Why were Palak fearlessly honest and Ansh dishonest when P was introduced to the family? When Palak and Ansh wiped out SP's safe ' Ansh was the one who voiced the opinion it was wrong while Palak felt it was OK as long as they explain their reasons, why so?
These questions were discussed by Samana in an earlier post and here I am getting back a day later to the questions previously addressed by her.
In my POV although we humans have some instinctive fear responses - choosing to be honest is a learned response. Children do not know how to make choices - so from whom do they learn? The primary way children learn is by mimicking those caring for them - their parents, teachers, family members and others with whom we entrust them. They are imitating from the time they are infants. They learn from what we do and what we say and if there is inconsistency between the two they may learn a different lesson than that intended. They learn to process and understand consequences when we let them explore, explain things within their context of relevance (including story telling), and more importantly listen to them! When I say explore I mean given freedom to dream, touch, pretend, feel, and most importantly to construct - build their ideas and develop roots or a sense of connection (physically and emotionally) to the world around them. Although parents/caregivers make all decisions for their infants the decision making power is gradually-n-eventually transferred to the children through the choices that the parent/caregiver encourage the kids to make.
So coming to the Ansh-n-Palak scenario. Both have been raised to recognize right versus wrong (read honesty versus dishonesty) but unfortunately their nurturing environment has been different. All members of the Scindhiya parivaar (for the most part) foster honesty, uprightness, freedom of expression, and most importantly do as you say (recollect their penchant for vaadas and vachans). So Palak has had a consistent nurturing environment. So she has been consistent in her behavior - in that she was honest re: P and was confident she could explain her act of taking the money from SP's safe for a valid cause (she has been encouraged to do things for a valid cause - we saw Yash imbuing the same in Ansh when he explained the moral of the story during the car ride after his vaccination).
Ansh on the other hand has seen inconsistency. The Dupeys and P have not been good models to imitate - they do not do as they say (they say honesty is good but lie glibly, example his stomach ache, P is not my son but yet calls senior Dupey Bauji, etc.). In addition the (Dupeys and P) encourage his lying behavior (example indulgent smile and nod when he went along with them in not revealing the truth to Aarti) - witnessed particularly by concocting the fairy story to prevent him from blabbering out the truth. However what is very interesting is that Ansh is facing an internal conflict. When P entered SM, Ansh could not be his natural self with respect to telling the truth and acknowledging P - his behavior indicated that he is having a problem. He was silent, embarrassed, and the joy of Diwali was suddenly extinguished for him. He neither ran to his favorite uncle, his bade papa, or his bade mumma. He saw his mother hesitate to articulate the truth and totally fail in blurting it out; perhaps this is the first time he witnessed his Mumma not do what she says is the right thing to do. He saw his Mumma unhappy, in pain, and stressed out. He intuitively picked up her conflict and in my POV he is conflicted too and does not know how to behave. This is the reason for his silence/dishonesty re: knowing P and not the fear of consequences. For sure, he is not feeling good about himself and his response. But whether he will open up and talk to his papa about what is bothering him is something to be seen! CVs if you are reading this post - please make Ansh open up to his papa and redeem his self-esteem.
Note: This is my last big write-up for this week end guys. Given all the writing that I have done - I may just take a break next week!
Edited by anonee - 12 years ago
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