Rights, Wrongs, In-Betweens - Page 6: Apr 05 - Page 5

Originally posted by: shwetha297

@Blue: Heema, I completely agree with you. Parents support is most important for the child's healthy growth. I wanted to share my personal experience which is similar to Indu. Since my parents changed my school when I was in 8th std, I was not able to adjust to new school and new friends and all students used to rag me & was making mockery of me. This is fact affected my studies and the result is, I used to score less marks in all the subjects and teachers wanted to meet my parents. I used to hide my marks with them & I was signing in my parents name in the marks card and also getting regular punishments from the teacher as to not bringing my parents to school. Finally, there was no other option for me other than bringing my mom since I could not take others as my parents to school just as Indu took sajini. But I expected that I would get nice scolding's on that day. But the situation was entirely different, my mom did not tell anything to me. Neither she spoke nor slapped, nothing. This made me even more worried. She was very silent & she cried & explained me as to what all expectations they had on me. Her one word has changed my entire life & that was the last day of my school life as a "bad student". Now, even If I tell this to my new friends, they don't even believe it. So handling situation is most important.

I think Indu had a good mother i.e., shweta and she brought up well. I don' think Indu had a parenting problem. The child shd fear for alteast one parent otherwise child will go out of control. But Indu does not fear for any one. I don't blame Rishi for this, since he was also teaching her the good manners when she spoke arrogantly with others. In old generation, parents used to beat the children to teach them good manners and the children used to forget it all after few seconds. But this generation children are very sensitive and does not like parents scolding them in before of others and slapping them. They take it very seriously. So parents needs to handle them very sensitively other than making them physical force.

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Shweths. thnaks for sharing your story. I take a bow to your mother. Main problem with parenting is there is no school for it. No one checks on you and gives to marks which society tends to response . My parents never punished us. Never use physical or verbal abuse only their action and behavior was enough of us. they died at very young age living behind 4 children . I was oldest one. I became instant mother of 3 and I needed parents too.. Youngest one 10 y/o . I learned very fast .and successfully raised them. Educated them . I give credit to my parent because I had role model .

Many couple get married when they are not ready . With in 9 month they become parents when they donot know definition of parenting. Many people think that motherhood is God given gift and its nature instinct , yes loving and kissing and pampering your children is nature but raising them is totally different thing . You needs to be very mature and you must know that your child is totally different human with his or hers is own needs and has thinking ability but Lots of own projection and own psychological issues come in play while raising the child. Very sad indeed. Parent who need parents are raising kids

Indu is not alone .many of us are her. Parent with extreme approaches and no middle ground . No one talks to the child and knows about her feelings.thats why I think your mother was great , perfect patenting . and I am glad you have that role model to follow. I know professionally you are successful . Your moms one action did it . Many times one instance changes our whole life .

The reason this thread went wild because many of us have some thing to share. Many of us have parent like a india and Rishi or worst or better . Every one is pouring in emotions . Many looking for comfort !! Because they want to be better parents. We needs school and certificate for parenting .in US they have guidance clinics because we have huge number of unwed single underage Childern having children . Very sad indeed.. This thread can go on and on because of nessasity of the subject!!

I am in hurry no time to check for mistake! See you soon.

Originally posted by: AllThingsNice

April 05:

I think the title of this post should be altered to "Rights, Wrongs, In-Betweens and a Seven/Eight Year Itch" 😆

Quite a bit happened in the epi today and I am not sure how much of it falls in the obscure grey patch. For me, most of it was wrong, but maybe that's just me. Would like to know what you people think.

Today's episode enacted the weaknesses of each parent in some more detail. Indu is nursing a wound and when she sees Indira, tells her that she is hurt. Indira, who has sensed (maybe through Seher) that her daughter has had a scuffle, first takes her to task about her behaviour. For good measure, she also pulls her ear. This is the first rush of anger that needs to be controlled.

Then, Rishi enters and Indu clings to him for love and support. Rishi takes a high moral ground and has a few things to say to Indira about the way she dealt with Indu. Among other things, he gives her a earful about how she has not been around to teach Indu anything. The only part I agree with is when he tells her that she should get to know Indu first. Indira does try talking to Indu, but Rishi keeps pulling Indu back to himself.

Why can't these two confine their fights to the four walls of their bedroom? By fighting in front of kids, they are sullying their image of themselves. Kids cannot respect parents who do not respect each other.

From this fight, they progress to another one. Rishi has replaced his usual laidback demeanour with the Angry Young Man one. He is a man on the mission of making money. He hands Indira the money and makes it clear to her that he can earn money through honest means and take care of all his duties. Indira is happy and they do make a feeble attempt to patch up. And almost immediately, they lose it again. Rishi wants Indu back in Class 3 and Indira wants Indu to learn her basics. Rishi suggests giving a donation to the school and getting Indu back where she belongs and Indira is against it. Here, somehow, I really felt that Rishi was deliberately dumbed down. I cannot believe that he is so dense that he cannot take a holistic view of the situation.

Anyway, these two are suffering from the seven year itch even though they have not been together for eight out of those seven years 😃. They are not talking to each other. They are not listening to each other.

Originally posted by: Ranjinikishan

@bold: 😆 but still they understand each other😉

Yes, they do 😊 I am surprised I did not add that line. I meant to.

But actually from Monday, there will be a period of misunderstanding. After which there will be understanding.

Originally posted by: Heema22

Originally posted by: -dear10-

right wrong se mere mind main bas ek cheez aa rahi hai hd ko lekar

actors right story wrong creative writers wrong jo itna sara talent apni bekar ki writing se bekaar kar rahe hai. log kehte hai show story se chalta hai but i m dam sure about it ki hd apne actors ki acting ke dam par chalta hai kyonki agar yahi serial average actors karte to ye 3 month main off air ho jata.

Satyavachan! Monaji, agree 100% 👍🏼