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.Ami.

@.Ami.

Sparkler

Posted: 12 years ago

#11

I agree with you RamaDi. I don't think so it's good to make fun of people who're from different religions/castes just because they're unaware about it.. In real i cant even stand at such a place. Either I end up burst out or leave the place..

So I'm simply gonna skip this episode as I don't wanna spoil my mood.. I love my sanity utmost.

I like your style to create thread with one 'word' bole toh in rama's signature estlye. 😆

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UMDU

@UMDU

Dazzler

Posted: 12 years ago

#12

Rama, nice thread. Rama, what the CVs are trying to do is to add a touch of realism to the episode. To show everybody has accepted the marriage including the larger community will be totally unrealistic. Through Daisa and Meena they are trying to show how different Emily's customs are from theirs and how the society puts up a lot of resistance to such marriages. This has to shown. Even in our weddings you will have one or two relatives like that who whine and complain that the girl's side didn't do this that etc. It is a normal thing in most Tamilian Weddings even if it is an arranged marriage. Unless villains are shown a hero will never be recognised. In the same way they brought out the stark contrast of people who are accepting of the relationship like Sandhya, Bhabasa and Suraj and those who treat it with contempt.As a viewer when you watch such things automatically our sympathies go for Emily's family and that is what they want. To reinforce the idea of resistance to change being forceful and how you must not give up your fight to change. I did not find it obnoxious, I found it realistic.

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VISH

@Vish1435

Voyager

+ 3

Posted: 12 years ago

#13

It was not unrealistic to show the differences in rituals etc. If only Emily's family had consulted and got help from any Marwari family today's scene could have been avoided.Like in Fiji we also have intercaste marriages... South Indian marrying a North Indian or vice versa...and the rituals are carried according to the boy's rituals and culture then each family seek the help of the people from the boy's side if they have any in their village. Sometimes elderly ladies from the boy's side go to the girl's house a day before to get the mandap and other things organised and they leave very early to oversee the welcoming of the groom by the bride's family.If its a SI girl marrying into a NI family then the groom's family bring the " lawa" which is used for sacrifice as SI do not do the lawa for the wedding ..they do it during the death ceremony.

But in South Indian weddings in Fiji this is not so as the Telugus, Tamils and the Malayalams follow similar rituals except for the different " thalis" they tie and the Tamils tying the 'patam' . Tying of the patam is decided before the marriage as it comes from the Tamil groom's side. In case the boy is a Telugu and the girl is a Tamil the decision is left entirely on the boy's side ... whether they want to tie or not.

If its a Christian wedding of SI they still tie the 'thali' with a cross engraved onto it... identifying themselves as SI Christians.

An if the boy is a Hindu and girl a Christian... they first get married in Christian way and later the girl goes through all the Hindu rituals to be marrie according to the Hindu rites and rituals.

This is what I know about the rituals followed in Fiji by the Hindus . There is very little fuss... but yes the boys' side always have an upper hand... as usual. And above all I have not seen anyone taking dowries in Fiji though the NI girls' parents send a lot of stuff with their girls ensuring good treatment at the in laws... in rare cases they do ask for it. But SI do not take any dowries neither the parents send any with them.

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Fatima

@Fatima_Q

Sparkler

+ 4

Posted: 12 years ago

#14

Excellent post.

I too felt so bad for Emily's family while watching today's episode.

I was looking forward to a wedding with an interesting integration of the 2 different cultures/religions...but instead saw something else.

I don't know why Emily's family was expected to perform Hindu rituals in the first place...and then be made fun of because they didn't know or understand them. Duh! They're not Hindu they're not supposed to necessarily understand them.

They should have just have had a Hindu wedding ceremony with pheras...followed by a church wedding. 😕

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Mrs_Ojha

@Mrs_Ojha

Explorer

Posted: 12 years ago

#15

Well I will never understand why Bhabo did not kick out Mohit out of RM in the first place...

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leo4ever

@leo4ever

Rocker

Posted: 12 years ago

#16

what i mind it is ALWAYS the girls side that has to bear the humiliation! mohit goes scott free, i wish insteado f blaming sandy bhabo should have told mohit that i am dissapointed by you and you have to make up to emily even if am against it, u have wronged her trust and i dnt raise you

but the entire thing is off, na surah na vikram na bhao nor bhanbsan say anytihng to mohit,no lecture no expectations, seems tat sandy is forcibly gettnig him married and destroying his life

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