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Originally posted by: shahnaz12

.......I was wondering how come no response to my lecture .... for a moment I thought you don't love me anymore and you are ignoring me .

me ignoring you😭....kya koi bhi samay fan shanaz ko ignore kar sakta hai .😉 tauba tauba 😉😆..we all love u ❤️ 🤗

btw shahnaz ..most of the members call u shanno...but can i call u shani?

Originally posted by: jojo_100

me ignoring you😭....kya koi bhi samay fan shanaz ko ignore kar sakta hai .😉 tauba tauba 😉😆..we all love u ❤️ 🤗

btw shahnaz ..most of the members call u shanno...but can i call u shani?

Yes Jojo .... my sweetest friend you may call me shani😛.... I would love it...😛

Originally posted by: shahnaz12

.......you may call me shani😛.... I would love it...😛

thankyou 😛...u see the name shanno always reminds me of ''Shanno Ki Shadi '' wali shanno ,i mean divya dutta 🤢...whereas shani is kind of sweet and sophisticated 😃.. .and it suits u perfectly 😃..shining shani 😛.shining shahnaz 😛

Originally posted by: shahnaz12

Hellooooooooooooooo Jojo..... which century are you belong to sweetheart?...............10 yrs. gap? So she will look young.... for a long time beside her husband?

Originally posted by: jojo_100

Hi shahnaz dear!..i do not know about the century ,but i think i belong to the cinderella and snow-white era ... u see i am not a mills & boon fan , but u can call me a devoted disciple of barbara cartland...i love her oooold fashioned heroines who are always much younger than the hero ..and i would advise my fellow famales to check out the d.o.b. of their prince charming before falling for him .)

Aree Jojo you are claiming to be a devotee of the pretty ancient cinderella and snow-white era😆 … OK…. If I am not mistaken this lady Barbara Cartland😕 used to write love stories between 16 yr. olds and their dad's younger friends like 35 yrs. olds😆. Also was not she the step grand mother of late Princess Diana😕? That poor Diana probably got inspired by her stories and married prince Charles who was 14 yrs. older than her when she was only perhaps 21😭? We all know the outcome of that fairy tale love story…. He was belong to only Camilla Parker Bowles during their marriage… and still is.😉 So … now you see what happens to those who follows her story line😆….

Originally posted by: shahnaz12

What about feeling young haan?

Originally posted by: jojo_100

.(feeling young is just a hollow talk..a 60+ can never feel like a 30+....and a 30+ can never feel like a 15+,)

I never said feeling young means you have to feel like someone who is half of your age dear😛. What I meant by feeling young is feeling your ever possible best at the time of your age you are in😉…. it could be better than how you felt when you were half of the age you are in right now😃. So it's not hollow talk after all. BTW why would you like to feel you are 15 when your spouse is 50😆?

Originally posted by: shahnaz12

How will she feel young with a guy who is 10 yrs. older than her? What about her haan?

Originally posted by: jojo_100

( how will she feel? ..hmm ..for this we have to ask some women whose husbands are more than 10 yrs older than them ... like Katherine Zeta Jones, Katie Holmes,Angelina Jolie..and i am sure they are not unhappy )

Do you think these are real people my dear? They are in show biz. …. They will pull whatever stunts are there on earth to get into limelight. These ladies did not marry the oldies … they married the old legends🤢. Legendary Liz Taylor😆 belongs to this group as well…. She is with her 11th husband perhaps …. Not sure.

Originally posted by: shahnaz12

Also statistically he will die sooner than her .... so she will have to stay alive as a miserable lonely widow for on an average 20 years or more..... what a life yaar..

Originally posted by: jojo_100

(nahiin yaar !coz she will be young , she will find some other bakra ..and she will no longer be a lonely widow )

Ahhaaaaaaaaaaaaa😭….. now I understand you are talking about marriage as a profession😭 not a love union😭….. I thought we are discussing marriages as committed relationship.... an union😕.

Originally posted by: shahnaz12

A woman should only marry for love, desire, companionship and respect.... the age should not be the deciding factor

Originally posted by: jojo_100

( age SHOULD be the DECIDING factor if a woman wants love,desire,companionship and respect of her husband ...if she is not young then after some time, her husband will start looking for other greener pastures

If an women wants love, fulfillment of her desire, companionship and respect of her husband she needs her soul mate😳 ….not an oldie🤢 (could be an oldie … if she only prefers older guys…for whatever reason...or ... may be she is frigid... fearful of you know what. 😕).

Her husband will definitely look at for greener pasture if that's the only thing she was offering him when she was young😕…he fell for that before … so he will look for that again elsewhere🤢 … he is hard wired for that🤢.

When he can get the physical pleasure from elsewhere … so cheap … why marry and commit at all? As in this case there is an age old profession still exists. Before women were the only professionals in that career 😕…. Now men are available too😆 ….. probably in that Cinderella era…. Only men had all the freedom to choose and taste …. In the present era…. You (man or woman) can get any type of service …. if you are willing to pay the right price for it…. much cheaper than marriage.

So my take on this is …. instead of being this hopeless and cynical about it … if women wants they should go ahead and do all the things only the guys were allowed to do for the longest time in history😛 , kind of eye for an eye😉? But that will never get women what they want from a marriage …. Only unfaithful husbands were losers before now the wives will join them .... that's all😕.

Originally posted by: jojo_100

remember Bill Clinton ..why bechara Bill went after monica? ..ever thougth about that? ..let me enlighten you .. coz of old hilary )

How can I forget Bill Clinton🤢? Do you honestly feel Hilary gives a damn about what Bill does with other women😕? He just got caught with Monica that's all.... he was always a womanizer and will stay a womanizer... we all know that. What makes you think that this lady is thinking about her age 24/7😕? She can get men half of Bill's age😉 and handsome hunks😳 any time ….. much better performer👏 than this oldie Bill. Do you really want me to believe if Hilary was 10 years younger … it would not have happened😕?… you must be kidding me. Anyway these two are made for each other too😡. Marriage of convenience comes in different flavors my dear😉.

What a shame …. The best gift …. the ability to choose the right over wrong given to us humans only😕 … out of all the creations …. by God …. I see it wasted every day in every form😭. … in the name of so many things😡. But I stay remain hopeful😃 ....... as I believe😉 … Love will definitely find a way👏!!!!!!!!

Originally posted by: shahnaz12

And now as far as Gaurav and Saumya is concerned...... who is older than whom does not matter.... they belong to each other.....

Originally posted by: jojo_100

(here i completely agree with you )

Ameen.

I will finish this by telling you guys 2 real stories ….

Once I went to a very old lady's home to celebrate her 90th B'day …. Invited by her dear hubby for almost 70 yrs. They went to school together as it was very common in US to marry high school sweet hearts in those days. She had an accident that morning and sent to the hospital… but she insisted the party should go on as all the family members were already planned to join them for the party. When the 90 yr old hubby showed me his gift to his wife …. the cake … I became speechless…. The cake was decorated with a kind of blurred picture of a very young smiling girl in her curls and very old style frilly dress …. It was his wife photograph when she was young… that's how he thinks she still looks … he told me ….the prettiest girl he has ever seen. I cried that day …

This one I read in a journal …. I old gentleman came to the doctor's office to change the dressing on his arm as he had an wound. He looked very restless and asked the nurse to hurry saying that he has another very important appointment … he needs to go after it's done. The nurse told him that he should not have kept appointments so close to each other if it's that urgent. The old man said … the other appointment is very very important and this dressing appointment was just came up. The nurse asked him …. Why is he rushing? He said his wife is in a nursing home …. She is sick and lost her memory a long time ago… every day at 9 am he goes to her to have breakfast with her for last 10 yrs. or so. After the dressing is done the nurse casually tells him not to rush …. As his wife will not miss if he is a little late today … as she does not remember anything (him) anyways. On hearing this … the gentleman stopped ….. and .. with a smile said…. "Yeah I know…. But I do remember who she is…. How can I be late for this precious appointment?"

OK guys…. this is the kind of love I wish to have in my life😳. What about you? 😊

Originally posted by: jojo_100

thankyou 😛...u see the name shanno always reminds me of ''Shanno Ki Shadi '' wali shanno ,i mean divya dutta 🤢...whereas shani is kind of sweet and sophisticated 😃.. .and it suits u perfectly 😃..shining shani 😛.shining shahnaz 😛

Thank you Jojo for your kind words😳 .... It is very nice of you😛. I do not know this divya dutta 😕....

I answered your questions on choosing a life partner .... eagerly waiting for your response 😆....

what we usually see is that a man and woman are of the same age group or the woman younger than the man. men usually prefer younger or same age group wives. a woman too is mentally not ready to marry a younger man. practically i have seen many successful cases of the wife being younger by 10-15 years of age and both husband and wife living happily together.in fact after some time both huband and wife begin to look like of the same age.it could be that as teh girls mature earlier than men the age quickly as well.this is the usual case that we see on a daily basis.
yes there are examples men marrying wives younger than them and living happily ever after. but then tehre are examples of young couple or comapatible age groups couple going for divorce. its so comon in the west and is spreading in the subcontinent as well.
so marriage is not just about union of man and a woman or fullfilment of se**ual desires. it is about mutual love, mercy,understanding and respect. couples who follow this principle are bound to have a successful marriage while for others its the other way round:)

[You are great whynot.... indeed a literature major .....

I always get fascinated by all these beautifully expressed feelings in poetry ..... yes you are right good literature does not matter which language it's written in..... tend to touch your heart such a way.... that when you hear or read it again and again you never fail to fall in love with the concept of love again and again.

Being a highly technical person .... I never had the scope for exploring this area.... due to limited exposure ..... I may not be able to fish out the best from the better ones...... but I never fail to enjoy it ever.

Thank you so much for enriching this forum with your wonderful writings.]

Thank you so much Shanaz. I'm seriously very very touched and completely bereft of words. Thanks a lot.
And Jojo in Gujarati 'shani' means clever. Interesting coincidence na?
I'm not going to write on the age thing as i agree with Shanaz here. But i have to say that this forum has really meaningful conversations. 👏 For us, gals!

Originally posted by: shahnaz12

Hellooooooooooooooo Jojo..... which century are you belong to sweetheart?...............10 yrs. gap? So she will look young.... for a long time beside her husband?

Originally posted by: jojo_100

Hi shahnaz dear!..i do not know about the century ,but i think i belong to the cinderella and snow-white era ... u see i am not a mills & boon fan , but u can call me a devoted disciple of barbara cartland...i love her oooold fashioned heroines who are always much younger than the hero ..and i would advise my fellow famales to check out the d.o.b. of their prince charming before falling for him .)

Aree Jojo you are claiming to be a devotee of the pretty ancient cinderella and snow-white era .. Barbara Cartland used to write love stories between 16 yr. olds and their dad's younger friends like 35 yrs. olds. That poor Diana probably got inspired by her stories and married prince Charles who was 14 yrs. older than her when she was only perhaps 21? We all know the outcome of that fairy tale love story…. He was belong to only Camilla Parker Bowles during their marriage… and still is. So … now you see what happens to those who follows her story line…. (Shahnaz plz.don't blame bechari Barbara...Its the House of Weirdos..i mean House of Windsor which is responsible for diana's fate. Every member of the British royal family is suffering from infidelity disorder😆..Infact this disorder is genetic😉 . Even Queen Victoria was not a sati savitri😆..and Charles ke papa ji (Mr Elizebeth😉 😆) is also an old papi 😆..Queen bechari 😭knows about his shinenigans , but cannot stop him from 'idhar udhar aankh ladana se".And Charles ki masi Margaret was like a 50s ki paris hilton😳..haan ji 😆..so u see charles/diana lovestory failed ,not b'coz of age difference but because of the infidelity disorder that charles had inherited😆.

Originally posted by: shahnaz12

What about feeling young haan?

Originally posted by: jojo_100

.(feeling young is just a hollow talk..a 60+ can never feel like a 30+....and a 30+ can never feel like a 15+,)

What I meant by feeling young is feeling your ever possible best at the time of your age you are in…. it could be better than how you felt when you were half of the age you are in right now. (uffff...itni mind bending batein😕..uuper se jojo ka low IQ...what to do? hun...lagta hai tum pe Rumsfield ka asar ho gaya hai 😆😕,coz it reminded me of his famous ''Known Unknown" speech 😆.). BTW why would you like to feel you are 15 when your spouse is 50? (areey yaar😊..i have never ever said ke marry a 50+ ka baba ji 😆).

Originally posted by: shahnaz12

How will she feel young with a guy who is 10 yrs. older than her? What about her haan?

Originally posted by: jojo_100

( how will she feel? ..hmm ..for this we have to ask some women whose husbands are more than 10 yrs older than them ... like Katherine Zeta Jones, Katie Holmes,Angelina Jolie..and i am sure they are not unhappy )

Do you think these are real people my dear? They are in show biz. …. They will pull whatever stunts are there on earth to get into limelight.(true their life styles are not real..but the above mentioned 3 marriages are real😉) These ladies did not marry the oldies … they married the old legends.(oldies😉?..how cruel !😭..hai.hai...how can u say.. that Angelina ka Brado and Katie ka Tomo are oldies😆..ok i have to admit ke Zeta ka Douglo is a certified oldie😆 )

Legendary Liz Taylor belongs to this group as well…. She is with her 11th husband perhaps …. Not sure. (are you sure about the 11th?😕.chalo achcha hai..let her complete a dozen😉 ..coz only then will she die peacefully😆..)

Originally posted by: shahnaz12

Also statistically he will die sooner than her .... so she will have to stay alive as a miserable lonely widow for on an average 20 years or more..... what a life yaar..

Originally posted by: jojo_100

(nahiin yaar !coz she will be young , she will find some other bakra ..and she will no longer be a lonely widow )

now I understand you are talking about marriage as a profession not a love union….. I thought we are discussing marriages as committed relationship.... . (marriage as a profession..tauba tauba..i totally agree with u ke marriage should be for love..but..zara love soch samajh ke karna chahiye 😉.that's it)

Originally posted by: shahnaz12

A woman should only marry for love, desire, companionship and respect.... the age should not be the deciding factor

Originally posted by: jojo_100

( age SHOULD be the DECIDING factor if a woman wants love,desire,companionship and respect of her husband ...if she is not young then after some time, her husband will start looking for other greener pastures

If an women wants love, fulfillment of her desire, companionship and respect of her husband she needs her soul mate ( my dear !this specie called soul mate😭 is now on the verge of extinction😉)….not an oldie (phir oldie😭...shani dear..i've never said ke marry an oldie😭...i have always advised my fellow females,that to be on the safer side marry someone or rather love someone who is a few yrs older than you..simple😃)
if women wants they should go ahead and do all the things only the guys were allowed to do for the longest time in history , kind of eye for an eye? But that will never get women what they want from a marriage …. Only unfaithful husbands were losers before now the wives will join them .... that's all (ye kya😕..mein ne toh aisa kabhi nahi chaha 😭..i've never said that women should hop from one bed to another.😳. )

Originally posted by: jojo_100

remember Bill Clinton ..why bechara Bill went after monica? ..ever thougth about that? ..let me enlighten you .. coz of old hilary )

Do you honestly feel Hilary gives a damn about what Bill does with other women? he was always a womanizer and will stay a womanizer... What makes you think that this lady is thinking about her age 24/7? She can get men half of Bill's age . Do you really want me to believe if Hilary was 10 years younger … it would not have happened.(hmm..i am 80% sure that it would not have happened...This Hilly/Billy lovestory has reminded me that only love ,compatability , respect ,etc cannot save a marriage ... a younger wife is also not a guarantee😭 ,but it certainly is a kind of safety precaution👏....so the bottom line is nobody knows the formula of a succesful marriage..its the kismat that decides 😃)…

OK Jojo😛.... we are not going anywhere it seems with this topic😛..... as long as we agree to disagree that's fine😛. Personally I prefer about 4-6 yrs. age gap .... but depending on the personalities of the couple I have seen ...(-2 to +10) works too.

I have seen many couples with different age gaps .... no one formula works for every one .... that is why I always think go for the one whom you feel attracted to ..... at the end if nothing works .... you will have some cherished memory at least .... and the satisfaction that whatever happened it happened at your own terms 😛.....

I have just watched the new movie "UmraoJaan" 😭 .... we women have come a long way 👏 .... we have more choices in life than ever before 👏 .... our previous generations earned it .... and almost handed it over to us .... Every day when I see the abuse of this freedom .... I feel ... is this what our previous generation fought for? 😕