Gender Bias is there! let it be a modern set up or a rural one! In rural set up, it's in raw traditional form and in modern set up, it's in twisted complicated form! I belong to Haryana! Here female foeticide is one sad truth! In desire of a son, people keep on aborting females in womb! Modern people keep themselves clean by saying "it's all because of rural population that this state is so defame!" But reality is "urban Haryana has more gender dis-balance!" Nursing homes by female doctors are secret butcher shops where female embryos are killed with the consent of females by females! Discrimination starts here!
I agree with many here how a mother is asked continuously about having two or three female kids! We are two daughters! My mother had faced those suggestions of having one more try, sympathies for not having a son and so on! She had to be a strong and blunt one in order to keep us away from any kind of inferiority! As a kid, I failed to understand those suggestions by other relatives and my mother's rude answers to them! Now I understand she was being protective! Her simple logic "we wanted two kids and we have them!" used to seem bouncer for those narrow minds! My parents have set example for many by raising their girls in most amazing way! Now if some lady in our relatives has a second girl child, she doesn't get upset or afraid but says "I wanna raise them like my parent raised us!" It felt good that suggestions and sympathies to mother of two or more girls are now declining because she doesn't take them!
In schools, Gender bias comes more viciously! Types of games allotted to boys and girls, types of hobby classes assigned to boys and girls, constant reminders that you are a girl and you shouldn't get involve in a fight with boy, these seems norms but they are the foundation of your future complexes! A girl is advised to play badminton or many indoor games! Hobby classes for girls are "dances, singing, knitting, sift toys making and so on!"
Girls don't play cricket! that's what my friends told me in class-11! I asked why?! They said because its a boy game! They like it and see their brothers play it but they can't play it! I in my stubbornness got permission from school P.T. that can we use cricket kit! We were in ground playing cricket! And my friends were shy enough to run, catch or dive for a bowl! Reason was "boys are laughing on them as they are amateurs in this game and above of that they are girls!" Here their actual interests are overlapped by feminine definition! After a certain age, restriction on wearing skirts and compelled "salwar-suit" as dress code in schools! this what makes a female feel inferior! Her feminine body structure is defined as a curse on them! She is timely reminded about how she should walk, talk and live! She herself starts believing all these right for her! here society decides for her! And that's how she never tries to know what she wants! Of course exceptions are here! 😳
Gender bias is at fancy peak when you starts earning! I belong to corporate world! Despite of giving a fab interview, I didn't get select as it was a marketing job and boys are more suitable for it! Then Why they have interviewed girls at first place! Choosing "HR" a field is declared as "right choice" as its a safe field for girls! Why? Can't it just be their interest?! Judgments and suggestions are always imposed on girls!
Once girl is done with studies, next task is marriage! people start suggesting boys to girls parents! Every decision is taken by this society! Few Parents let their girls decide what they want to do! Rest are just blind followers of society norms!
I hate marriages! Why? because a girl is supposed to leave her parents after it! She has to settle in boy's house and norms! Forming, storming, norming and performing start all over!
Parents who have raised their little angels with so much love and care, become empty handed with such lame rule of society! Everybody just keep following these stupid rules but nobody will ever try to change it! Not every human is same. not every situation is same then how come same rule is applicable on all! Why a family is not strong enough to decide for them! Why society which doesn't even exist if you can see clearly directs you!?!
Change is everywhere but not here!
One more thing which I hate is "girls self made fine lines of discrimination". Pay attention to me because I am a girl! be courteous to me because I am girl! You can't talk to me like this because I am girl! I can slap you because I am girl!
I am a girl! Why this line is so imprinted in our minds! We are humans! Girls and boys are later classification! If you can't consider yourself anything other than girl, then how can you expect others to see you in fair frame!?!
I am not weak because I too have everything you get! Don't talk to me like this as I won't take it! If you are not paying attention to me then it hurts but its fine! Shouldn't these be reasoning!?!
I know many girls who use their female status as weapon! Using this weapon is so often! Here we make problem for those females who lives as humans but not girls! Our tears are considered as weakness of girls rather than pain release! Human cries not only girls cry!
With help of all above, a girl end up trying to live someone else rather than her life! She tries to be strong, pretend to be someone else, try to impress everyone, try to keep happy everyone and end up as hollow heart! A life which ends as "someone else". she didn't live it to fullest because she was just repelling and opposing everything which people generalize about her gender!
I salute those "who lives and lives it in their way". Girls are not accountable and answerable for being girls! They are just accountable to themselves and human life! They need not to answer judgments!
All I want is one class "Humans"!
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