Archana proved be a better mom

If we look at both Sia and Astha, it seems the love, care and understanding Sia has is not even comparable with Astha.

Every child has its own personality they are born with but the values are given by family and parent. And there is no argument that Mom plays a very important role.

Simran was always busy, she never had time for Astha, even with little(Astha) we saw she was always depending on nanny. She spoiled her and never let her get mature. Astha failed overe and over but she was always its ok Asthu there is next time😡

Archana had spent so much time that Sia is not spoilt like Astha and more mature.

Simran has not given importance to getting her child indpendent and mature. She has give her a lot of love, but did not stress on discipline.
Being a working mother, I feel that it is very difficult to spend a lot of time with my kids, and I often feel that I am becoming a whipmaster when I start to stress on the things that need to get done in a certain manner. But if I want my kids to be a independent, I need to do this. If I think that my kids will learn this later in life... I am kidding myself and will be looking at kids that let their tempers fly and think that they can get away with that.
We do not know if Archana was a working mother or a stay at home mother... I would say that the style of bringing up were different and that Simran's style has more flaws.

Archana proved to be a good mom and Simran failed as a mom. Because Simran has never been a confident person in her personal life or may be over confident.

I hope now she realizes her mistake and fixes it although it's too late and things are out of her control.

We were not shown Sia's growing up with Archana, but we can safely assume that she was working, as her husband had deserted her and she was living with her mom.

She has not only taught her good values but also Hindi (you rarely see Sia speak English).

This is perhaps Sinha's perception of working mothers in India and the developed countries. The question is, was Sia's nani also working? Being a small household, we can assume that Archana's income would have been sufficient, and there nani was not. Therefore I think the credit for bringing up Sia should go to nani too.

Compare the nanu, dada-dadi of Aastha. We know that didi is a reformed MIL. Dada is henpecked, and nanu is totally beholden to his daughter Simran. So Simran is always right, and nobody could go against her. So Astha grew up as she liked, whimsical, carefree and utterly selfish.

So, is Simran really a super-mom?

Originally posted by: vvrsun

So, is Simran really a super-mom?

I don't recall anybody calling her a super mom... she is a mom, thats all and everybody style of bringing up is different. Every child needs a different way of handling things.

Simran to me a woman who has endured hardships and has her own flaws and that to me is more realistic than any of the devis that you see in the Kk serials.

Originally posted by: vvrsun

Being a small household, we can assume that Archana's income would have been sufficient, and there nani was not.

hmmmm - well fwiw, as i live in london i know that the house they had was a mansion - costs like a million pounds - so archana and her mum have been rich....but i'm not convinced the makers of astitva want us to draw any of these conclusions....

Originally posted by: innocentindian

hmmmm - well fwiw, as i live in london i know that the house they had was a mansion - costs like a million pounds - so archana and her mum have been rich....but i'm not convinced the makers of astitva want us to draw any of these conclusions....

By which you imply that Archana and her mother didn't have to work, ergo they gave full attention to raising Sia.

And Simran being a working mom, thought that letting Aastha have her way was love, and good upbringing.

By 'small household', I meant only a 3-member family. Sorry for not being clearer 😳

Interesting. I'd say that Nani and Archana both worked, given their demeanor, the way they dressed, and the fact that their home was decorated in an up-to-date manner
We rarely see on Indian soaps women working, so I think it's left for us to guess...
Sadly, Archana looks like she's done a good job, or if she's left Sia to raise herself, Sia's done well as well.

I don't think the fact that Sia speaks English or doesn't is a factor...as its a Hindi Soap, and no Hindi Soaps show too much English - Think Kyunki - Gomzie speaks Hindi but was raised in Aussie...:)

The director might be trying to show some "genetic" influence, not just social and environmental. He's shown Simran in a certain light and now Sia despite being raised else where has similarities to the character sketch he has given Simran all along. Whereas Astha is more like her mom Neha and her Nani. And despite everyone at this moment trying to work around her issues, the director is drawing amazing similaries between the characters of Neha, Astha and the Nani.
Just a thought.

"It is the crack in us that lets the light in"

Well one thing to remember, kids growing up abroad are more independent and mature at a very early age. The life style here is quite different. I have nieces and nephews of Sia's age and they can all identify with Sia. In India parents are more protective and also not so open about their relationships. Here in West it is an open society and so kids and parents do now a lot of personal details about each other. In India parents would demand everypersonal details of thier kids but would not share their past if their is something shoddy about it. This does affect their relationships when the kids grow older and they know the truth through external sources. How many parent would tell their children back home to their kids that they adopted him/her, if the child was adopted at a very young age? Here in the US they call "my satep son" or my step daughter". I was quite amused by this initially. But while watching this serial I think even though it sounds rude, it is still realistic.