that this was GOD's way of teaching her one of the morals in life and she should accept it as a blessing that whatever happened, happened over the internet and she didn't actually go and meet with this person. People make mistakes and she did too but it didn't make her a bad person, just taught her right from wrong. Also, if she thinks she has let her parents down then she should try to be a more dutiful daughter from now on. That will be the best way for atoning for her mistake.

Plus one more thing, boys usually misinterpret the caring nature of girls as something else. They might end up thinking that the girl is into them so always maintain an arm's length distance with men specially with unknown men to avoid giving a false impression.

Keep trying to reach your friend. I hope she does not make any hasty decisions. Be strong Vibha, you friends are with you.😊

OMG is he some physco lover to me he is a big looser at the very first place he has not right to use abusive language it is a social networking site he might be jailed for this and secondly i can understand at time we do add some friends unaware of the consiquences the best thing for her is not to hang herself but make sure the boy is hanged cyber law she must inform this to the police there is no harm on networking site but looser like him should be behind the bars fro missusing it

Vibha glad u made this post everyone needs to be aware of it