Define Desi - Page 3

hmm... a new direction to topic... 😕 .. I bet ... it resembles the content of DC lll topic!!!

First of all... tell me whether or not heritage goes under the process of evolution? Even languages, dances, attributes, etc CHANGE according to time. I repeat: The roots remain intact... but changes are a part of living and we should accept them as Culture is a way of living. Our lives don't remine the same. So does society, its people and their lifestyle!

and i talked abt perceptions and concepts. since when language and dance classes became perceptions 😕 ?? I am trying to talk in a wider perspective... e.g. Wht was the concept abt a working woman of south asia 20 yrs ago? if parents from that era move to some other country... they might..YES STILL...carry the "TAboo" of a working woman in their minds! [although many would have given a 2nd thought abt this issue in all these 20 yrs... but there are a lot of exceptions..and i know im giving a far-fetched example 😛 but its real!] Don't they teach/impose/brain wash their daughters/sons with the same concept? U can imagine wht happens when Parents and Children in this particular example disagree.

Originally posted by: MNMS

hmm... a new direction to topic... 😕 .. I bet ... it resembles the content of DC lll topic!!!

First of all... tell me whether or not heritage goes under the process of evolution? Even languages, dances, attributes, etc CHANGE according to time. I repeat: The roots remain intact... but changes are a part of living and we should accept them as Culture is a way of living. Our lives don't remine the same. So does society, its people and their lifestyle!

and i talked abt perceptions and concepts. since when language and dance classes became perceptions 😕 ?? You talked about traditions too and language, dances, plays are definitely part of our tradition. Check your thread. I am trying to talk in a wider perspective... e.g. Wht was the concept abt a working woman of south asia 20 yrs ago? if parents from that era move to some other country... they might..YES STILL...carry the "TAboo" of a working woman in their minds! I don't know. You are talking about a very limited set of people. I believe people who have moved here have gotten somewhat influenced by the lifestyle of the local culture and are therefore lot more broadminded. Honestly I haven't seen one example in my friend circle (parents of my friends) of a parent who has that mindset and who fit the shoe that you describe (meaning not wanting women to work). Obviously there are few that you are referring to and you know of but they are very few and far between. [although many would have given a 2nd thought abt this issue in all these 20 yrs... but there are a lot of exceptions..and i know im giving a far-fetched example 😛 but its real!] Don't they teach/impose/brain wash their daughters/sons with the same concept? Other than language/dance/plays as I mentioned earlier, my answer is NO and I will be the first one to champion that cause if you call it brain-washing since I believe in maintaining our culture. If you are talking about late night forays as an example then the answer is... I agree with you. But that is preached by the Amercians also. My American boss tells me how he has brought up his girls and how he/his wife worry about them when they stay out of the hjome after 9:00 PM in night. U can imagine wht happens when Parents and Children in this particular example disagree. Simple.. Danga Phasaad... but that does not mean that the parents are utmost wrong. 😉

BTW, I hope I am not wearing you down. If I am.. let me know and I will not continue any further. My intention is to have a healthy debate not a verbal duo and wearing down the opponent. 😊

Sorry... couldn't reply promptly as i was busy with my family😊

Originally posted by: MNMS

and i talked abt perceptions and concepts. since when language and dance classes became perceptions 😕 ??[/quote]

I have checked my thread and yes... I talked abt traditions.😊

Traditions: the handing down of statements, beliefs, legends, customs, information, etc., from generation to generation, esp. by word of mouth or by practice [ Source: dictionary.com]

According to this defination (Esp the words highlighted), traditions are bound to change as the method is very flexible. Each generation brings up a new dimention to every problem/issue. Why we say time changes? It is the attitude, perception and problem solving techniques of every generation that changes the atmosphere. This is the reason some things aren't relevent today, but they were inevitable customs of previous eras!!

In short, Traditions are closely linked and affected by perceptions and concepts of the new society. This is called evolution or "Social progress" which makes the society better in the general view of its members [Concept by Anthropologist Lewis H. Morgan]

and ... well... U gave the example {ur interpretation of my statement} of language and dance classes...Culture and traditions can't be only confined to just languages and dances.... its more about values... but how parents incorporate and compromise on them and to which extent, Still the question remains.......

And my initial statement is quite flexible. it can be interpreted in different ways .... So as u like😛😆

I know... I gave this example and also clarified the Purpose (bolded text)of giving such a limited example to tell you the exact point i am arguing about😊

I retraite my point, Some things which were in practise 20 years ago MAY NOT BE relevant today. But still, some people carry the "Taboos" (i will call them taboo..😛) I despise such attitude as it doesn't allow the room for the next society for their inputs. I think flexibility from parents is extremely necessary so that it creates an understanding b/w the 2 generations! 😊

Culture: it is the way of life of a particular society at a particular time and place [Dictionary.com]

So... do you still believe that we are not maintaining our culture😉😛

Ahem ahem....... I NEVER used the late night things in any of my post😛... what, where and when????😆

Moreover.. society perceptions and culture {YES ... culture} can't be determined by just one example (with due respect...your boss😊)... We will consider them but the "whole trend of society" i.e. wht majority people do😊

😲 ... WHO said that???!!!!😕 Parents UTMOST wrong!!! I never said that they are utmost wrong!! It is the distance b/w the 2 generation. but that never proves that ANY side is UTMOST wrong.

Anyways ... i still have my point... Parents need to clearly know how to balance all the things; from Globalization and Modernisation effects which has affected our motherland too, and the morality and cultural values. An imbalance not only effects one family, but one generation!

NO NO NO NO 😃 ....DM is all about debates, agreements and disagreements... All of that happens in healthy atmosphere... Do disagree, i take it very lightly and positively😊