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Caution: Friends, I am not talking me being obsessed with this show. You can say that I am opposite of "obsessed" with this show. Also, my observations are based on the written updates as I have not watched many of past episodes as they have removed one character and made another one so one-dimensional. So I may have missed many nuances here as I did not view the show.
Here I am talking about obsession of creatives to write most screwed up and obsessive lead characters that I have ever seen. That is saying a lot because every TV show has either one of screwed up characters in the beginning or they become one over time. Here everyone is screwed up from the first episode onwards. Gaurav is the exception even though they tried to do the same to him too. Now they are bringing in new characters who are even more messed up and hypocrites than remaining characters. They are Sarita's parents and Rohan and his parents. So there is only one theme of these creatives - only have messed up or selfish characters and have their Meera anthem.
So lets start with Divya, Sarita and Raj. Please note that here I am only talking about characters and not actors because I like all three actors - Rubina, Shristy and Karan. Also, this is how I have interpreted three characters based on what has been shown so far.
Divya so far has been the least screwed up and obsessive characters among three. Her sacrifice for her family and struggling to make a career in a new city with no resources makes her connected to viewers. But her character remains unexplained as to why she never contacted Raj even once in 10 years. Surely she could have done that once she became successful. But other than this, everything about her actions can be explained.
Raj is the most screwed up and messed up character until today (will come back to this point later) His drastic change in behavior 10 years ago and now after Divya came back remains unexplained. But there are several participants in this forum who actually analyzed him much better than creatives in explaining his behavior by relating it to his upbringing in an abusive (verbally, physically and emotionally) environment. He can be partially explained but needs a backstory which does not seem to be coming now.
Finally, that brings me to Sarita on whom creatives have focused the most. After reading Harianjan's update, I realized that Sarita is now officially the most screwed up character in this show (ignoring Raj's family).
So we haven't seen any backstory of Raj and Divya, but today they brought in Sarita's parents. So now it is clear that it was Sarita who insisted on marrying Raj despite her parents' reservations. The parents had no idea about her treatment because she told them lies. It seems that parents are extremely supportive and would have supported her 10 years ago by breaking up the marriage or even doing her PV in last 10 years. But she was the one who wanted to marry Raj. Why is that? She never met Raj prior to her marriage as the marriage was fixed without Raj's knowledge. First of all, what kind of rich influential parents marry their daughter to somebody without even meeting that person. Secondly, why did she fall for Raj when she only saw his photo? That is one serious obsession about somebody. If parents were willing to break up the marriage, why did she not tell them about overhearing the truth?
Before this I was giving benefit of doubt that she is conditioned to love a husband and hence tolerated all this abuse. There are numerous girls who tolerate abuse because they have no option as either parents are not supportive and/or they do not have resources/mental strength to break free. Here there is nothing of this kind. Her parents are most supportive and she feels her family is superior to Raj's family in class, culture and wealth. She stands up against her MIL and others, but tolerates everything because she wants to be near Raj. So it is not lack of support that made her stay in this marriage. It was always Raj and it is still Raj for her. Raj shows her small concern after 10 years and she is grateful that he did not treat her like a servant. What a bunch of crap. He never said a word when she was made to do all jobs meant for a servant.
Her parents wants to do her PV, but she only wants Raj to do it. Is it because she wants Raj to feel even more guilty? I could have understand her wanting Raj to do it because parents were not supportive. But here it is not the case. Who thinks more highly of a husband, who has emotionally abused her, over loving caring parents? In fact, she is willing to marry anybody to please Raj. These creatives are sending a really bad message to the society that one should tolerate all kinds of abuse (verbal, emotional etc.) if they want to win one's love. When there are so many crimes against women, this is highly irresponsible.
Finally, there are Dadi and Shiela. I did end up watching yesterday's episode on and off. Dadi was actually ecstatic that Rohan liked Shiela because to her it was a payback for Sohan lal - her son. In fact, the way she was abusing him, it seemed that she had no concern for Shiela either - the granddaughter she likes. There was no concern for Sarita who was once again rejected. With supporters like Dadi, Sarita and Shiela do not really need any additional enemies. Also why was Sohan Lal so angry? They can always say no to somebody whom they don't like for their daughter. Probably his real anger was missing the opportunity to get rid of Sarita.
Then there is Shiela - the so called supporter of her bhabhi Sarita. She has no qualms liking the guy who rejected Sarita and that too by saying all the things about not marrying somebody who has been previously married. His argument was that being a man, he could marry an unmarried person but a married person like Sarita (who on top of everything is a virgin) cannot be married even to previously married guy. And Shiela/Raj/Sarita likes this guy. Which girl would like to marry a person like this? So maybe Sarita wants Sheila to get married soon so that her irritating speeches can be over.
In the end, the only character who is now interesting me (in absence of Divya and Gaurav) is Kamla. Despite being abusive, she remains multi-layered. I felt sympathy for her yesterday when she was trying to control her tears at the end because her plans to make Sohan Lal happy with her failed once again. She abuses Sarita, but she also abuses her daughters as Sohan doesn't value females. I don't know if her value system is from her birth family, but her behavior is definitely derived from this family. She has learnt abuse from Dadi and Sohan Lal who takes pleasure in tormenting her. The way she was shown before and teh way she is shown now makes her look desperate. Please note that I am not excusing her for her behavior to either her daughters or Sarita. But there is at least a background to explain her. Also, I was feeling sorry for her the way her daughters abandon her or speak against her at the drop of a hat. She really has nobody in her corner (Raj or her daughters). No wonder she tries these shennanigans to gain some respect.
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