Mohan Bhatnagar: A case of low self-esteem?

Does Mohan suffer from low self-esteem?

Kunal mentioned in a recent interview that all Mohan really craves for is ACCEPTANCE...

Professionally, Mohan always had that...He was the King of his domain at Prabhat Leher...the star reporter who band bajaaoed anyone who dared cross him...who had the clout to get anything he wanted to get done

He was a complete cynic about relationships...carried and still carries the baggage of his troubled relationship with his father...He craved acceptance from his father then, I do believe...but the beauty of season 1 ofcourse was that it was shown subtly...it was implied rather than told specifically.

He was showered with love from everyone else...from his mother to Guru to the ppl at work...Rashmi being the only other hiccup...

Nanhi loved him unconditionally...after Guru, she was probably the only other person who did...and that elusive acceptance he got with Nanhi as well.

Which brings us to Megha...what acceptance is he exactly craving from Megha? Acceptance for his human fallacies? For the mistakes he's made? Is it love that makes him crave this acceptance or low self-esteem? Or do the two go hand in hand together anyways? Isn't it said that love weakens some? It most definitely seems to be the case with Mohan...His falling in love with Megha has led to his self-esteem taking a serious beating...


Kunal's acting pulls everyone in and feel for Mohan...his unconditional love for Megha...but I wonder where it all stems from...is it low self-esteem that makes some ppl bend so much even when they get NOTHING from the other end? What is it about Megha that makes Mohan reduce himself to a shell for her everytime? What is this strange kind of acceptance he craves? He seems to understand her even when she never understands her own self...so what ACCEPTANCE is he looking for? UNCONDITIONAL acceptance? I doubt he will ever get that...Acceptance for what he is?

Why does Mohan Bhatnagar go looking for acceptance from people who are probably incapable of giving it to him?

What he is as a character seems enough for many, but not for the crucial one woman for whom he's willing to go to any lengths...the woman who time and again rejects him if he doesn't do the things she expects of him...

All the characters are flawed in their own way and the beauty of a good story is how those flaws bring them together or make them understand each other...when there is an UNDERSTANDING b/w the two characters beyond their flaws...but in the case of these two, it seems to have boiled down to a simple masochistic relationship...about a man with a strange case of low self-esteem only when it comes to one woman who has the power to make him feel like a worm with just one look...

Oh soo very nicely put. I too have wondered how can u keep on loving someone so unconditionally ven the other person doest trust or respect you. I didnt use the word love cause only if you have those 2 can you love.

Originally posted by: rajbijz

Oh soo very nicely put. I too have wondered how can u keep on loving someone so unconditionally ven the other person doest trust or respect you. I didnt use the word love cause only if you have those 2 can you love.

Hey thanks :-)

@bold: Exactly...TRUST and RESPECT...two things Megha has never given Mohan...the rosy glow of romance aside...these two things are the REAL test of love...I've also never understood how there can be love if there is no trust and respect...respect especially...Megha is a dominating personality and Mohan has basically bowed before that time and again even when he himself is a strong personality.

I understand Megha's anguish as a mother who has lost her son...but the problem is that even before the Addu fiasco, Megha's "love" for Mohan was never well established in the show...none of that trust or respect or understanding...so it is even harder to buy now with 12 years of misunderstandings added to it.

If anyone can give me even a SINGLE example of a moment where Megha has given Mohan unconditional acceptance, I would be willing to take my words back...but there is none...while the show keeps on adding to the list of countless examples like such from Mohan.

I think mohan does have low self-esteem. He has always craved for acceptance from everyone in his life. His parents, his Ex-GF, to megha. Also i clearly remember the scene after Riddhima comes to see and they don't give acceptance immly. Then he said "kisine haan kiya hai". He never got unconditional acceptance from anyone.

Nanhi asked what he did to prove that he was not sautela. why didn't he make her realise? He said nothing. He could have also said why you ppl didn't trust, i did say and go etc. Atleast for argument sake one might have said this. But not mohan.

I feel he doesn't even expect unconditional acceptance since he seems ready to prove himself every time. Not ever asking once, even in anger or frustration that why can't they just trust him? I hope he does in future. Kuch different to dekhne ko milega.

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Originally posted by: Sunna_Deewani

I think mohan does have low self-esteem. He has always craved for acceptance from everyone in his life. His parents, his Ex-GF, to megha. Also i clearly remember the scene after Riddhima comes to see and they don't give acceptance immly. Then he said "kisine haan kiya hai". He never got unconditional acceptance from anyone.

Nanhi asked what he did to prove that he was not sautela. why didn't he make her realise? He said nothing. He could have also said why you ppl didn't trust, i did say and go etc. Atleast for argument sake one might have said this. But not mohan.

I feel he doesn't even expect unconditional acceptance since he seems ready to prove himself every time. Not ever asking once, even in anger or frustration that why can't they just trust him? I hope he does in future. Kuch different to dekhne ko milega.

ahh one of my fav. scenes of Mohan's from season 1...thanks for reminding me :-)

Yes, I think he does suffer from low self-esteem...but I wonder why...the few snippets they gave of his childhood show that he was a REBELLIOUS child...it was later in life...with ppl like Rashmi etc. that he suffered more of a blow to his self-esteem...I don't see what reason he could have had for a low self-esteem before that.

And it doesn't go with his basic personality...the original brusque Mohan didn't give a damn what anyone thought of him...ppl with low self-esteem try to change themselves accordingly to "fit in"...to be "liked"...I didn't see Mohan doing any of that originally...His original fundas were all about be yourself and baaki duniya jaaye bhaad mein...he said as much to Nanhi and even to Karan when he was giving him "love gyaan".

So was all of that just a defense mechanism? To hide a core of EXTREMELY low self-esteem? I doubt that...I think his low self-esteem issues only got triggered by Megha...

The way he fell in love with her...He always had to be the one putting himself out there...and I guess it became such a habit there.


In today's epi, the scene where he tells Navika that some wounds need time to heal...there is no point trying to heal them yourself or prying at them...this dialogue made me wonder...as did the bit where Megha is holding on to Mohan's dupatta in her unconscious state so after briefly trying to take it out of her hand, he just takes it off and gives it to her...that brief moment was Mohan's character in a nutshell when it comes to Megha.

I don't think he's laid himself out there for anyone else this much...either it's a story device for convenient plot movement or I'm just not able to see what they are trying to show with Mohan.

I guess he does have a low self esteem of sorts. or maybe his father didn't support him. There was a longing in him, whenever he used to talk to FIL Ved Vyasji about Amar. How he talks proudly about amar. Mohan never got that. maybe it stems from there.

Or it could be a story device as the Cvs didn't dare to show a widow accepting a new man in her life easily without his extreme persuasions😕.

Originally posted by: --MI--

well

i would not call it low self esteem

i guess being in love is hopeless and it makes you do hopeless things and i guess mohan thing for megha is just that cant be seen by ppl from outside he is just a gone case

and i guess the next confrontation over meera from megha would suck the life out of bhatnagar finally

anyway i dont agree with you always but good to have someone from season 1 good old days anyways

btw i used to comment on your thread only last season when i first came here and we had many arguements

btw i am mumbaiindian911 in new avtar

cheers

@bold: I doubt it...He's like the Energizer Bunny...no amount of insults from Megha and the Vyases can bring him down...humara hero

Oh you're mumbaiiindian? LOL I see...Hello again😊

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Does Mohan suffer from low self-esteem?

Kunal mentioned in a recent interview that all Mohan really craves for is ACCEPTANCE...

Professionally, Mohan always had that...He was the King of his domain at Prabhat Leher...the star reporter who band bajaaoed anyone who dared cross him...who had the clout to get anything he wanted to get done

He was a complete cynic about relationships...carried and still carries the baggage of his troubled relationship with his father...He craved acceptance from his father then, I do believe...but the beauty of season 1 ofcourse was that it was shown subtly...it was implied rather than told specifically.

He was showered with love from everyone else...from his mother to Guru to the ppl at work...Rashmi being the only other hiccup...

Nanhi loved him unconditionally...after Guru, she was probably the only other person who did...and that elusive acceptance he got with Nanhi as well.

Which brings us to Megha...what acceptance is he exactly craving from Megha? Acceptance for his human fallacies? For the mistakes he's made? Is it love that makes him crave this acceptance or low self-esteem? Or do the two go hand in hand together anyways? Isn't it said that love weakens some? It most definitely seems to be the case with Mohan...His falling in love with Megha has led to his self-esteem taking a serious beating...


Kunal's acting pulls everyone in and feel for Mohan...his unconditional love for Megha...but I wonder where it all stems from...is it low self-esteem that makes some ppl bend so much even when they get NOTHING from the other end? What is it about Megha that makes Mohan reduce himself to a shell for her everytime? What is this strange kind of acceptance he craves? He seems to understand her even when she never understands her own self...so what ACCEPTANCE is he looking for? UNCONDITIONAL acceptance? I doubt he will ever get that...Acceptance for what he is?

Why does Mohan Bhatnagar go looking for acceptance from people who are probably incapable of giving it to him?

What he is as a character seems enough for many, but not for the crucial one woman for whom he's willing to go to any lengths...the woman who time and again rejects him if he doesn't do the things she expects of him...

All the characters are flawed in their own way and the beauty of a good story is how those flaws bring them together or make them understand each other...when there is an UNDERSTANDING b/w the two characters beyond their flaws...but in the case of these two, it seems to have boiled down to a simple masochistic relationship...about a man with a strange case of low self-esteem only when it comes to one woman who has the power to make him feel like a worm with just one look...

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