you think strict parenting is abusive ?

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Anupama

@beforesunrise

Voyager

Posted: 13 years ago

Recently heard of a case where Indian parents got arrested for yelling on their child in Norway

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I don't the whole true story but yes this is true indian parents are little tough and pushy but then if they will not teach us discipline then who will ???

Yes ,their method is wrong but not the intention ...I myself as a child hated such parenting but now i think if my parents were not strict on me then i would have not be this good with my life as i am now ...

and i know my friends too whose parents were not that hard like mine and they too turned out as good as me ...but whom to blame, our parents ?? i can guarantee 98 % parents hurt their child emotionally but unintentionally but if you see they are like this because they were also brought up in such manner so they apply same trick on us to make us like them ...

what you think how can we change parenting skill ...and how many of you are in favor of indian parenting skill ??

I personally think a little harshness is always needed but not in the amount that will damage your child's esteem for lifetime

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return_to_hades

@return_to_hades

Stunner

+ 6

Posted: 13 years ago

Forget yelling. Children these days need a good whipping on their bottoms. People are growing too soft.

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_Angie_

@_Angie_

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Posted: 13 years ago

The charges seem to be of a more serious nature than initially reported. -

CNN-IBN :

"The charges against the Indian couple are from 2007 to March 2012. They are accused of burning their son with hot spoon or metal object and also hitting him with a belt. This kind of disciplinary action is not allowed in Norway," Lir, head of prosecution, Oslo police, said.

An Oslo court is set to rule on the couple on Tuesday. The prosecution has asked for a 15-month jail term for the mother and an 18-month jail term for the father.

https://ibnlive.in.com/news/norway-child-abuse-case-indian-couple-burnt-hit-son-with-belt-say-oslo-police/308663-2.html

If the above report is indeed true then its the parents who need the "whipping" with some serious counselling !

Edited by _Angie_ - 13 years ago

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return_to_hades

@return_to_hades

Stunner

+ 6

Posted: 13 years ago

^^

Well if that is the case then I agree the parent's need some strict disciple. But yelling, an occasional smack etc is not abuse. Parents have to be very strict to ensure their kids don't get into trouble. Kids may not like it and may cry over it, but it is the best.

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Anupama

@beforesunrise

Voyager

Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: _Angie_

The charges seem to be of a more serious nature than initially reported. -

CNN-IBN :
"The charges against the Indian couple are from 2007 to March 2012. They are accused of burning their son with hot spoon or metal object and also hitting him with a belt. This kind of disciplinary action is not allowed in Norway," Lir, head of prosecution, Oslo police, said.
An Oslo court is set to rule on the couple on Tuesday. The prosecution has asked for a 15-month jail term for the mother and an 18-month jail term for the father.
https://ibnlive.in.com/news/norway-child-abuse-case-indian-couple-burnt-hit-son-with-belt-say-oslo-police/308663-2.html

If the above report is indeed true then its the parents who need the "whipping" with some serious counselling !

if this is the case then they deserved it ...but sometimes scene is otherwise

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_Angie_

@_Angie_

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Posted: 13 years ago

Agreed that children need to be disciplined from time to time till they are old enough to make their own decisions. A firm handling should do without giving in to any tantrums that might follow. Consistency has to be maintained while disciplining so that the message gets through loud and clear. Once they realize that throwing tantrums does not get yield any result they will fall in line. A light smack on a rare occasion may be justified but should not become a norm. One has to be firm but shouldn't be losing ones own temper and control in the process.

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_Angie_

@_Angie_

Rocker

Posted: 13 years ago

Sometimes parents get too predictable and scenes such as these can occur :))

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Udhay only

@Udhay

Stunner

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Posted: 13 years ago

I agree that Parents need to be a little strict with their children. But taunting, emotionally torturing them too much is highly unacceptable! I'm a victim. My dad used to constantly pester me in the name of being strict for my welfare.! I know he loves me and I'm a good person now but that constant emotional pain I had underwent has resulted in me suffering from self-esteem issues, which I'm trying to overcome now. In the present scenario, I can only see kids who are over-pampered! (around me, atleast) A little bit of strictness will be good anyways.!

Edited by --Udhay-- - 13 years ago

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Believe

@-Believe-

Stunner

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Posted: 13 years ago

The moment we are born, conditioning starts..diff type of conditioning...Kids r so innocent that it is impossible for them to be formal...thy r careful watchers, observers of what is happening around...normaly we all go on forcing children to go to sleep when we think it is time..Bt sleep is not to be manipulated by time... sleep is something inner...if we force again then s/he can pretend... so when you are there he can close the eyes and when u have gone s/he can open the eyes..If you don't feel sleepy how can you go to sleep?...the child feels sleepy s/he will go to sleep...let them free...enjoy...Don't try to make a child old before s/he is old.. don't crush thm...the bad thing about having kids is that they are all morning people. But...Be nice to your kids & DON'T hit or scold kids, NO- seriously... they have diff types of weapons now!!!😊

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Kankshita

@thegameison

Stunner

+ 4

Posted: 13 years ago

#10

Abuse happens when the parents are mentally unfit to bring up the kids they've produced. It's as simple as that.

Strict parenting involves curfews, deadlines, no-more-pocket-money, 'off to bed at sharp ten', time-outs when you quarrel with your sibling and grounding, that kinda stuff. Very few Indian parents follow all this. For them, strict is smacking their kids' buttocks occasionally or if they get outta hands, across the face. But it is indeed sad that sometimes something so trivial has a bad effect on the child's psychology.

But as it is, strict parenting isn't abusive. Abusive is when the parent slices their kids' legs off because they stole some mangoes from the garden and ran away. 😳

Edited by Savage - 13 years ago

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